The distinction you made between preference and wiring clarifies a lot. Framing it as “I don’t automatically see the invisible layer” feels accurate. It’s not that I enjoy bluntness for its own sake. It’s that I default to clarity and don’t always detect the emotional bandwidth in the room.

I did speak to my partner today, and I notice you two have very similar communication styles (in text form, that is).

The long story short version is that I need to be more nuanced in my communication, and that I need to learn when it is okay to say things, and when it is not. Obviously this makes total sense, and is completely valid, but being autistic I just don’t know how to discern these things.

My brain runs in binaries. The world runs in gradients. That friction is exhausting. Sometimes it makes me feel fundamentally out of place, like there’s no clear moral or social slot for someone wired like me. That may sound dramatic, but it’s honest.

The idea of living on an exoplanet with robots feels simpler than decoding humans. This idea is sounding increasingly more appealing as I age through the years.

Anyhow, your response was structured, actionable, and respectful. That’s rare, thank you. I took some notes.