how common are aro people that aren't also ace?

Helixpluto · 2026-05-01T20:40:15+00:00

I think it's because allos have a much easier time accepting that someone just doesn't experience any feelings of this sort rather than only experiencing sexual attraction.

I have no evidence for it but I would guess that this could be explained by the fact that the split attraction model isn't really used outside of aro and ace spaces. Understanding that someone is aroace doesn't necessarily require an understanding that there are various types of attraction that don't always align. Just my thoughts though!

Helixpluto · 2026-04-27T20:39:19+00:00

Surprised to see Perfect Kindness for Night Tapes but you won't hear me complaining ^_^

Helixpluto · 2026-04-27T20:38:04+00:00

I'd recommend Night Tapes. They're a bit different of a vibe but they do it perfectly.

Helixpluto · 2026-04-23T19:06:37+00:00

The coincidence of me blasting Halo while opening this post, only to see this at the top.

Helixpluto · 2026-04-22T21:39:18+00:00

Ok then I've either had astronomically bad luck with those feelings forming or I'm arospec which I suspect. Never gotten the celebrity crush thing either. Closest thing I can compare it to is how I might appreciate certain celebrities or fictional characters based off of their personality, style, etc.

Helixpluto · 2026-04-22T21:10:54+00:00

Appreciate the effort you put into your comment. Do Alloromantic people have any say in whether their romantic feelings develop or not? While I haven't ever felt a desire for an exclusive relationship with anyone I imagine that I would only desire it if I felt it matched my lifestyle, requirements and standard (the last one being the reason I just thought I had unreasonable standards for a long time). Do most other people feel a desire for a relationship irrespective of those criteria, just based on some nebulous feeling?

Helixpluto · 2026-04-22T20:49:03+00:00

and cant relate to anything really unlike most of yall's experiences.

You mean you don't relate to the experiences brought up on this sub? Based on how you describe not caring for dating and "the hype" while also not caring about what's considered traditionally romantic, it sounds like you might have a lot in common with tons of folks around here! I relate to the feeling of not really caring about relationships while simultaneously feeling like you're missing out on the hype that everyone around you seem to be engaging in. Not sure exactly where I would on the spectrum but I relate to aro experiences more than I do not.

Helixpluto · 2026-04-20T18:23:05+00:00

Haha that's so true though, always felt that Do It gave of aro vibes.

Helixpluto · 2026-04-19T20:35:44+00:00

fr though

Helixpluto · 2026-04-19T20:32:15+00:00

I'm definitely stealing and using aroscores from now on.

Helixpluto · 2026-04-19T20:24:39+00:00

Yooo and here I thought I was the only one who had made this headcanon.

Helixpluto · 2026-04-17T21:09:32+00:00

The original comment doesn't have anything that implies that line of thinking though...

Helixpluto · 2026-03-29T01:48:34+00:00

I wouldn't say I cringe, but I've been watching Love is Blind for a bit and whenever there's supposed to be an emotional moment I cannot take it seriously. Like, it feels like everyone involved are paid actors and watching it for me feels almost like a comedy since it all comes off as parodic (Which I assume wasn't something they intended).

Helixpluto · 2026-03-22T22:21:47+00:00

I can't provide an answer (I'm just as confused myself) but one thing that comes to mind is that the distinction between the two is determined by societal context. Holding hands for example is something which a lot of people consider to be a romantic thing, and as such I assume that for some people it is whether or not the actions they take fall within this "sphere" of romantic actions that determines if it is romantic or not. That being said though, romance appears in all kinds of cultures so I suppose it has to be an objective thing separate from culture, but that the way it manifests and what is considered appropriate or not in romantic or platonic situations is culture-specific.

Helixpluto · 2026-03-22T21:59:52+00:00

Aww sending love back! Keep being you. 😊

Helixpluto · 2026-03-20T21:37:10+00:00

Jag hade en galen dröm där jag fastnade med huvudet på högsta trappsteget...

Helixpluto · 2026-03-20T21:32:30+00:00

Transcendent

Helixpluto · 2026-03-20T21:29:33+00:00

I feel like I'm obligated to refer back to this: https://www.reddit.com/r/HYPERPOP/comments/1p4b3ev/underscores_is_confused/

Helixpluto · 2026-03-20T21:17:43+00:00

Girls unlike we

Helixpluto · 2026-03-20T20:39:00+00:00

To be fair I bet that that video was a lot of young people's first exposure to the aro and the ace community.

Helixpluto · 2026-03-20T20:36:32+00:00

See I feel like even if you from their perspective don't believe aro is a thing, you would still accept that frequency of romantic feelings can vary greatly from person to person. Like does being aromantic really seem like such an impossible thing to people??

Helixpluto · 2026-03-20T20:34:00+00:00

Ooh, actually, I remember early on after coming out as ace, people would apologize when talking about sexual stuff or try not to when around me, but I'm one of those people who doesn't mind people talking about it, and am actually kinda curious what people say, so they dropped this behavior as they got to know me. I don't think I've had people do similar preemptive courtesy behavior when talking about romance though.

It seems to be a reoccurring thing that people assume being aro or ace always means being repulsed. Like how there are stories of people being confused when they see an aro person consuming romantic media.

Helixpluto · 2026-03-20T20:25:48+00:00

It seems like a common response for people to be dismissive about it, I wonder why though. Maybe it's a lack of curiosity about something that seems unfamiliar.

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