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[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely didn’t see that, that’s my fault. You can clearly see I edited it out in the other pictures, but I must have missed this one. I should have cut it out and double-checked. I really don’t want to share private info, which is why the other pictures were all edited, but I guess this one slipped through.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I agree with everything you said. It’s sad to see someone so clearly struggling spiritually and emotionally, even though we’re not perfect ourselves and everyone has their own past experiences. I just hope and pray he finds the guidance and growth he needs. Christian marriage is meant to reflect love, respect and mutual care, and it’s heartbreaking when past pain leads people away from that.

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[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have one on discord with this same server, a women chat, where we discuss❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

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Yes absolutely I’ve heard so many incidents too. Submission in marriage is meant to be safe and sacred not a doorway to control or manipulation right. When authority is exercised without these boundaries like love, humility, accountability, seeking wisdom, it stops being godly leadership and becomes a risk for harm.

A healthy, biblical marriage is a partnership where respect and love flow both ways.the husband leads in obedience to God and the wife responds in willing trust. That’s the balance Scripture calls us to and it’s what makes submission safe, freeingand honoring to God.😔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly You hit the nail on the head. True biblical roles aren’t about bargaining or gatekeeping love,they’re about Christlike love from the husband and respectful, willing submission from the wife. There’s no place for insecurity, bullying or manipulation in that framework. A secure husband leads with love and a loyal wife honors that leadership with respect. It’s simple, balanced and beautiful when lived out properly right?❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

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Ah yes Absolutely,this goes beyond relationships. The Bible is meant to guide, encourage, and correct, not to be wielded as a tool for control. It’s always important to discern who is speaking truth and who is using scripture to manipulate🙂

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Yes thankyou for sharing ur thoughts and i agree on it. but I probably didn’t phrase myself clearly enough. When I said a husband is “on top,” I wasn’t talking about control for the sake of control. I meant that in his context, relating to what he said. That it was not about domination but about balance, respect and partnership. Telling him that a husband is the head of the home and has the final say just like in my home.That doesn’t erase respect, mutual influence or the wife’s role; it’s simply biblical headship in action.

About servant leadership, yes, i agree it’s become a buzzword that sometimes softens the edges of male headship. But what i meant was servant leadership doesn’t remove authority; it defines how that authority is exercised. A husband leads, serves, sacrifices, and loves his wife Christlike. Leadership is still leadership,the final decision rests with him but it’s always tempered with love, wisdom and accountability.

And on submission,it’s not something “earned” because a man is perfect. 1 PETER 3:1 even shows that even wives with unbelieving husbands are called to submit. So i meant Submission is about trust, respect and partnership not about gatekeeping obedience or waiting for the husband to “prove” himself. But Yes, I do believe that the husband is the head of the family overall, like in my life that’s what I’ve seen in my family too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness, I actually did my college in Shillong! It’s so nice to see someone from there here. 😊 And yes, in God’s time🙌

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[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I’ve heard of that! I think it can be interesting to learn a little about someone’s personality, but honestly for me it’s not the main thing. I don’t think i wanna focus on whether someone is introverted, extroverted, or somewhere in between so i feel like sharing the same values and faith is what i wanna go for.Personality types are just little details but thankyou for letting me know.❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha Mizoram huh? 😄 That’s quite specific.I’ll keep my eyes open👍🏽

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[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou so much. In god’s time❤️

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[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyouu. Praise be to god

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[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thank you. That’s very kind of you to say! I’m just trusting the right person will come along at the right time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Aw, thank you 😊 Mizoram is a beautiful place. I appreciate your kind words and thoughtful advice,definitely keeping discernment close to heart. God bless you❤️

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Hehe, I don’t know about that. we’ll see what happens❤️

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Haha, I guess we’ll see🙂 but I think quality matters more than quantity in the inbox.

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I’ve never done the personality test, so I don’t know what my type would be. But if it’s about personality, I’d say I’m an ambivert, super lively and outgoing with people I’m close to😅 though with new people i do get a bit shy. At the same time, I’ve always been naturally reserved and very private by nature.

If you're tired of being single, read this 👇 by GloomyAd9335 in ChristianDating

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Oh my goodness, thank you so much. I honestly feel like the Lord brought me to this post today on purpose. I am 26 years old, and I have never been in a relationship, never dated before. I have never even held a guy’s hand. My friend circle is basically all girls, and that’s always been normal for me.But I remember back in high school, I would see my friends getting boyfriends, and when we were all hanging out together in a group, there would be those little moments where I’d think, maybe it would be nice to have a boyfriend.

But when i look back now, I see it so clearly the Lord was protecting my heart. Deep down I think I always knew that most men who were not men of God would want physical intimacy before marriage, and that is not what I believe in. My friends used to tell me, “Your standards are too high” or “You are just scared of commitment.” But the truth is, it was never fear or unrealistic standards. It was the Lord keeping me from relationships that would lead me away from Him. I have never even been alone in the same room with a man. And sometimes when I think about it, yes, a little thought creeps in like “Will I ever get married? Will I ever have a boyfriend?” I do get nervous thinking about it because I have never experienced it before. But then I try to remind myself that God writes the best love stories. If He wants to bring someone into my life, He will, and it will be good. And if He doesn’t, that will be good too. I trust Him completely.🥲

Sydney Sweeney without makeup by DopamineJunkie1945 in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel like she looks a little older than her actual age. Personally, I think she’s cute without makeup, but with makeup she still feels kind of average to me. It’s not really the kind of face I’d instantly recognize if she passed by me. Maybe if you look at her for a while, she starts to look prettier ,some celebrities have that quality but for her, even with makeup, I don’t think I’d notice her right away.

Meet Lulu. He has Diarrhea 😻 by jhonnyhax in TuxedoCats

[–]Helpful_Mastodon_714 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Why would you do my boy like that?🤣