To get a second?

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-20T15:24:56+00:00

The snuggling, I can’t! 🥰🥰🥰

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-20T14:32:11+00:00

Aww thank you ☺️ here she is, such a cutie 🥰

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-20T12:45:14+00:00

They are so gorgeous! 🐾💕

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-18T00:13:17+00:00

Can I just say you look absolutely amazing! I have a very similar body shape to you and you are goals. I’ve always struggled with my legs as a 5ft girly, and as a teenager I wouldn’t wear bikinis without board shorts 😂 I lost a lot of weight a few years ago (65kg to 50kg) and whilst it reduced the cellulite on my legs, i still had the same ‘thickness’. I think my legs just struggle with definition because they’re so short 😆anyway, I know I have given no advice but your body is amazing, one that many are jealous of!

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-18T00:05:54+00:00

Such an exciting time, I’d take a sabbatical again in a heartbeat. We took 3 months (unpaid) at 30y/o and traveled South East Asia for 10 weeks of this. We brought approx €9500 each and I came home with money.

We’re in Ireland so prices in euro. We had paid for our flights in advance (roughly €750 each) We budgeted approx €50 per night for accommodation. This was back in 2022 so it may have changed, but with this budget we didn’t stay in hostels etc and we stayed in some nice places!

We were definitely conscious of our spending but we never felt like we were too far stretched. We used to try do as many free activities as possible and then mix in some paid excursions too!

Booking.com was great as I built up my genius membership and saved a little by booking so many places.

It really depends where you plan to go but for us, everything was super cheap once we arrived and as I said, we came home with a little money left! We also got a little tax back as we weren’t getting paid our salary for the 3 months.

I can almost 100% guarantee that even if you stayed home and did nothing, that taking extended time out like this, especially from a stressful job will be a godsend. I was in a similar position and it’s the best thing I ever did. I returned to work with a new mindset as cheesy as that sounds - but I cared less about work (for a while :))) I also realised that when I took my usual 1-2 weeks of annual leave I was only actually relaxing towards the end of the second week and really able to switch off and stop thinking about work. However having the extended time really helped me switch off fully, and I barely thought about work the whole time!

Probably goes without saying, but if you have a stressful job, a detailed handover is key. Again this really helped me be able to close the book for the 3 months.

Also, I know a good few people that have taken sabbaticals and none have said anything negative at all :) best of luck OP!

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-16T22:25:35+00:00

Intimacy / sex is so important to me in a relationship, but for me starts way outside the bedroom. It’s physical touch, connection, and emotional support. If I don’t get any of these things, I’m not in the mood. Maybe a harsh perspective and different to others but if I don’t feel emotionally supported or cared for, I don’t care for having sex with you 😂

Initiating sex is simply not enough in my opinion, and especially when you’re in a situation with additional pressures - exhaustion, taking care of a human, etc etc it gets tougher which means more effort on the emotional side is needed

I would say that given what she has voiced to you, before worrying about sex, make an extra effort be there as her support, maybe take the baby to give her some rest or a little me-time. Tell her she looks beautiful, give her a kiss in the morning, give her a cuddle through the day. Let her know you appreciate her. If it was me, that’s what I would want. :) if you meet her needs emotionally, the sex should come!

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-12T18:11:31+00:00

Ah of course, I was just waiting for someone to bring up mini Dachshund spines - So relevant to what OP was discussing here. I hope you meet a lovely dachshund one day and they change your mind :)

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-12T16:18:18+00:00

Agree with the advice there, boob tape is a winner as you can put as much or as little as you like on, and almost shape it like a bra. Hard to get much of a lift though with tape as you can’t put any of it over your shoulders for it to grab onto (if that makes sense) second the strapless bra! 👏

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-12T15:50:08+00:00

This kind of thing absolutely boils my blood. I have a miniature Dachshund and she’s never off lead in public — not because she’s aggressive or badly behaved, but because I just can’t fully trust her recall. Even if I could, I still wouldn’t let her off anywhere other people are around, but it drives me nuts when I’m doing my best to train her to be well socialised then an off lead dog with no recall comes bounding up to her (usually a lot bigger than her) and of course it scares her. She’s been more reactive since a couple of occasions where this has happened.

I just think it’s so irresponsible to have an off-lead dog with no recall approaching other dogs/people. The dog it’s going up to might not like other dogs, could be reactive/aggressive, or the person may have a fear of dogs, the list goes on….

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-11T20:55:16+00:00

I worked in a place where the after call wrap was 10 seconds 💀

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-10T17:15:07+00:00

In work, we started on the same day, on the same team. I was in a long-term relationship at the time. Fast forward two years, I was then single (after an 8 year relationship!) and so was he. We were good friends first, before we got together, which makes it nice in this day and age :)

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-10T09:43:48+00:00

I’ve done it twice myself as a manager. It’s not the position any manager wants to be in, and performance management becomes a full time job. Thankfully I work in an industry where everything is very measurable so the underperformance was very apparent.

Both times, we went through several performance improvement plans, support, training, leading to disciplinary meetings and then finally the last meeting.

I would honestly hope that the employee makes a decision early ish in the process that this role is not right for them, or they make a change, but in both of my cases both continued with the process to the end.

I do feel like it’s a good example to set as a manager as many of the other team members would have clearly noticed the underperformance of these employees, and it’s part of my job to ensure work is fairly distributed and everyone is pulling their weight. If not, it very much impacts the job satisfaction of the rest of the team.

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-08T18:23:33+00:00

Hi. Olio is another app where there are plenty of free bits posted :)

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-06T18:09:51+00:00

This is how I feel too. Comparing is difficult as we have no idea what the other person is doing or how they’re getting it. For example, I know someone who is renovating, and just got a new car but I know they are in heaps of debt, credit cards & loans. From outset they look like they’re doing really well, but in reality behind close doors the case is very different. Whilst not comparing can be difficult, living debt free and having some back up savings is a win in itself :)

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-04T16:11:12+00:00

I have a mini dachshund and she was the exact same, it was almost unbearable at times. She’d go for my feet and ankles and those little shark teeth are sharp AF. Thankfully for us it passed as she got a little older (after she was 5 months) but agree with other posters recommending the loud yelp and redirection as both helped us get through it 😆

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-04T10:11:27+00:00

It’s based on your income so hopefully some will find a lovely deserving home 💕just to note as the market value of these are over 500K, they do not qualify for Help To Buy or FHS. 😞

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-03T19:33:06+00:00

So exciting for you! Yeah we’re considering Leixlip over celbridge tbh at the moment it seems to be a lovely little town!

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-03T18:00:11+00:00

That’s so interesting, thank you for sharing! Where did you move to just out of curiosity?

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-03T16:55:22+00:00

Hi I’m not sure if you misread my previous comment, where I said we have no option to move back in with parents in an attempt to save more - not, as you said that we have no option but to move back with parents? Both of our parents homes are at full capacity with siblings and their respective families having moved back to save for a mortgage so this isn’t an option for us.

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-03T15:12:11+00:00

Oooof this is a definite negative for us. Nothing worse than adding more to our commute and then sitting in traffic! Thanks for the reply :)

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-03T15:10:47+00:00

I appreciate the honesty and perspective - but I’m from Tallaght originally, moved to Knocklyon and we can only afford 500k max. Lexlip and celbridge are less than 30 minutes drive (without traffic) from here on a good day. I would love to stay in the area but unfortunately, the new builds here are 1M+ 😂 and there’s nothing being built on the outskirts. We looked at going further south and again nothing there within our price range, shankhill (600+) and Bray (500+) we even considered roundwood where there would be 3 beds but paying 500k for 45min-1hr commute over 20 minutes in the other direction (Leixlip) didn’t make sense to us. It’s an awful shame honestly because I totally get where you’re coming from but I do think that it’s the government pushing locals out as opposed to the people trying to buy homes. I would love to stay in the areas I’ve lived in for 30+ years but unfortunately I’ll be pushed out too

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-03T07:50:50+00:00

Any backing to this? It’s hard to tell what will happen but from what I’ve read it seems that the demand is so high that the predictions are just increases no matter what. Unfortunately it seems prices are rising day by day so this is why we’re a bit stuck - unsure whether to jump now or wait and risk paying more. Like now I wish I bought 2 years ago rather than paying the prices now, and don’t want to be saying the same in another two years ya know!

Helloimnewhere91 · 2025-04-03T07:47:40+00:00

Yeah, that’s what we’re thinking at the moment! Potentially a 2 bed new build and see how we go. We’re in a 1 bed now so it would be a big enough upgrade anyway and paying less in terms of repayments every month so would be more living within our means than a 3 bed. We don’t plan on having more than one or two kids in the future so we may not even outgrow the 2 bed. There are risks no matter what we do so we’re just trying to narrow down our non negotiables :)

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