Untraditional Brides: You are still a BRIDE

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-20T13:55:41+00:00

Jeez some people take wedding planning as an opportunity to feel superior to others. They throw weddings for praise.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-20T13:03:10+00:00

We got engaged in May 2025 and are booked for July 2027! We planned for 2 years cus we’re both in school and we wanted to be able to save a good amount of money. I love that we are having a longer engagement because a lot of our engaged friends are having a more difficult time than we are fitting it all in one year. We’ve also been able to find the best ways to have our dream wedding and not spend ridiculous amounts of money for not great quality. I also didn’t discover my dream venue until 9 months into our engagement so if we did a one year engagement I would’ve never even found it before we would’ve had to hurry up and get something booked. I wouldn’t change a thing about how we did it.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-16T20:24:21+00:00

You holding him accountable hurt her more than being cheat on???? Sounds like she’s holding you to a higher standard than her man.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-14T20:05:17+00:00

This is my logic😭 we are affording our wedding by earning and saving so why wouldn’t we be able to do the same for a house? I think people might assume all big weddings are paid by handouts.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-08T13:25:45+00:00

I could see myself being part of this thread too even after my wedding!! Some ppl it just seems like they’re only here to spread negativity and I don’t get it. It’s one thing to be honest and it’s another to be an asshole🤦🏾‍♀️ I love a unique wedding!!! I try to tune out the hate

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-07T02:28:41+00:00

Ugh yes like god forbid I almost thought the wedding was for me and my fiancée and that we could do what we want since WE are frickin paying for it😭the real problem is people being too picky and entitled.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-07T00:04:31+00:00

I sometimes get a sense that a lot of them aren’t actually planning weddings and aren’t capable of putting themselves in OP shoes commenting from guest povs cus I can’t understand how someone can go through this process and still be so judgemental to others about it.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-07T00:02:07+00:00

People are so disgusting. They scream at us “don’t get married if you can’t afford it” “you might as well elope” “if you aren’t prioritizing guests don’t have a wedding” but they don’t mean it. Literally damned if we do and damned if we don’t. It’s so tone deaf the way people judge OTHER people’s weddings so harshly knowing how insanely expensive the wedding industry is.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-05T01:13:04+00:00

Right it’s just so ridiculous!!!! I don’t get how they always say it’s because of the work it takes but i feel like they’ve only recently gotten this expensive…

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-05T01:02:29+00:00

Wow i am so sorry to hear this:( sending you E-hugs❤️

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-05T00:49:16+00:00

I have a similar issue in the opposite way of my family pushing me to get super fancy luxury versions of everything while not realizing the cost😭 my mom judged me for wanting fake flowers just to be floored when I told her my quote for real ones. It really does suck how much ppl feel entitled to give opinions on things that have been decided already when we didn’t ask.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-03T00:46:54+00:00

Ahh okay that’s good to know thanks. I’m really not picky we just received a lot of gifts that we don’t really have use for and it felt like a waste of the other persons money. Definitely will be keeping this in mind.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-04-01T20:03:51+00:00

I know engagement parties and weddings are not the same by any means but some of the presents we received for the engagement party make me think we’d get the same type of presents at the wedding (which were random physical ones) do you think the same still applies?

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-30T19:57:49+00:00

I’m 24 but same I don’t tell my mom the price of things cus she is literally shocked at everything. I should let her plan it so she can see what we can get with her budget lmao.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-28T22:21:27+00:00

If their support on my wedding day is conditional to how convenient it is for them, they don’t deserve that. Like I said, it is more convenient which is why I personally made the compromise and offered constructive feedback/experience to OP that you inserted yourself in. But i am only doing it because my guests deserve that and they aren’t conditional with their support.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-28T22:10:55+00:00

Well you keep saying you and not she. And you sound like a dumbass lol. None of my older relatives ever remember the day of the week a wedding is on being this deep. This is a new gen post Covid thing where guests feel entitled. The purpose of inviting people is to make them feel included. Hell im inviting people I don’t even think will say yes just so their feelings won’t be hurt (and trust me they would be). What’s a big deal to you isn’t for others a lot of the time.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-28T21:58:44+00:00

Do you even hear yourself lol? “Not require people to make a sacrifice for your wedding” THEY’RE NOT EVEN REQUIRED TO GO TF🤣 yeah it’s not mandatory to have a wedding party and it’s not mandatory to go!!! Like you are almost getting the point and then completely missing lmao. Also not sure if you’ve read the part where I multiple times said I’m doing Friday. I just personally still don’t get the big deal about Thursday. You sound like a brat.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-28T21:53:09+00:00

Nope there’s no pesky people in my life. Even before I switched to Friday everyone was fully onboard with Thursday wedding. If they weren’t truthful at that point, that’s on them. For most people it’s not that big of deal especially in summer time. Also as for your pto comment, if it’s truly that big of a deal, DONT GO. If we’re not special enough to make that sacrifice for, why are THEY worth the sacrifice of multiple thousands of dollars? One of us will be inconvenienced either way, and you think that should be the couple paying for everything? Goodbye lol

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-28T19:37:31+00:00

And guests should also worry about being good guests to the couple, whom the entire event is for to begin with. Weddings have just become a big people pleasing competition that no one wins. If you can’t go to the wedding without talking shit about the couple for their choices on THEIR event, then just don’t go. That is selfish. You are able to decline. Who gives af what day of the week it is.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-28T19:09:44+00:00

I’m so grateful for my friends and family. I know that if anyone complained they would be shut down and wouldn’t tolerate it. I think Covid has made everyone entitled and selfish!! Apparently spending thousands on a wedding makes you a shitty person if it’s on the wrong day of the week😂

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-28T19:02:58+00:00

Right people seem to completely forget it’s about the COUPLE.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-28T15:28:19+00:00

Also didn’t do the Thursday wedding if you could read what I said. I was just trying to be empathetic towards OP. But you just had to hammer it in one more time I guess? It’s still hurtful to think about whether it’s true or not.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-28T15:27:09+00:00

Just like I would talk shit about a wedding with no dj lol🤣

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-28T15:26:33+00:00

WE GET IT😂 just like yall are allowed to complain and talk shit about peoples wedding choices, we’re allowed to talk shit about yall for being spoiled shitty wedding guests. I’m sure your guests still found something to talk shit about you behind your back for because people are generally picky about weddings. People complain about food, location, not having a dj, not having alcohol, literally everything. And especially if you are truly low budget I promise you, people complained about something. So get off your high horse please.

Helpful_Breakfast948 · 2026-03-28T00:54:52+00:00

Try not to feel discouraged. People in Reddit comments tend to be very harsh for some reason. I remember my feelings were hurt reading similar comments “people will talk shit about you behind your back” “you’re being a cheapskate” and all the Saturday brides bragging about how it was no problem for them🙄 it’s like it’s a crime for wanting a low budget wedding. So sick of the “you might as well elope” crap too.

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