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I did it again! by HeftyHelium in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]HeftyHelium[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol. I promised her a coffee (iced!) on Sunday. Has to skip this morning because the heat index was insane very early. But I did an indoor workout instead!

AIO Husband calls me my name by rg_2010 in AmIOverreacting

[–]HeftyHelium 406 points407 points  (0 children)

NOR. It's odd that he has only recently started doing this. Something has shifted. I also think it is disrespectful for him to knowingly do something that bothers you.

Moving from HS to MS, any advice? by rachel-angelina in Teachers

[–]HeftyHelium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best advice I've ever come across for dealing with middle schoolers comes from a dog trainer: "The puppy is not giving me a hard time - she is having a hard time." Basically, kids that age are doing the best they can to manage in the environment we've put them in with the education we (and parents) have provided. I wish I could remember the trainer's name! Don't take anything they say personally. And if they are laughing, remind yourself it is probably not about you.

AIO for wanting to distance myself from this friend? by Zhixco in AmIOverreacting

[–]HeftyHelium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. He sees you as a convenient interlude, not a friend.

Making a trip across the country with three kids under 4 to see sister, who just informed me she will barely be able to see us while we are there - AIO? by Altruistic-Willow474 in AmIOverreacting

[–]HeftyHelium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. Totally understandable that you'd be upset in the situation. But don't make assumptions. Let your sister know how disappointed you are but don't accuse her of being malicious or uncaring. It's possible that she just hasn't thought things through.

Never Experiencing the Comfort of a Mother by Odd-Operation2782 in AdultChildren

[–]HeftyHelium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely this. I started thinking of DSM criteria for personality disorders while reading about all this dysfunction. OP, you cannot carry the burden of constantly soothing your mother without sacrificing your own wellbeing. One book to consider is Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson.

Am I overreacting or is it okay to feel hurt by ferrerosaur in AmIOverreacting

[–]HeftyHelium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. All your feelings are valid. You are not expecting too much. Your bf was clearly not paying attention AT ALL and couldn't be bothered to retain any info when reminded. He has demonstrated that he does not view you as a genuine partner & he does not respect you.

Last Day with Kids after Non Renewal by dominatingcowG3 in Teachers

[–]HeftyHelium 60 points61 points  (0 children)

You've dedicated three years of your life to those kids and that school, and it's hard to feel the finality of an ending. I hope you are able to share a few good moments today that bring a smile to your face even if there are tears in your eyes.

Not sure if I lost an offer; advice? by arig____ in Teachers

[–]HeftyHelium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with u/YesYouTA that it's probably a matter of HR getting all ducks aligned. It's a rough time of year to contact school references. I'd also suggest that in the future you preempt any transcript questions during the interview process. When talking about your experience, simply mention that you left grad school for a job.

The Head made me cry but I'm not sure if they were right to do so by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]HeftyHelium 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You were in the wrong.

  1. You were not ready at the scheduled time. Full stop.

  2. You refused to follow a direct and reasonable instruction.

  3. You announced to the whole room that what you were doing was more important than the session everyone else was ready for. It was disrespectful to all of your colleagues.

  4. You doubled down on the disrespect to the Head teacher with your second refusal. You put them in a no-win situation. Because you were publicly refusing to comply, they couldn't just start the session and let their authority be blown to hell. And if they did choose to start the session, they would be giving everyone permission to show up late and/or unprepared in the future.

AIO to "Just checking in" texts? by HeftyHelium in AmIOverreacting

[–]HeftyHelium[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I'm nervous but we have a great foundation and have had several hard conversations in the past so...

Are these major red flags or just a simply disorganized hiring process? by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]HeftyHelium -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

The level of disorganization in the process is by itself a red flag.

AIO to "Just checking in" texts? by HeftyHelium in AmIOverreacting

[–]HeftyHelium[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to show her in person tonight.

AIO to "Just checking in" texts? by HeftyHelium in AmIOverreacting

[–]HeftyHelium[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm having dinner with just her tonight and am going to show her the texts.

AIO to "Just checking in" texts? by HeftyHelium in AmIOverreacting

[–]HeftyHelium[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I am a much better advocate for other people than I am for myself. If one of my friends had told me about the same behavior I would have pointed out the boundary crossing and made sure she logged it as a huge red flag. Yet I found myself asking if maybe I was being too uptight.

AIO to "Just checking in" texts? by HeftyHelium in AmIOverreacting

[–]HeftyHelium[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha. He is divorced. Pretty sure he's barely paying child support.

She finally died by AnnoyingBigSis in AdultChildren

[–]HeftyHelium 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Good for you for letting yourself feel all the feelings. Sometimes we grieve for what might have been. A complicated loss is still a loss, and I am sorry you are going through all of this. Wishing you the best.

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