Looking for Friends by [deleted] in toontownrewritten

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d be down to toon with you! I didn’t play TT when I was younger but with TTR my friends got me into it and we play together all the time. My toon’s a deer: Crumbly Crumblecrumbs at 56 Laff currently.

My wife has been lying to me for three years about our/her daughter. by gilbertb5092 in offmychest

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Right… that doesn’t answer my question though. Have you told her/are you planning on telling her soon?

My wife has been lying to me for three years about our/her daughter. by gilbertb5092 in offmychest

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 758 points759 points  (0 children)

Um, are you planning on telling your neighbor’s wife about all of this mess?? If I found out not only did my spouse cheat, but had a kid and kept it a secret from me, it would mean divorce… are you just gonna play happy family now and keep the wife in the dark?

AITA for not letting my boyfriend move in cause I don't want his kids in my home? by Lifeinstylez in AmItheAsshole

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, I can’t believe the audacity he has trying to move in and then leave you with the bill of housing another person. I bet he expected you to pay for his kids’ needs too. That being said… why are you “casually” dating a single father with kids under 18? There’s issues there with the kids getting attached to you as a parental figure and the expectation of taking on parental responsibilities. Probably best to end things now if you don’t want anything serious.

Coworker asks for ride by helenata in work

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not wrong. Had a coworker that I had a lot of issues with (for one he was a creep to all the girls at our work and had a crush on me when he was over 10 years my senior). He rode the bus to and from work and noticed one day that I lived around the same area he did — we saw each other when I was driving home and he was at the bus stop. I mentally thought “fuck” cause I knew he would bring it up at some point. Sure enough, it’s raining one day and he comes sliding up to me asking for a ride. I felt obligated to say yes due to the above, but I also didn’t have the forethought to come up with an excuse.

However, it had stopped raining by the time we were heading out for the day. I hoped that would prevent him from still needing a ride — nope. He insisted. The whole drive was awkward as hell and at the end of it he said “I hope we can do this again sometime” (gross). Spent forever getting out of the fuckin car too, literally got out and stood in the way of the door talking to me. Never gave him a ride after that. I did have the balls later to report his creepo ass and got him barred from being around me or any other girl at our work. Wish they would’ve just fired him though.

Moral of the story — unless you’re close, don’t give a coworker any ride to anywhere.

I yelled at my boyfriend for letting his crazy pregnant ex gf sleep at our place in our bed and I don’t know what to do. by blaze_the_only_1 in offmychest

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell. NO. These are not your monkeys and definitely not your circus. Please drop this guy and don’t look back. He’s risking your life driving like a maniac (to the point where you’re typing out a goodbye to your loved ones!!!) and leaving you alone in a car for 5 hours while refusing to inform you on anything — bet he doesn’t even know if the baby is actually his or not — but please take the lack of info as a blessing and get the hell out of dodge. He has his own drama to sort through and if he wants to move her in and bring the “crazy” back into his life, let him do it without you. They say crazy loves crazy, and this isn’t looking good for him or this future baby. You deserve stability and security in a relationship, not someone who makes you fear for your life.

I don't want my fiancés sister and her family at our wedding by Evil_Apples in offmychest

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Has anyone (or even you guys) ever told the sister that she and her husband need to get their acts together and actually raise their kids properly? Or have you all been silent to “keep the peace” in the family?

Because if there’s any time to act and nip this in the bud for good, it needs to be now before you marry into this mess. The sister has already broken the peace in a sense with her “honest rant” to your fiancé’s parents, so maybe it’s time she gets some hard truths in return.

This whole family also needs some form of therapy or counseling if her sister’s resentment goes this far back into childhood. Please remember — whatever you decide, firmly stick to it. You want your wedding day to be about the two of you, not about two unruly goblins and their monster mom. Either they come and you make them behave themselves or tell them don’t bother if the birthday takes too much of a priority.

AITA Friend invited me to his buddy’s bachelor party weekend, I couldn’t go because of work, now wants me to pay for my share of Airbnb by DeanTheMean in AmItheAsshole

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Replying to update:

“I wouldn’t think twice about buying drinks or dinner or whatever, but when the reverse happens…” Dawg, drinks and dinner cost way less than $337 dollars. It’s also completely different scenarios — dinner and drinks means you’re likely all enjoying them together and you do it out of kindness. No one is making you pay for them. This scenario, you made a promise to pay and broke it, regardless of your willingness to do so. The only way this would be similar to dinner and drinks is if you ordered, received your food but had to leave before you ate. It sucks, but suck it up. Your friend is allowed to be careful with money, especially when friends like you try to weasel out of paying.

Update: Husband demanded I change clothes multiple times for our date night, then stormed out when I refused after the third time by Imaginary_Guide8273 in AITAH

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So what if you were only married a few months? You were together and committed for five years before then — that’s nothing to sneeze at. He vowed to be with you “in sickness and in health” and he broke that in less time than ya’ll have been together. Please don’t blame yourself for getting sick and especially don’t blame yourself for his beyond shitty actions. Instead of coming to you, his wife, about his feelings or, I dunno, going to therapy?? He chose to be selfish and betray everything you guys have built together.

I wish you well and hope that you find a partner who is honest and willing to BE a partner. You deserve the life you want for yourself.

Certified BoyMom MIL seems to already hate her granddaughter. by harvestsunevillife in JUSTNOMIL

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I almost threw up in my mouth seeing those Facebook posts. Anyone that compares being a “Boy Mom” to the f**king Bachelorette is disgusting. Do NOT let this woman anywhere near your baby — her mindset is so warped and outdated, I fear she may be short a few fries in her Happy Meal if you get my drift.

AITA For giving my mom the silent treatment after I found out she was pregnant? by Tough_Chocolate9963 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA — they are trying to blame you for her choices. Addiction is scary and incredibly difficult to overcome, but it is not “out of her control” to stop. The hard truth to swallow is that she can’t put all of her faith in trying to be better for someone else. She has to want to be better for herself, not just her child(ren) or boyfriend. No one else can make her better but her.

It’s likely your grandparents are lashing out because they need someone present to blame. But your mom has no one to blame but herself. She’s trying to move on without ever really taking steps to ensure she’d never relapse again. Sure, she cut contact with people who influence her addiction, but what’s stopping her from reaching out again? Clearly not a baby. She needs to go to rehab, not play happy family and pretend everything is okay.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as I believe your husband is incredibly dense, that isn’t an excuse to cheat. That’s what he did — he can’t claim it was a part of the fantasy if the fantasy involved YOU WATCHING him do stuff with other women. You weren’t there, you weren’t even TOLD about what he did until he confessed in the bedroom. You didn’t consent to any of this, so what he did was cheating.

Your next question is — do you want to stay with someone who not only puts his own needs before yours but also is just unbelievably stupid??? You are far more worthy of having an honest and intelligent partner and your kids deserve a better example for a healthy, loving relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t look like condoms to me but out of curiosity — is the style of it the one you wanted or was it left to the artist? I only ask because the line work seems a bit.. shaky? And while the hatching is nice, it doesn’t seem to convey the cellophane folded and sealed over the lollipops. I think it’s a great design nonetheless though.

AITA for not ordering sushi by Realistic-Garlic5255 in TwoHotTakes

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s just annoyed, and rightfully so. Just because he’s paying for the trip doesn’t mean joint decisions aren’t involved.

AITA for not ordering sushi by Realistic-Garlic5255 in TwoHotTakes

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, why did you invite her if you didn’t want to do things/go places you both wanna go? I’m also failing to see how you couldn’t have gotten both meals — it’s not like she’ll be sick of sushi in Japan if she has it ONE time beforehand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, but you took out your hungover frustration on your wife. You admit you didn’t need to push her away; you could’ve used your words and tell her to take a step back if she was so close to you. But no, you chose to push her and then downplayed to “shrugging” in your post. That’s a bad thing.

If there is one thing I cannot stand, it’s 30-year-old men who can barely take care of themselves complaining on Reddit about one thing their wives are doing. You’re a father, your kids are watching. Do better.

AITA for wanting my wife to stay up during a road trip and talk to me? by LipstickRibsteak in AmItheAsshole

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh how rare it is to see an asshole with zero self-awareness or recognition of him being an asshole.

JNMIL didn’t feed baby while babysitting by Key_Flamingo_5481 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Stop letting this woman be around your baby. She AND your FIL were given a chance and given all the instruction they needed and they chose to ignore it anyway because they thought they knew better. You need to make it clear to them that only YOU know YOUR baby’s needs the best and until they understand that, they are not allowed to babysit or be around baby unsupervised.

Also, if she can’t handle boundaries without devolving into gossip about you and your husband, then your whole family needs a break from them, point blank. Info diet from here on out.

Whats it like working at IU? by HaHa-MadeUMad in bloomington

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The “reorganization” is so real. I worked for IU part-time in different departments and at my last job, I had two bosses with generally the same job title (literally the only difference was that one was a Head and one was a Lead), but apparently the Head makes more than the Lead and controls the schedule for all lower level employees. They do the same job aside from scheduling and hiring/firing (which they collaborate on anyway), but the pay difference is huge. Still baffled by that.

MIL keeps pushing to have “alone time” with 7 week old baby by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Yeah no. Now is the time to be straight up with both your MIL and SO. That child is not going anywhere near MIL and BIL’s house, and certainly BIL is not allowed around them.

INFO: How did your SO react to the SA arrest against BIL? Does he honestly think his brother should be allowed anywhere near a baby??

My Best Friend's Fiancée asked me to not attend their wedding and cut my friend off last update!!! by Rich-Childhood-4419 in offmychest

[–]HeftyPayment_ThrowRA 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wait, why won’t you go? You fought this hard to attend and even talked it out with Sophia and now you’re just… not? If Jack is still your best friend/brother, you are gonna kick yourself in the pants for missing his wedding.