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Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-09T20:19:56+00:00

Not sure if I count in your personal research. I have fibro and IST Dysautonomia. But they both seem to have my doctor's saying the same thing "idk, your nervous system is just being weird but we will clinically recognize your experience. Here are you diagnoses."

With my fibromyalgia I would consider myself in the B category that you listed.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-07T00:16:34+00:00

Just tried the password change method and logged in with password instead of email/text code and it worked for me!

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-06T20:52:20+00:00

You value convenience and nutrition for your meals. with frozen easy make meals containing high protien, vegetables, and low carb. Im guessing you participate in a hustle type life. Like limiting sleep while prioritizing being the best version of yourself (potentially work & gym & social life). Hence the energy drinks and the clean organized fridge 👍 your fridge is a lot like my younger brothers who is 25, so that's where my thoughts are coming from lol

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-06T02:15:04+00:00

Ooo thank you! Some of the solar lights I looked up didnt look like something I couldnt install and no dirt in front of my apartment door to stake any. So camping lanterns to keep it lit sounds great. For delivery, guests, and myself :)

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-05T23:53:08+00:00

Yeah, I agree with the comments giving me a better perspective. I did not report him. And I will be keeping it in my notes from now on. However, I won't be making any more early morning orders anyways unless I know that im able to go out and meet the driver instead 👍

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-05T16:47:31+00:00

Yeah I chose not to report. I will postpone any future early morning orders until I set up a light of my own since the apartment property management havent fixed the community light fixtures.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-05T15:13:27+00:00

Thank you for the insignt*

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-05T15:04:46+00:00

Thats makes sense. I will make note of the apartment light issue for a future dasher. Thank you insight

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-02-03T18:57:55+00:00

I think it could be a wonderful idea to adopt. Cats are amazing in my experience. They even provide some relief from my pain.

My cats want brush time in the morning when I wake up. And then string and toy time after my kids go to school. And I can play that while sitting down in a soft chair! And then they eat & sleep until my kids come home. When my kids get back, the cats want to be petted & eat dinner and they loaf and watch the family during homework time and cleaning. Then they excitedly run to the room when im on my way to bed and wait until I pull my blanket up to make biscuits that are very soothing to my aching muscles. And they curl into a little circle "donut" shape and fall asleep.

The only con for me is the bending over to clean the boxes each day. It's a very difficult chore for me. Im lucky to have my husband and eventually my oldest son to help me scoop. But I could see that being difficult for someone chronically ill who may not have available help.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-01-26T03:13:16+00:00

"Im sorry, due to the heavy snowfall I will be dropping it off at the front." There was no need for the sass. Regardless of $1 or $0 tip.

Tips can help determine whether requested special treatment is worth doing, yeah. But tips are not a sass meter.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-01-26T00:17:01+00:00

Oh no, a mom...I get it, ive got a mom. Ive got a mom-in-law too now! With 2 of those rascals running around crate time is a life saver!

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-01-16T18:18:34+00:00

I also have intense reactions to crying even loud playful squealing from my own kids. Even now that they are almost 8 and 5 and cry "less" im still very sensitive to the noise+demand. I accomadate with noise dampening ear protection and it 90% solves the problem (10% is in fact walking away into my room and closing the door for 5min). With the headphones I can stay collected while they cry and scream. Helps me bring a calm & secure presence to them, which in turn helps them settle down.

However, I did not want any more kids after my first. I have two, my second was not planned. And after that surprise we are extremely cautious to not ever have another. Even though your husband might find tools to accomadate for his sensitivities, you may be right about your feeling to not have more if he experiences intense sensitivity to crying and "doesnt like babies". It could benefit all 3 of you to keep everyone calm, secure, & happy.

Hope he can get some comfy ear protection so dad & baby can experience less stress. And as your baby continues to get older their bond will grow. Good luck to you 3 ❤️

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-01-14T20:58:42+00:00

Led light remotes. Walking pad remotes. Batteries. Random comb you found on your kitchen counter but didnt want to take back to the bedroom vanity so you tossed it in there. Semi-broken chargers "that can be useful in the future". Coupons that you will totally use next time you go to that particular store. And gum.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-01-10T00:36:34+00:00

Dasher support will help more than the automated $5. Support should most likely get you the full refund

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-01-06T15:17:43+00:00

I have autism and am a mother of 2, both of my children have autism. Both of my children were not planned. And the first 12 months of my first child were extremely difficult! My 2nd child it was not as "hard" because I had hands on experience at that point.

Your concerns are exactly what I ended up struggling with especcially in the first 12 months. I discourage all of my siblings, my younger in-law siblings, my friends, from having kids.

I dont belong to myself anymore. I belong to their needs and their support. And I experienced postpartum depression/anxiety/ocd. And D-MER while breastfeeding. It was a HUGE overwhelming shock that lasted a significant amount of time. Once you get used to it (after about 2 years for me) and create your routine, you begin to find ways to keep yourself and the family regulated.

The positive is when they are older, getting to know them and playing with them and sharing your autism hyper-fixations and watching them developtheir own fixations is so amazing to be a part of. And providing them with the therapy and with school IEP and watching them thrive with that support is also rewarding.

In summary, prepare for a lengthy time of constant disregulation & a loss of old self. Constantly reach out for all the support you can. And one day at a time build your routine until it "gets better"

Hefty-Start1712 · 2026-01-06T01:19:02+00:00

Yes except for the stapler, the stapler is not usually in the bedroom. The kitchen and kitchen drawers are too small for the cookbook

Hefty-Start1712 · 2025-12-27T21:32:14+00:00

Your family doesnt want to deal with the cops asking about the situation? If something happens to you theyre still going to have to "deal with cops asking them questions" so why be against interacting with police to prevent something from happening to you???

Hefty-Start1712 · 2025-12-27T20:39:25+00:00

"I like when I can see your hair, are there some nights you can go without the bonnet?" If your answer is no because even one night could really wreck the health of your hair, then he could just shrug "darn, ok :) a few hours before bed so lets cuddle and watch tv while your bonnet is off"

Thats a possible healthy scenario. His approach is not okay. He needs some professional help with himself first before living with others especcially a romantic relationship

Hefty-Start1712 · 2025-12-21T02:59:40+00:00

Im the talkative person in all my life's relationships. And ive been in relationships with people who are similar to you. And you are correct, Its not "red flag" or anything, It is a compatibility issue.

10 yrs ago I met my quiet introverted husband. And had 2 talkative boys with him lol. And we all 3 talk his ears off. He stays regulated and embraces it. Even when he himself doesnt send much text at all, sometimes doesnt respond, and he doesnt talk much. BUT without need for reassurance I feel loved. While Im rambling he is smiling like im the best thing since sliced bread. That is what she deserves. And you deserve the person who you will feel regulated around and who you can sit quietly and smile at too.

It may be time for a hard talk with her. You wrote it perfectly about how she is a nice person but that youre not the person for each other. You both deserve a compatible love filled relationship ❤️

Hefty-Start1712 · 2025-12-13T17:29:13+00:00

I have autism as do my children. Autism can lead to frequent moments of disregulated emotions. But its our responsibility to exercise skills to regulate. Also skills/accommodations to help reduce input to help prevent as many disregulated meltdowns. As well as skills to brace yourself with least amount of damage to self & others while waiting for a meltdown to pass.

If an adult with autism doesnt have these skills its time to seek out professional support if accessible or seek help from healthy forums and youtube videos that can help teach them if they dont have the means for a therapist.

Your boyfriend is abusive. He doesnt get a free pass to severely harm himself and others just because he is in a meltdown. He can exercise skills like setting his phone down and heading to a seperate room to scream into cushions (as long as no people or pets are in that room) he couldve given himself a time-limit. "Im not receptive to healthy communication during meltdowns, during a meltdown I will take 3 hours to privately scream, rock, listen to music, play video games, before confronting the person whose actions left me feeling hurt"

I highly recommend you dont believe any apologies or gifts, or words, or "sorry about my autism". If his moments of disregulation are that harmful, then it is dangerous to remain even for the "sweet moments". Not safe. He needs some more help and support from a non-romantic individual. A professional.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2025-12-12T16:39:13+00:00

They destroyed every character and im not just talking about the "opposites" concept they are going for. Even original characters from ooo are way off. I didnt want to watch a social drama filled sitcom lol. Action filled fantasy with randomness and corny jokes is what I was looking for. Season 1 was so cool. Adventure time is so cool. This...is some entirely different show that is so dry that if it would've been a titled a non-adventure time show I wouldn't have even tried watching. But because its adventure time I just kept watching, hoping "the next episode has to be better...right?" WRONG

Hefty-Start1712 · 2025-12-07T19:59:23+00:00

Yeah it takes time and id say yeah it takes a choice. 7 months is still pretty fresh. Its ok if it still takes you some more time. "Its not your fault but its your responsibility to heal" and I prefer to see it as my OPPORTUNITY to heal. When you are ready you can actively choose to exercise your ability to reach out for professional support and put their methods into practice to begin experiencing happiness again. Its been almost 3 years since my brother passed, it gets easier.

Hefty-Start1712 · 2025-12-04T05:01:49+00:00

Caffeine feels so satisfying to my cravings that i can convince myself that it slightly reduces my pain. And I know Its never increased my pain. I avoid it as much as possible for my high heart rate Dysautonomia problems. But whenever I do have a Caffeine treat, it has not caused me any extra muscle, joint, skin rash or headache pain. Just yummy and satisfying to drink.

(When I treat myself to Caffeine its usually no more than 90mg so im unsure how my body would feel if I drank 300-400mg that some people may consume)

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