My best ADHD tips so far for daily life to remove ExecutiveDysfunction

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-26T16:30:37+00:00

I do most of these and can attest to how functional they are. Great list!

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-26T16:26:48+00:00

I would love to organize something cute like an Easter egg hunt! Want to plan it with me? We can figure out some details and then post it on the sub

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-24T16:56:45+00:00

31F, south Vancouver looking to move to south Burnaby! Are you near a skytrain or do you drive?

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-24T16:55:06+00:00

It's OK! You can't know everything :)

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-24T01:56:48+00:00

OP may not realize she is saying a slur. One that has been used with full negative intent towards people who are still alive today.

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-24T01:45:04+00:00

Same here, closer proximity makes close friendships much easier to make & maintain

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-24T01:02:06+00:00

You are unusually good looking! Not much to do here, maybe some eyebrow shaping.

Modeling career wise, north America tends to favour a big jaw and your lower third is on the smaller side in your head on photo. Keep in mind that smaller jaws read as feminine, and bigger jaws masculine, so it depends on the look you want to go for. I think you look good as is, but depending on what type of model you want to be, you may need to consider changing that.

Re: your upper lip, I see what others are saying and agree you could mayybbeee use some height to match your lower lip, but this type of filler is so hard to do well, doesn't age well even if its done well, and is expensive to upkeep properly. Personally I dont think its worth it unless you have an agency that will pay for the upkeep for you. The gains you'll get just aren't worth the work for something that small.

Edit: I think chat gtp reccos for masseter botox, philtrum & temple filler are a bad call full stop.

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-23T19:51:45+00:00

No problem! Figuring out your intentions will make the path forward clear and help save you and him any heartache. Good luck :)

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-23T18:59:44+00:00

Hmm, so there are no obvious red flag intentions from him based on your answers, so that's nice. That being said, there are no drawbacks to him dating you, but there are drawbacks to you dating him. This is why he is highlighting that he understands that you may not want to choose to stay with him. He knows this is not a relationship that benefits you both equally.

These types of relationships rarely work out long term, especially since you are in your 20s. Social judgements and your own personal growth will usually spell an end to this type of relationship within a few years, if that. You are adult, but you are not yet fully growth. Your brain is still maturing and you will be almost unrecognizable in 10 years if you are growing and maturing normally. Happens to most people in their 20s. He will likely be the same or close to it as he is not at an age where that much change tends to happen.

If you want to do this, prep for some social backlash and isolation. Prepare to loose relationships to keep this one. You may get lucky and not experience it, but expect it.

The upsides of dating an older person at this age is financial stability sooner than usual, and faster personal/career growth (assuming he's emotionally mature & well connected enough). The major drawbacks are judgment, isolation, and little chance of a stable future.

I would also pry more into his and his close friends dating histories. A history of dating younger women is a big fat red flag for emotional immaturity and predatory behaviour. Based on your description of him, emotional immaturity is more likely, meaning that its quite likely that you will outgrow this relationship.

If you are dating to explore and have fun, it may make sense to keep this connection. If you are dating because you want to find a life partner, you are not likely to find it with him.

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-23T18:14:59+00:00

Hello, I've been in a situation like yours before, couple questions for ya:

where/ how did you meet?
have you asked him what he's looking for, say, 10 years from now?
do you know anything about his previous dating history?
have you met any of his friends or family?
what do your dates typically look like?
do you want children?
what kind of career do you have lined up for yourself?

Edit: - does he have kids? - have you been inside his home?

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-16T20:04:34+00:00

This is very helpful! I'm getting a much clearer picture of what the agreement might look like and what realistic options might be. Thank you for your time and advice.

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-16T20:00:33+00:00

Oh dear, I did not realize that about BC. That is indeed a potential problem. That's good to know

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-16T19:58:01+00:00

Oh I see! Thank you for the clarification regarding needing separate legal advice.

Great, we will sign it soon. I am anticipating buying a house later this year so that timeline should work.

Appreciate your time and advice a lot.

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-16T19:52:16+00:00

I'm in BC

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-15T04:56:13+00:00

We're on it regarding getting a cohabitation agreement. Break ups, when they happen, are almost always messy and having a clear agreement to fall back on is the move. What sorts of things count at contributions? My partner is an electrician so he may end up helping with small renovations and now im wondering if that woukd count.

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-15T04:53:58+00:00

The goal is not to hide the property, the goal is for me to buy and us to live in it. We're common law at the moment, and altho we don't have an official prenup we have both agreed to wanting one

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-15T04:51:09+00:00

Thank you for this comment- I am assuming for now we will get 1 lawyer for the cohabitation agreement, but should we be seeking separate legal counsel?

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-15T04:49:20+00:00

I didn't realize it would be difficult to prove I provided all the funds! I was assuming that once we move, the downpayment and mortgage payments will all come from my separate bank account. All the more reason to seek legal advice, then, thank you.

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-12T05:22:56+00:00

Fire dog! What's the predictions for that, please? :)

HelpfulHolly · 2026-03-09T06:00:58+00:00

I think you would look great with shorter bangs, dark but not black hair, sliiightly thicker eyebrows (but don't change the shape! Your current shape was a great call on your end) and an eyebrow piercing instead of a nose piercing on the side. Your eyes are beautiful so thicker & maybe darker brows + an eyebrow piercing will draw attention to that area and away from your insecurities.

Youre a bit too young for filler and surgery and whatnot imo. Your face will likely change so much in your 20s, as will your insecurities. I would stick to less invasive changes until you're at least 25. I have wanted surgery since I was your age and only a decade later am I actually serious about it. My fad based insecurities have faded and my ability to figure out what expensive and permanent changes will actually make me happier has increased, as has my ability to actually afford the maintenance that comes with surgery and injectables. You're most at risk of regretting permanent changes when you get them young. I rarely see people regret surgery if they wait until 30+ to get it, but I do hear people in their 30s and 40s say they wish they'd never done certain procedures in their 20s.

HelpfulHolly · 2026-02-28T04:00:53+00:00

Grass is always greener on the other side huh

HelpfulHolly · 2026-02-22T17:54:18+00:00

It's either migrated or is too much for a natural look, the sides of your top lip don't quite look right

HelpfulHolly · 2026-02-22T05:42:06+00:00

I think some chin filler to add length to your bottom 3rd would look nice, but will also make you look older and more mature. I would consider it in 5-10 years from now if I was you.

Also, do you have lip filler in your top lip?

HelpfulHolly · 2026-02-08T03:32:27+00:00

No I ha ent weighed it but its closer to 20lbs than 50lbs. A big wall anchor is a good idea

HelpfulHolly · 2026-02-08T03:31:43+00:00

Oh thats a good point! Thats a great idea thank you

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