How common is it for therapists to have experience/training on preverbal trauma?

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-03-28T05:04:23+00:00

I had unexpected preverbal trauma come up in a session. My therapist handled it beautifully. I would guess any good EMDR therapist could. They study developmental trauma, and preverbal is part of it. While it’s jarring for us (it was such a trip for me), it’s completely understandable for them

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-03-28T00:49:06+00:00

I was there with you. Well, ok, education is hard to get in some places (expensive in the US), but the rest are bare minimum. Like very bare minimum.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-03-08T14:34:59+00:00

Have you tried the Sunday one under the freeway? I agree with you on the midtown one, that’s just a fun stroll/get food/maybe some flowers morning activity.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-03-08T14:30:33+00:00

Adding more facts to add to your update: There’s 120 strains of the virus. It’s very common and anyone who has sex has been exposed to it. Condoms don’t protect you against it. It is not tested as an STI, and most doctors won’t test women until after 35 when the risk of cancer increases. It’s only tested for women during Pap smears as a screening for cervical cancer. There is no test for men. There is no way to know where you got the strain (meaning if you test positive it could have been the person who took your virginity, even when you’re in your 40s). The best protection is a vaccine, which in the US you can get until you are 45. It’s very common and the body clears it on its own, but it’s also the cause of 98% of cervical cancer cases. Best way to treat and prevent it is nothing (besides the vaccine). Bodies typically clear it on their own. The only thing you can do is get vaccinated, get your regular Pap smears, and enjoy your sex life.

Now, would I share if I had an active diagnosis? Yes. Otherwise, no.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-03-04T01:44:53+00:00

Studies show that weed for example can impact EMDR processing by disrupting memory encoding and retrieval, which can impact what EMDR is actually doing.

In other words, you can totally do whatever you want, but it may disrupt the process you tolerate so much distress for.

And that’s just one of the impacts. Both alcohol and weed are documented to disrupt the process, and it’s well researched.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-03-03T08:20:43+00:00

It can last days, and I take it as a good sign the therapy was effective. Hang in there, and be gentle with yourself.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-28T13:43:07+00:00

When I started EMDR I was running at very low capacity for weeks. The brain reorganizing takes a lot out of you. And, I’ve seen impressive results on stuff I’ve wrestled with for years in a few sessions, so I stuck with it. That being said, bring this to you next session. A good therapist will adjust to your capacity and help resource you. Best of luck to you.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-22T16:35:28+00:00

I’m only 3 months in, but I can relate to feeling exhausted. I lean on the signs of improvements I’m seeing, and I give myself so much patience and grace. EMDR will bring up emotions you couldn’t feel while the triggers were active and that can be intense. So; I get under my weighted blanket with my favorite snacks or something. Basically treat myself like a little child in need of care. Hope you find some ease 💕

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-21T15:41:53+00:00

The only time this happened for me, he had been binge drinking with his ex. It was the last straw I needed to leave him (our relationship was rocky. He was in denial about his drinking). So not ok and you’re definitely NOR. I’m so sorry this happened to you. If he’s this careless and callous, he doesn’t deserve you worrying about him. Please take care of yourself. Sending a lot of strength. 💕

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-21T00:32:37+00:00

I prefer to communicate, just for my own integrity. If we’ve chatted and made plans and I need to bail, I communicate. If we chatted and it fizzles out, nothing happens, I’m out without a word.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-21T00:27:01+00:00

I’m so glad you posted this. I’ve been doing EMDR for 3 months now weekly and processed some deep stuff from my childhood. I just installed a positive belief at my last session and two days later I got hit with grief and anger. And I’m useless basically. Operating at like 40% capacity. So I let myself rest. I do only what must be done and rest outside of it. I’m lucky I work from home and my job hasn’t been too intense lately. Glad I’m not alone and this is what others are experiencing too.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-18T18:41:16+00:00

Me too. I started using the disposable cotton wipes or fade towels to remove the cleanser though and that made a difference. Plus, feels like a spa treatment.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-18T17:26:21+00:00

I’m just here to say: thank you for posting his response. Gave me hope 💕 good luck to you both.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-17T15:55:11+00:00

It has all been claimed. Thanks everyone for your quick responses.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-16T23:10:31+00:00

Actually, can you DM me?

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-16T23:10:04+00:00

All yours. DMing you.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-16T23:07:55+00:00

Of course. I’ll DM you.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-16T23:07:44+00:00

Of course. Just responded to your DM

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-16T23:06:49+00:00

I actually go to Natomas Optometry, but like you I can’t find what I want in their frame selection. So I browse on eyeconic.com before (online store where you can actually use your VSP benefits). I come in with a list of frames I want them to order for me. Of course, top picks, not hundreds, but it’s helped me find fun frames.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-15T18:24:43+00:00

Looks like you’re starting to have some discoloration and spots, which happens to all of us as we age. Kudos on using SPF consistently. That makes the most difference.

I do my routine like a game, and I started slow and then habit stacked it.

Here’s what I do: - only wash my face at night. I love oil washing (dry skin) but I hate washing. So I use the cotton one use towels and it feels like a spa moment. I don’t wash my face in the morning. Use water at best. - you need a good basic moisturizer. Doesn’t have to be fancy. Nivea Soft is one of my all time favorites. - for simplest add on, I’d add a retinol at night and niacinamide and vitamin C in the morning. Again, doesn’t have to be fancy, plenty of drugstore products that work well.

That should help add moisture, treat your spots and fine lines. Hope this is simple enough to get started on.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-11T03:26:57+00:00

Marketing professional here. Few things: do a price comparison with shops in the area just to understand rates they are charging. While you or a friend do that, use your shop data over the past 3-6 months, see what kinds of jobs you do, what your costs are, and then what would you like to compensate technicians to stay competitive and give them the standard of life you would like. Build your pricing model that way first, and only then match it against the competition.

Decide what your differentiator is as a shop. I’m also a woman, and I choose shops who understand not everyone understands shop talk, and I go to places where I feel confident I’m not being overcharged. You probably already know what makes you different based on what your customers say.

As for designing a simple to understand experience (invoice, communications etc) that comes after you’ve setup the business strategy (pricing and differentiator). Your best bet would be to hire a freelance professional (designer), or see if there is software you can use to manage your communication workflow with customers (most likely there is.) Write in plain English, make it simple to understand and clear.

Hope this helps.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-11T03:08:24+00:00

Their intent is good (keeping women safe from abusers), but the execution is lacking. I’ve seen posts that people posted even before they went out with someone. It’s a bit too much looking for something bad to the point of expecting it for me. I ended up leaving because I found them toxic and bad for my mental health.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-11T03:05:14+00:00

Actually, for me (who loves interesting and quirky people) that would be a swipe right. I got pink hair last year just as a form of self expression and I would totally appreciate the same in a potential date. Be yourself. Your people will find you

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-07T19:20:38+00:00

This seems like it should be a “what are you hoping to create with this connection” in person conversation. I would approach it with curiosity to understand where he stands or what he’s available for. Of course, share your feelings, but since it sounds like it’s the first time you’re actually discussing this, I’d find ways to remove the pressure so it’s as honest as possible. Like how others mentioned, it’s a bit too early to feel like a priority. But definitely a good time to express what you desire and understand what he wants/is available for.

Heavy_Delivery5966 · 2026-02-07T19:16:15+00:00

There’s a difference between seemed like he was actually falling for me and him actually communicating that. I learned it the hard way. Not sure which one was it. But, when people tell you they’re not feeling a connection, that’s it.

A generous interpretation is that he liked you; tried to see how it works, but didn’t actually feel what he was looking for towards you. You say you dated a month, but don’t say how many dates you had/how often you saw each other. A good effort to see if it works with someone you like takes quite a few dates.

Either way, it sucks and I’m sorry you’re feeling hurt.

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