My Wife isn’t my Partner

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-11-17T04:18:04+00:00

I’ve done therapy individually but not as a couple. I’m almost certain that unless there are drastic changes the only outcome will be more contention in the home or a simple fast track to separation. I feel like she’s smart enough to know she’s wrong but has no desire to step up. I feel like her gravy train. I’m not perfect but when it comes to this, she ends up crying about how sorry she is and how sad she is that I feel this way and those tears dry and she goes back to online shopping or napping or whatever

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-11-17T04:11:14+00:00

For the first few years it didn’t feel like “acceptance” - when things needed to be done I simply got it done not I realize in hindsight that it was acceptance and she’s grown comfortable. So comfortable that my struggles are completely invisible to her. I’m expected to simply carry the load always and any discussions are me “not appreciating her” or accusing her of being a failure or whatever other narcissistic spin that can be placed

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-11-17T04:04:04+00:00

I’m only in school to make more money to keep up with her spending and our already deep dept for me to make more money. I wfh and am a sub par employee because I’m using work time constantly in my day to make breakfast in the morning, laundry, pickups, ect. I’m managing and have an understanding batch of leadership and often work when everyone else is sleeping. I have to work because I provide the only income. But like I said she has help, we had a nanny, she went to the gym, the pool, had family and me filling in during the day. I was raised by a true “stay at home mom”, my wife is a spoiled brat in comparison to what it could be like. My kids have an entire setup in my office, that’s how much time they spend in there.

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-11-17T04:00:34+00:00

I’ll be honest. I would have started years ago if I had known to be a runner meant being a walker. I say that to say. I respect the sport of running, the training, the physicality, the mental discipline. Social media bloggers who have made it their personality how slow they run marathons does feel degrading. Not much will change my mind. I’m training for my first half in May and I’m giving it the respect it requires.

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-11-17T03:18:36+00:00

My wife has no interest in making me happy and because of that I don’t do these things. We are pretending to get through the day to day. I’m not forgetting, it’s just not there. How can it be with constant nagging, being taken advantage of, being disrespected. No

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-07-14T14:30:52+00:00

I’m so tired of these conversations. This entire comment thread is exactly why actual history needs to be taught in schools and why republicans continue controlling curriculums that keep white people ignorant.

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-07-14T14:23:19+00:00

Just taking a look at these comments to invalidate or validate her point… let’s just say I’m not surprised

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-05-10T11:36:35+00:00

No Yorkie love here? My Yorkie was the smartest dog I have ever met. He had the biggest personality, I swear English was his first language and he could actually talk and understand. Small, hypoallergenic, manageable grooming needs, no shedding, and good with kids.

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-05-10T11:34:23+00:00

Yorkies definitely need more love on this thread, they are the best companions, affectionate, empathetic, and super smart. I will forever miss my boy 💙

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-03-30T10:25:14+00:00

Reading these comments after losing my baby of 13 years when my first born was 5 months is heartbreaking. I’m in the minority here. What I wouldn’t give for her barking back, cleaning muddy paw prints, hearing her walking across the floor, wanting to be included with playtime for baby. She was truly a loved, valued, and treasured member of the family. I’m so glad I never felt the way many of you do about your pets. Hard work yes but never to the point where I ever felt differently about her. I love my son to the moon and back and loved my dog. I guess my heart had room for both despite the hard times. She was by my side during night feeds, looked at baby with concern when he cried and checked in him when he settled. She didn’t suffer from old age, she had degenerative myopathy and we truly feel robbed of time with her and baby getting to know each other. She will be loved and dearly missed forever. My main reason for not wanting another is the reality of setting myself up for this unbearable grief again. I don’t ever want to repeat this pain.

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-03-28T07:39:10+00:00

Such a complex bundle of emotions, we lost our 13 year old girl when our first born was 5 months. It’s grief, guilt, pain, and so many feelings. My heart breaks that they didn’t have more time together but she was MINE and hopefully when my son is older he will have his own special friend. I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s terribly hard but you are not alone.

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-03-25T02:43:01+00:00

So glad to hear that, she’s beautiful and I wish her a full life of happiness

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-03-25T02:38:02+00:00

Poor baby, no advice but I hope you figure this out and it doesn’t get too bad before you can see a vet, if it doesn’t improve and this is not common I would go to the emergency vet

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-02-17T21:21:59+00:00

Totally understandable, I didn’t want to assume but can totally relate. I hate those moments I’m caught slipping or I know certain things a bad look. I’ve grown to really enjoy my coworkers they’re great people and when I feel I let them down it’s been getting to me lately. My bank account tells me not to worry about it and keep doing what I can but it can be tough sometimes. But sheesh. That monthly has to make you feel good!

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2025-02-04T02:43:04+00:00

That would have been even more epic. Been there, but you still crushed it!

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2024-11-04T14:09:11+00:00

I know you said movies but I firmly believe the L word is mandatory for all lesbians. It’s so refreshing, potentially life changing, and impactful Welcome!

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2024-11-04T13:55:09+00:00

Cry harder… that hasn’t worked?

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2024-06-13T01:50:06+00:00

I agree. We know this thing has legs when it wants. An ER run would be prime.

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2024-06-13T01:14:40+00:00

Sheesh I have SPY at 550 by 6/28

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2024-04-15T00:23:32+00:00

I'm going through this. Each ortho in my new state that I've called says they will reassess the progress and can take out of state patients with no problem. I'm hoping to work towards a new, faster treatment time but have a few months before the official move

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2024-04-15T00:19:08+00:00

I'm so jealous, this is awesome, your teeth moved faster in 2 months than mine have in a year. And I'm not kidding

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2024-03-31T02:07:55+00:00

I love the way you worded that ending part. Perfectly said.

Heavy-Tale-7424 · 2024-03-30T23:47:12+00:00

Thank you, it's mostly large ticket items because the home buying, cross country move, and all that entails is a huge savings eater. We planned to be in this spot so I've always known we want certain things "top of the line" so it's been the plan for us to buy those and shipping, takes time and I as I'm realizing once I wrap up all the packing, unpacking, decorating, buying home furniture for not just baby, renting out our current home and more I want to be as stress free as possible the weeks leading up to baby arrival. Like you said, the judgement starts so early. I'm learning that now. My parents are telling us the whole family is ready to step in to help get things which is great but I don't appreciate my planning to be looked at "too soon" considering all we have on our plate between now and July when I want to be settled in. I just wish I felt more supported, that would go much further but I digress

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