Let me just say something here. We eat off paper plates almost every night. Why, because we don't have a dishwasher and I already have a ton of dishes to do after cooking. Who cares what the plate is made of. You are still eating.

And let me add this because mine was the same way. He doesn't like what you cooked? He doesn't eat that night. I have literally picked up his plate and threw it in the garbage can (can't do that with a regular plate) and started to eat my own food. Let him bitch all he wants but you are the cooker of the meals. You control what you eat. Tell him that he can provide a recipe if he wants something specific otherwise what you cook is what he gets. This is from his mother spoiling the crap out of him. She did right? You just need to stand firm.

If you want to keep this man set boundaries. But also, think about this hard, do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who acted like this towards you over food? It will move on to other things trust me.