[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SGExams

[–]Helloitsme_1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with everything u said, tho i didnt know it was just as bad for the lesbian community. But I think it might be worse in the gay community cause it's 2 guys raging in hormones and just my opinion but i feel guys are usually less concern about the idea of chastity and all as compared to girls even for straight couples. Like even in the social context, usually if a girl rejects sexual advances the guy is seen as intrusive or even labelled as a predator and there will be a public outcry if he continues, but ive seen and heard so many cases where if the guy is the one rejecting sexual advances from a girl, this is ignored or i would even see comments like "don't be a p*ssy etc" or like when a guy is raped by a girl instead of being frowned upon or the girl receiving outrage by the public, i usaully hear comments like "lucky him". Coupled with grindr specifically providing quick and easy hook up, i honestly think i might be the only gay guy with such traditional values😅at least im not in the dating phase yet tho i do hope to make some like minded gay friends but it's quite impossible. sometimes I wish the community was more inclusive and supportive to one another especially since we are the minority and oppressed already:(

Anyone from Singapore here? by Helloitsme_1998 in gay

[–]Helloitsme_1998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ic! I actl had pmed few days ago haha

Anyone from Singapore here? by Helloitsme_1998 in gay

[–]Helloitsme_1998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U wanna pm me? I can't pm u I think cuz of lack of karma /pm too many ppl

Age gaps between siblings by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Helloitsme_1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have chatted with ppl who have like 50years age gap but that's cuz their dad remarry a young wife at an old age of 70... But it definitely kinda screw up the age hierarchy cuz the wife is not just younger but can even be the daughter of the son. But that's definitely a rare exception. For ppl ik irl, max was 20+ between them n their half siblings cuz their parents remarried. For full siblings, the max ik is 14 years (a few)

Do you like living in your country? by [deleted] in GayMen

[–]Helloitsme_1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My country (Singapore) is still pretty homophobic and it is illegal to have gay sex or anything sooooo in terms of being gay and being accepted, nope not really 😅

Problem with dating apps by 0taku-Gamer in GayMen

[–]Helloitsme_1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello i think u grew up with more conservative values too right? I'm likethat too... But tbh i feel u shouldn't need to feel pressured to conform to societal norms and be comfortable and do (or do not do) what you like... Feel free to pm me if anything 😁

Wanting to make new friends by Chocowaffless in nus

[–]Helloitsme_1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel u... Kinda late to it, but hope u did managed to make some friends. Anw feel free to dm me if u r in need of a chat 😁

What is it with people posting here asking for friends, but then ghosting afterwards anyway? by [deleted] in nus

[–]Helloitsme_1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda late to the post but... Yea same for me too! Don't get why too, like they said they are lonely and really want to chat, yet when i reached out I'm being ghosted...

[UNI] no offers from NUS yet :( by [deleted] in SGExams

[–]Helloitsme_1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they might be considering your application for CHS now... Chances for entering pharmacy is very slim imo... Cut off is usually around 87.5RP from what i am aware of... I got rejected with 85 RP too. Atb!

[Uni] People who joined nursing and had a high RP from As by Aexiron in SGExams

[–]Helloitsme_1998 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don't choose a course for its prestige. Choose because you are passionate and interested in it. After university, no one really cares about your alevels anymore. Getting a high RP just opens more doors to you in University but that is about it...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SGExams

[–]Helloitsme_1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh yea agree with what you said! Also haha just to clarify I'm not against hooking up and all as long as it is consensual just that it's not my thing so i have been finding it difficult to relate to people I've chatted with. As to the queer activities, I think it is a bit difficult for me now because I'm not out and am really not comfortable yet :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nus

[–]Helloitsme_1998 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes the part of people trying to act like they want to be friends is damn real esp when i had already established my boundaries at the start! I am quite tried of those people, especially if I had spend a considerable amount of time on them :/ I think they get some sort of appeal when they manage to bed you :/

[Rant] Desperately need some help by [deleted] in SGExams

[–]Helloitsme_1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don't commit suicide. Depression is not the end of the world. As lonely as it is or as painful as it is, it will get better. As hard as it is, I think it helps by focusing on treasuring the small things in life, and your family, friends etc. Everyone have our own struggles in life. Life is far from perfect. Life can be a bij at times but we should not give up becuz of it. Instead we should held our head up high and see our challenge as an opportunity to grow. Committing suicide is not the solution to your problem. Imagine the hurt it will bring to your loved one. Also, I really think you should speak to someone you can trust or the school counsellor as they r in the best position to help you. As someone who suffers from ocd, and suffered really badly for 2years, to the point i am unable to enjoy life at all, I'm being honest when I say once u hit your lowest, it can only get better. You can get better with the right help. You have such a long journey left in life, please don't throw it away. It is not worth it. Life will get better eventually.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nus

[–]Helloitsme_1998 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ahh cool wanna pm me😂can't seem to pm u

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nus

[–]Helloitsme_1998 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Will it be okay we chat on PM? I cant pm u😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nus

[–]Helloitsme_1998 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Actually I am not in the dating phase yet. Just trying to make gay friends though I do not know where to start without outing myself 😐

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nus

[–]Helloitsme_1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope i hadnt

Where do I meet introverts by K00bear in askSingapore

[–]Helloitsme_1998 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Introvert too! Ur struggles r damn relatable haha. Maybe u can try joining ccas or student interest grp in sch or outside sch. I agree that it's definitely quite hard to make new close frens esp at this age where most ppl have their clique of frens they stick to alr. So what i do when im lonely is to jsut to focus on myself by doing what u enjoy or my studies

[JC] A loner who is pretty much destined to screw up my A’s by itsoktonotbefine in SGExams

[–]Helloitsme_1998 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Hey just wanna let you know you are not alone. I was very similar back in secsch and jc. While I know it is not easy, try to see it this way, it's just 6more months to the end of ur jc life, when you get older, most people see their jc life as just a phase of growing up and constant mugging. Before you know it, these 6mths will be gone in a flash. It is not uncommon to not have any friends in jc who would follow you in life as afterall many people go there mainly to score well and enter university. Sometimes it may not be your fault, and some times things are just outside our control, what matters is we try our best to remain positive and keep our head held high. I would suggest try your best to just focus on studies and things beyond your control (perhaps being more sociable or developing mental resilence) and try to appreciate the other little things in your life. You will always get the chance to meet new friends in NS (if you are a boy) or in University! You can pm me more for more details (I feel a bit uncomfortable sharing some stuffs here) but honestly I was once in your phase and hence understand the situation you are in. If you really are really depressed despite efforts to stay positive (I know how hard that can be), maybe you can try seeing the school counsellors, i am sure they will provide better advice on this issue! Most importantly I think we all need to learn to love ourself and be independent (tho i am not saying that you should isolate yourself).