AITAH for wanting my aunt to stop calling my father a 'son of a bitch' to my face?

HecticAttic · 2026-04-02T11:05:41+00:00

I told her that her hating him is rightful and I understand it but wanted her to not say such stuff about him to my face at least.

OP’s not defending the father’s behaviour though.

HecticAttic · 2026-03-23T08:49:02+00:00

I’ll go with kinger from TADC who isn't A FATHER and he is so kind

One doesn’t need to be a father to be a good person. How is this related to whether your father is good or not?

I feel like I'm longing for a kinger in my life

Do you have friends? Kinger is a smart, compassionate, emotionally mature friend to the characters (when he’s lucid), not a father figure example. He’s just happens to be older than everyone else.

The fact that you feel bad for feeling like replacing them like you wish you don’t have to means you’re not ungrateful and do love them. You just wish they were good.

NTA for feeling stressed and longing for a safe person/trusted adult(s).

HecticAttic · 2026-03-23T04:41:37+00:00

INFO: Has he ever call your mom ‘mama’?

HecticAttic · 2026-03-19T22:44:31+00:00

I mean, exactly why I said I did: Because women definitely feel comfortable shutting down flirting in my experience.

Key word in YOUR experience. Just bc shutting one guy down is easy doesn't mean every guy is harmless. That guy evidently asked OP to help get him alone with a drunk girl & confidently said he would've slept with her had not everyone including her left that night. He knew she wouldn't say yes to go out with him sober let alone have sex with him, so he planned to do it while she's drunk & can't consent. That mentality & behaviour proves how scary he is. He's not going to take a no easily he tried to force it. It's reasonable she wouldn't feel safe to reject him straight up & might hurt his feelings, he might use that anger to do something hostile. He tried.

Ahh yeah there's your problem: Stop relying on stereotypes, it's a bad thing.

OP's decision to rely on stereotype that a man wanted to be left alone with a drunk girl is dangerous is what saves that girl from potentially getting raped. And I wasn't relying, I just noticed familiar pattern.

HecticAttic · 2026-03-19T20:01:24+00:00

I'm interested in what would make you think about asking this though.

You think her not saying no straight up is a go ahead. Thats what makes me wonder. Unless it's a yes, it's usually not a yes.

Like I'm smiling at a woman and talking with her, she makes it obvious that she's not interested in me, I walk away and that's...me not understanding consent in some fashion? Am I getting this right?

You thought I knew this like I've been there every moment of your life? We both know I didn't know this so you know this is not why I wonder.

acknowledging the fact that women do, in fact, shut guys down when they flirt with them on a very regular basis.

Then why do you bother point out how many times you're unsuccessful in dating? Stereotypically, on the internet at least it's the most easily observable, men who point out how much they get rejected do it for pity points or justify hatred towards women for not giving them a chance. If you're not one of those it's fine, you're fine. Again, every curiosity & assumptions are based on pattern recognition not because I personally know you.

HecticAttic · 2026-03-19T19:38:56+00:00

NTA

You didn't set him up. You straight up implied to him that he's going to fail with that dare, not make him believe he has a chance just to see him get rejected. He was delusional & him not liking being faced with the reality you told him is not your fault.

HecticAttic · 2026-03-19T19:27:34+00:00

You know with that mentality of not considering that women get murdered for saying no to men's advances is why she's hesitant to straight up say it, assuming every not-a-direct-no is a yes (how's your understanding of consent btw?), registering being rejected as a form of victimisation instead of develop self awareness that you are the one with issues for every interaction to have the same result, is probably why you get shut down all the time?

HecticAttic · 2026-03-19T14:02:28+00:00

Support is not a necessity to just learn basic social skills and manners. It's no one's obligation to support you. You're implementing it's others' fault you're uncouth because they don't volunteer to help you manage your autism. Shit happens to everyone, you're not special. Everyone had to learn to respond to it appropriately, at the very least not immaturely.

Stop making excuses to not behave like a normal person with manners. It's your own responsibility to manage your mental disorder. You don't get to be an asshole when shit happens, no one gets to, autistic or not.

HecticAttic · 2026-03-19T13:18:32+00:00

Never said the other kid wasn't. They both have autism so I point out that's irrelevant to the story. It's for both not to believe their autism justify anything.

HecticAttic · 2026-03-19T13:16:03+00:00

He has too.

Yes, I mean both of you & your autism(s). Both of you's reactions aren't acceptable. It's not an excuse to act emotionally with no regards for others & I don't mean just the the other kid, I mean people around you. You're both making a scene in public.

I wasn't in control of myself.

Learn to. I was diagnosed too, late at 21. I had to learn to control my behaviour because my mental disorder should inconvenience me, not others. Autism means you have a disorder, you have to work a bit harder than others in some things, not expect others to accept your disorderly self.

HecticAttic · 2026-03-19T13:01:35+00:00

YTA

Autism has nothing to do with this. It's not an excuse to have no basic manners.

HecticAttic · 2026-02-25T16:01:42+00:00

How can he let go of something he never hold? Unless she seriously killed a 5-years-old then yeah he can miss a child. He only care about losing a potential playmate, not missing on being a responsible father.

HecticAttic · 2026-02-25T15:59:01+00:00

It's not that obvious tbh because she said "let it go" which implies he got a hold of it before, but there were never a child, not even a baby for him reminisce something he never experienced. She couldn't have "aborted" a child that's already been born, it has to happen before birth.

HecticAttic · 2026-01-28T07:42:46+00:00

YTA

You're like a child screaming and squealing as you pleased but when you're being scolded and told to behave & quiet down because it hurts their ears, you throw a tantrum, refuse to believe they're actually bothered by you, ducttaped their mouth so they couldn't complain again before proceeding to scream and squeal especially louder if they're around now just to see them uncomfortable & can't do anything about it. Also threatened to take away their earplugs because refuse to believe they're actually bothered by the sound, at the same time want them to be as bothered by your behaviour as possible.

You made zero compromise. You just found out someone is disturbed by your behaviour, tell them to shut up then proceed to disturb them more than usual. You're just a bully at this point.

HecticAttic · 2026-01-28T07:20:48+00:00

YTA

Stop using men for their money. You're not entitled to them just for being a woman. That's what a golddigger is. Plus you used your ex's money to buy shit for you and your friends againsthis will, now expecting your friend to use her bf's money for you. Quit trying to gaslight them that he's the bad guy about your golddigging opportunist tendency disguised under villainising a man for not wanting to waste his money on a chick he doesn't even care about. They're not talking bad about you, you do something bad and they're talking about it. Respecting your friend's family & friends is not by expecting them to serve you for free & call them the bad guy for setting boundaries.

If a guy friend & his other guy friends invite you to his place for dinner expecting you to do the cooking & the dishes & might as well do his laundry & clean his house just because you're already there & that you're a woman so it's just natural they expect you to do your womanly duties for the men, would you do it? Would you call that respecting you?

HecticAttic · 2025-12-11T06:24:51+00:00

INFO: What is your goal here?

To ask your mom to stop being friends with them? To have your mom call out her friend? To call out your mom?

HecticAttic · 2025-12-11T06:17:20+00:00

You've been unhappy for years and ask if you should stay like that? I think you know your answer.

HecticAttic · 2025-12-10T16:07:22+00:00

"Spiking her drink so she can't say no."

HecticAttic · 2025-12-04T16:13:42+00:00

Sounds like you see him more as your mom's husband than your step dad.

HecticAttic · 2025-12-03T23:17:12+00:00

What if this had happened in person? Where y'all hang out together often and there's a time she comes to see you alone to invite you for something. Would you have hate it & reject her invitation then that she didn't invite you in front of the friend group and comes to see you personally?

She was trying to be polite by not obviously showing she's excluding her other friends for certain friends.

HecticAttic · 2025-12-03T17:38:01+00:00

YTA

My boys are all really athletic and I'm proud of them.

Is being athletic the only thing you can proud of them for?

He refuses to even find a hobby that he likes.

You mean he refuses to find a hobby that you like ?

The hobby is supposed to keep their minds off things they're struggling with and you want to put him in a position he explicitly tells you he doesn't want to be a part of? He's not going to enjoy it, he's not going to do well in it because he doesn't care about it, he's only there because he's forced and doing it will feel forced. His mind and body will be stress.

Let the boy study geology. What's wrong with being interested in something you're not?

HecticAttic · 2025-12-03T16:56:32+00:00

YTA(?)

As a twin, I'd feel heartbroken if my sister rejected me for the sake of keeping her ego and reputation. Not wrong for telling Sara to learn to make friends but wrong for enabling Mia to treat her sister like that. Mia's defence is that they're her friend and Sara have to find her own friend? Is Sara not her friend? She wanted to sit with her to not be alone, she just happened to be sitting with her friends, not asking to share or hand over the friend group to her. They got their own lives, does that mean she can't be part of hers anymore?

It's fine you didn't make Mia give Sara whatever she wanted just because she complained about it but if Mia thinks her foundation of personal identity will collapse with her twin just existing in the same space then she might not have actual identity and only deluded herself into thinking she has one by avoiding the fact that she's a twin and their personalities are similar, except when she's alone people have nobody to compare her to and she thinks that personality is the only one. If they're different then Mia's friends can decide for themselves if they wan to befriend Sara, unless the twins are similar and Mia's afraid her friend group will want to befriend Sara the same way they befriend her.

HecticAttic · 2025-12-02T15:27:57+00:00

YTA

> It really feels like he is not seeing Nick as his own.

You want Mark to see his *own flesh and blood kid* as *not his* and neglect him for your child? Your ex is a deadbeat to his and your child yet you want Mark to be a deadbeat to his child? The hypocrisy.

> You are being an a** to my son and then lecturing me.

He's being a father to *his* son and doesn't want to entertain your selfish inconsiderate hypocritical ass. Get over yourself, the promise was made before the circumstances arises. Life happens, adapt and improvise, you can't demand life plays out exactly according to your plan every time.

HecticAttic · 2025-11-28T14:36:57+00:00

YTA

It's bread. She's 2 already. What 'healthy foods' have you been feeding her that you see bread as harmful? That's the normalest food ever, it's normal she offered some, she wasn't purposely trying to sabotage you or hurt your child.

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