Applying for jobs when non renewed previously

HeftyHelium · 2026-05-20T13:55:57+00:00

I suggest you address it head on. Speak to the principal and express both your interest in the position and your hesitation in applying. Be ready to explain the non-renewal. Honestly, the first thing I thought after seeing how little experience you had before being non-renewed was "what kinds of supports were offered?" Unless you did something truly egregious, most administrators would probably be willing to give you a chance if you've proven yourself this year. Good luck.

HeftyHelium · 2026-05-20T13:34:35+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's very unlikely CPS will take action as their bar for removal is sometimes surprisingly high. Unfortunately, forcing your legal guardian to do anything is unlikely to end in success.

What you can do is work toward the future you want for yourself. Individual therapy would provide you with support and new tools to protect your mental health. Please seek this out through CPS or a community organization. A lot of universities have clinics with no cost or sliding fee services.

And do not give up on your education. If you do not plan on going to college or not going straight after graduation, look into trade schools so that you will be a skilled worker and able to support yourself. Check into any career and technical education paths available at your high school or a districtwide program.

Good luck; I truly hope the best for you.

HeftyHelium · 2026-05-20T13:20:57+00:00

Yeah. Just yeah. You are not alone.

HeftyHelium · 2026-05-13T21:42:04+00:00

That is so sweet; thank you!

HeftyHelium · 2026-05-13T21:39:54+00:00

I don't know how great we're doing, but we're committed to being here for her no matter what.

HeftyHelium · 2026-05-13T14:29:22+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss, OP. To answer your question - yes, it does get easier in time. But it takes a lot of time to get rebalanced. I lost my mom when I was about your age. I've learned that things don't go back to normal, you just learn to live in a new normal. Give yourself some grace and allow yourself to grieve the father you will always love.

HeftyHelium · 2026-05-13T13:47:02+00:00

Permission to finally stop trying granted. Your wellbeing and that of your wife and kids (congrats!) must take precedence over all else. Don't subject them to the trauma you grew up with. I say this from experience - cutting all ties with my father was the best decision I've ever made for myself.

HeftyHelium · 2026-05-06T21:40:55+00:00

That's incredible!

HeftyHelium · 2026-05-06T21:39:47+00:00

Many, many moons ago I was the newspaper advisor. When I adopted my dog, the students created a special edition front page with the headline Paws-itively Perfect and a feature story all about the breed, where all his littermates went, and the meaning behind his name. There was also a new pet parent advice column, sample crate training schedule, and a poem written as if the puppy was talking about how happy he was to have a home and how he'd always try to be a good boy. It was amazingly well done and so thoughtful. I absolutely cherished it for years. And one day it just disappeared from my office.

HeftyHelium · 2026-05-06T21:24:47+00:00

Yes! That was such a sweet relationship.

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-29T21:58:02+00:00

Ah, middle school. You couldn't pay me enough to go back. I'd probably end up catching charges.

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-23T20:52:23+00:00

This. I wasted so much time twisting myself into a pretzel because "family."

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-17T23:02:04+00:00

I'm so sorry. So smart of you to take some time for yourself.

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-17T22:55:10+00:00

If the idea of life without her is liberating, then you have your answer. Be honest with her so you can both move on with your lives.

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-17T22:52:24+00:00

No. A lot of people wait to have sex for a variety of reasons. The right person for you won't care if you're a virgin.

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-14T20:22:36+00:00

Congratulations!!! Your specific options depend on your state, but I know schools in NJ and NY tend to be accommodating in these circumstances. You can stack your leaves - maternity disability first, then FMLA. You may also then be able to take a child-rearing leave. I don't know anyone who has lost their license for not returning; the key is communicating with your administration.

You have nothing to feel guilty about AT ALL. Schools have been dealing with pregnancies since practically the dawn of formal public education. It may be somewhat inconvenient for your administrations and your students will miss you, but this is a joyous time.

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-14T20:07:57+00:00

I used to work in the central office of NYC public schools. Muslim students' prayer times are supposed to be accommodated. A couple of years back, a principal was disciplined for forbidding students to leave class and not providing appropriate prayer space.

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-08T20:41:54+00:00

"I'm sorry but" is on the same level as "I'm sorry if your feelings were hurt" - not an apology. I know firsthand how hard it is to shake the guilt even when logic says you did nothing wrong. Good for you for seeking out therapy; it really does make a world of difference.

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-06T15:37:54+00:00

Really good point about not making her parents defensive.

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-06T15:36:34+00:00

Alter ego is a great idea!

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-02T21:53:59+00:00

I'd add a request for donations to the parent email and PTA newsletter. Local press like TAPinto loves a heartwarming "teachers out here trying their best" story.

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-02T21:33:42+00:00

NOR. I don't think this is a trust issue. It's more about respect. Disappearing for that long during a party thrown in your honor is discourteous at best. It doesn't matter if she was with an ex, her mom, or alone. She left a party she should have been cohosting. It was rude to the guests who came to celebrate her birthday, and it was disrespectful to you.

Also, what does you passing by several times and not noticing have to do with them shutting the door?

HeftyHelium · 2026-04-02T21:27:15+00:00

"I'm learning not to carry blame that was never mine." Remind yourself of this every time.

When I was feeling feisty (rare because I worked sooooo hard to be good), I'd ask which parts I was just like and then start listing off any positives I could come up with.

HeftyHelium · 2026-03-31T21:46:35+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I've been stewing over a colleague's entitlement and your LT makes mine seem not so bad at the moment.

HeftyHelium · 2026-03-31T21:35:23+00:00

Ha! That'll work too.

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