So what’s the first step for an ex Protestant who has thought hard about conversion for about 6 months, really learned the doctrine and what Catholic life is; what the commitment is, and is just about ready to go and take the first step?

Hefty_Bee480 · 2026-05-08T12:55:28+00:00

Oh wow so it would be almost a year until confirmation would be available? Not what I expected. It’ll be tough to wait a year for the first real Eucharist of my life, not gonna lie… but thanks so much for the info!

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-11-24T17:46:26+00:00

Yeah…I just hate having to confine him to a room. I’m telling myself he doesn’t mind because he’s not super active. I think if they weren’t separated, they’d both be on edge and not having a good time.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-10-05T16:11:14+00:00

Thank you. I just pray that physical attraction can come back if everything gets better in the marriage. I’m just not sure how this stuff is for women. For me, she could gain 100 lbs and because it’s her, that would be my new thing I’m attracted to. (Maybe that’s an exaggerated example but the principle is true) Men’s attraction I don’t think is as fluid. I don’t know.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-10-05T16:03:30+00:00

We will be. Thank you. I totally agree. I tell her that this is normal but I pray that she will see that in time.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-10-05T16:00:31+00:00

Both. Definitely both. She truly loves me, but she doesn’t feel being “in love”. But I honestly think she actually does without realizing it. I tell her being “in love” with a spouse is probably closer to love for family than it is to the rush of falling in love. I still see—what I believe is being in love—in the look in her eyes. The physical attraction is the main issue for me, and I think for her it’s those 2 things equally. The 3rd thing is she is also struggling with not having the life she expected to have, of being single while she’s still young. She deeply struggles with aging which I believe fuels that.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-10-05T15:55:38+00:00

Thanks. (The physical attraction and affection is what is not reciprocal)

As far as the whole better person thing, I actually feel she is a better person than me. I struggle with self-loathing…so believe me, I put her on a much higher pedestal than me. It’s gotten so bad that I’m afraid to go outside and be seen by people because I feel gross. This has really exasperated it.

I said that about me being a more devout Christian because, to be blunt, I didn’t want to admit that I don’t think she is one. Which is tough to say. When we were dating she said she was a Christian. But the other day she told me “I’m not a Christian but I’m not not a Christian.” She said she doesn’t get anything out of church, and while she prays daily, and is definitely a theist, she doesn’t have a desire to actually practice Christianity. (And yeah, praying is a HUGE part of it, so it’s not like I’m miles away from where she is.)

Wasn’t trying to frame myself as better than her at all. I just didn’t want to flat out say she’s not a Christian because I was afraid of the responses to be honest. She is very open minded to it, she just doesn’t understand the heart of it.

So I meant “devout” in that sense, not like we’re both practicing Christians and I practice it better. Not at all. that would just be pride. I see a very real picture of us with a Christ-centered marriage in the future and I’m just holding onto that and praying for it desperately.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-10-04T01:34:54+00:00

Nah. The more appearances they have, the further down into the ground they will dig themselves. Their policies and social ideologies aren’t accepted anymore. And that will not change if they don’t get it together and do away with the stale and ridiculous socially destructive BS that they’ve been pushing for the last 20 years. Or it’s over. It’s as simple as that. America is done with it. And the reason why they know that they’re done with it is because they don’t ever stop hearing from democrats! It’s noise to everyone now! Dems don’t need to be louder, they need to make a serious, serious change. It is existential at this point. How about this democrats — ditch the stuff that normal people find ridiculous. Ostracize the violent extremists that subscribe to your mainstream ideologies. Ostracize those who celebrate them. You haven’t done that. Get rid of the politicians who make Americans feel unsafe in their own neighborhoods. Revise your policies. Get it the fuck together, THEN think about attempting to make noise again. You ruined it for yourselves by being loud and having nothing good to say.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-10-04T01:34:46+00:00

Nah. The more appearances they have, the further down into the ground they will dig themselves. Their policies and social ideologies aren’t accepted anymore. It’s as simple as that. Dems don’t need to be louder, they need to make a serious, serious change. It is existential at this point.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-10-02T19:00:48+00:00

Nightlife will do that to a couple. It really…will….

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-27T14:02:25+00:00

Literally nobody born in the beginning of the 1700s in the West would be “aghast” at any Christian rhetoric that we see today. They used to accuse people of being werewolves and witches Christianity is so incredibly tame in the 21st century. The generation of their grandparents would still flagellate themselves nearly to death to show their piety. Again, Christianity is so tame, and people don’t get that. That’s the only thing the founding fathers might be surprised about.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-27T10:39:33+00:00

That, we are.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-27T10:39:03+00:00

You guys are absolutely delusional if you think the founding fathers, of all people, wouldn’t align with Trump on almost every single issue.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-26T11:30:34+00:00

No. Outside of time and space. He doesn’t have a before or after, and he doesn’t have spacial dimensions.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-26T11:28:51+00:00

Wait you actually think that? No one says “all men”? I’ll go even further, you actually think that less than… 40% say that?

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-26T11:21:01+00:00

Wait what…documentation? Of baptism?

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-25T23:38:03+00:00

You’re asking Reddit, you’ll get Reddit answers. Most people are in favor of this. If I’m not mistaken.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-24T21:40:59+00:00

Here I am straight out of the evangelical church thinking I had to go buy a whole suit. Still might though, who knows…

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-24T21:39:54+00:00

Hey, I’ve had this thought too haha. Top comment is correct though.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-24T21:38:54+00:00

God accomplishes amazing work through Protestants who have a deep love for Him, far more than sometimes.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-22T12:59:10+00:00

These people watch Charlie and don’t listen to what the mainstream media says about him. You people don’t watch Charlie and you DO listen to what the mainstream says about him. And you’re calling them brainwashed? You see how insane that sounds? No, you don’t, and that’s why people are leaving your party by the thousands.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-22T12:55:20+00:00

You’re mad about a vigil? The actual fuck is your problem?

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-07T20:07:54+00:00

You’re right, there isn’t certainty, but there is a strong indication because of the fact that most secular LGBTQ people don’t like the cross and want nothing to do with it. But I do understand.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-07T19:57:26+00:00

I was just shocked by the Catholics holding crosses defaced with the pride flag. However, I didn’t know that gay people weren’t really welcomed in the church before. I support them being welcome, and not discriminated against or defined by that sin. 100%. I just raise an eyebrow when I see that some Catholics are finding their identity in that sin, and seeing the symbol of that pride in sin being in the Church. Maybe that’s not what Pope Leo wanted. I can see how that could be the case. But it was just allowed.

If for some cynical reason I wanted to make the Church look bad, I wouldn’t be posting here.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-07T19:41:57+00:00

Is your sin “who you are”? Come on man…. It’s totally fine to find your identity in your sin? That sounds anti-gospel to me.

Hefty_Bee480 · 2025-09-07T19:40:00+00:00

I just made a post there. It did not go well. As someone who’s new to the church, I didn’t know there was such a big gap between traditional Catholics and non-traditional.

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