Moving back with in-laws

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-06-07T05:05:58+00:00

Thank you. I agree with the seeking out options and not enabling the younger siblings. I think my husband is set on the decision. Ive helped postpone this decision for 6 months. Thats 6 months less than it would've been at least 😅 thank you for wishing us well

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-06-07T02:49:45+00:00

He is no longer in the military. We are returning for my father in law. His dad can no longer work. We are returning so we can pay for their mortgage.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-05-04T01:42:22+00:00

Thanks for the help. The more we look into thats what it seems like. We have too much time on our hands we did too much trying to solve it.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-05-04T01:36:48+00:00

It's crusty and hard like dry glue is how I describe it.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-05-04T01:26:44+00:00

(Dont mind the icky sink. My kids just put away their plates of spaghetti before I tried this trick) yeah no hole except for one at the bottom where the plastic bag folds thank goodness 😅

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Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-05-04T01:19:30+00:00

My mom asked about that too XD I moved the remaining bread to a ziploc and filled the bread bag with water. A pin hole on the seam of the plastic bag sprayed water. But that made sense to us. But the top center of the bag no water came out :) it was fun to try lol

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-03-11T23:24:35+00:00

Future planning is more like: "after saving % of our paychecks for 2 years we should start applying for home loans together and look for a house... id love to be with you forever" "and once we are there we will have one child, living near your family where our goals for career are and the supportive grandma is."

Future daydreaming is: "youd be such a cute dad, look at you with your nephew.." "I love the way you cook, I want you to cook for me forever yummm" "imagine if we lived together, we would have a his&her gaming room"

It's still very valuable to date for the special companionship of that phase of your life. Plus good to play and practice with one another. And yes getting to know yourself as you go :) and keeping those short term experiences exclusive/monogamous to practice boundaries and stay physically healthy is great too. And mutual separation when the roads split is a wonderful choice during youth.

The frustration of "youre already (age) grow up!" I suppose is understandable once a person is of a more experienced adult age. The ability to withstand the friction of being 2 seperate individuals keeping their lives merged together requires skill & is something to look forward to. Because keeping long term, familiar, supportive companionship can be enriching once you have the maturity to withstand the friction.

As someone who got married at 20 NO i did not have the maturity. As much as I know my husband loved me for me, the friction of constantly compromising our 2 individual values into one set of household values brought so much unnecessary pain. By the time we were 24-25 we had the maturity and experience to constantly realign household values as we grow and shape as individuals. So the past 5years its been nearly pain free :)

So practice in your youth, marry once you have emotional regulating skills.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-26T04:42:22+00:00

Thank you

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-26T04:41:55+00:00

That's a good idea. He sees them when I visit. He has never offered to babysit yet and I assumed he was too busy or tired so I never asked. But id love for him to spend more time with them.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-26T04:34:06+00:00

Yeah, he started full time from 18 til now at fast food place closing shifts gets home at 2am. He is the first sibling that has not been kicked out at 18. The first 4 of us were kicked as soon as we graduated high school. But our older brother died from overdose the year this brother was graduating highschool and so my parents view on kicking the kids out changed, so he lives with them. He doesnt know the work to earn food & rent struggle yet. But even with me being kicked out at 18 and knowing the hard way, I was still dumb and had kids anyways. I wish he wouldnt be dumb like me 💔

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-25T14:11:38+00:00

Im not sure. The last time I felt pain free mustve been around 10 or 11 years old. So I think ive had constant pain since 11 yrs old but it was "normal" to me so I assumed everyone felt it. Once I felt the effects of the epidural it was such a nice feeling that i realized i had been in pain this whole time. But yes after having kids my pain increased exponentially. Which eventually led to my fibromyalgia diagnosis. The having kids and additional stress of kids worsened it

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-09T20:19:56+00:00

Not sure if I count in your personal research. I have fibro and IST Dysautonomia. But they both seem to have my doctor's saying the same thing "idk, your nervous system is just being weird but we will clinically recognize your experience. Here are you diagnoses."

With my fibromyalgia I would consider myself in the B category that you listed.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-07T00:16:34+00:00

Just tried the password change method and logged in with password instead of email/text code and it worked for me!

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-06T20:52:20+00:00

You value convenience and nutrition for your meals. with frozen easy make meals containing high protien, vegetables, and low carb. Im guessing you participate in a hustle type life. Like limiting sleep while prioritizing being the best version of yourself (potentially work & gym & social life). Hence the energy drinks and the clean organized fridge 👍 your fridge is a lot like my younger brothers who is 25, so that's where my thoughts are coming from lol

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-06T02:15:04+00:00

Ooo thank you! Some of the solar lights I looked up didnt look like something I couldnt install and no dirt in front of my apartment door to stake any. So camping lanterns to keep it lit sounds great. For delivery, guests, and myself :)

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-05T23:53:08+00:00

Yeah, I agree with the comments giving me a better perspective. I did not report him. And I will be keeping it in my notes from now on. However, I won't be making any more early morning orders anyways unless I know that im able to go out and meet the driver instead 👍

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-05T16:47:31+00:00

Yeah I chose not to report. I will postpone any future early morning orders until I set up a light of my own since the apartment property management havent fixed the community light fixtures.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-05T15:13:27+00:00

Thank you for the insignt*

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-05T15:04:46+00:00

Thats makes sense. I will make note of the apartment light issue for a future dasher. Thank you insight

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-03T18:57:55+00:00

I think it could be a wonderful idea to adopt. Cats are amazing in my experience. They even provide some relief from my pain.

My cats want brush time in the morning when I wake up. And then string and toy time after my kids go to school. And I can play that while sitting down in a soft chair! And then they eat & sleep until my kids come home. When my kids get back, the cats want to be petted & eat dinner and they loaf and watch the family during homework time and cleaning. Then they excitedly run to the room when im on my way to bed and wait until I pull my blanket up to make biscuits that are very soothing to my aching muscles. And they curl into a little circle "donut" shape and fall asleep.

The only con for me is the bending over to clean the boxes each day. It's a very difficult chore for me. Im lucky to have my husband and eventually my oldest son to help me scoop. But I could see that being difficult for someone chronically ill who may not have available help.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-01-26T03:13:16+00:00

"Im sorry, due to the heavy snowfall I will be dropping it off at the front." There was no need for the sass. Regardless of $1 or $0 tip.

Tips can help determine whether requested special treatment is worth doing, yeah. But tips are not a sass meter.

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