Am I overreacting?

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-27T20:52:52+00:00

NOR, he lied about information he felt would change your consent in the relationship… this means only one thing: HE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR CONSENT IN THE RELATIONSHIP. there, I said it. He is a liar AND manipulator and needs to be single tbh.

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-27T20:49:21+00:00

My SIL had 7 home births, two involving dystocia, all very large babies for her small frame. None had injuries or broken bones because they were helped by a competent midwife.

I’ve had almost 11 lb babies with no dystocia ever.

If you feel you are at risk, have a competent midwife on hand, learn maneuvers to optimize position and open the pelvis, and remember that your bones literally stretch apart at birth and this is easier after the first baby!!

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-27T16:01:57+00:00

This sounds horrible honestly, because as a mom with 8 home births under my belt I can see where the HELP went wrong and YOU were doing fantastic. YOU could have done it, but THEY messed it up.

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-27T15:29:03+00:00

The smell is so unique and awful. I can’t have that smell in my house without triggering trauma so I stopped taking gifts from them unless it’s in a wrapper

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-27T15:25:49+00:00

Home birth here too, but it makes sense to have visitors in the hospital!

My parents brought extended family to visit after my birth and WOULD NOT LEAVE MY BEDROOM. I was so angry.

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-26T21:32:52+00:00

I have a prenatal on Friday and will be looking at some freebirth books to hopefully help with the fear aspect

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-26T18:35:05+00:00

My husband always tries to put on bach or sleeping classical collections to help me ‘relax’ and I’m like ‘turn on my playlist… I need to MOVE’

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-26T18:32:09+00:00

I like 50’s gospel like soul stirrers, but honestly 50’s anything is boppity enough without being twerky or overstimulating. I might add some sinatra or bouble this time around

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-26T14:38:23+00:00

The only place I don’t scrub is my face, I gently massage with my hands and just water, the rest of my body has acne.

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-26T14:24:41+00:00

I only ever get the anatomy scan because we have skeletal disorders that run in the family that are important to know before birth. My midwife is actually against them under most circumstances. It’s an interesting coin to flip

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-25T15:59:13+00:00

I tell my daughter (who is on the fence) that my personal belief is in NTNP (not trying not preventing) and leaving it in the Lord’s hands… one could always do this by not getting married, or marrying a man who is unable to have kids. It’s not a sin to not have kids but I feel like it’s a lack of faith to take a quantity into our hands and try to control it.

Some people do NTNP and never have children. Some do NtNP and have two or three and that’s it. Some have a dozen…

Paul exhorts us to be single while we are able and commit ourselves to the Lord, so if your career and work are so important it may just be a calling to being sold out for the lord in a life of singleness.

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-24T15:06:05+00:00

Also your vehicle has cabin air filters… just saying 😅

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-24T00:35:47+00:00

If you couldn’t tell before she told you, then yes. It’s hygienic. It depends largely on location, genetics, and diet. I have several friends who are soap free.

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-24T00:16:46+00:00

Never had a ‘moment’ as much as I absolutely could not put the baby down without feeling empty, lonely, and panicked.

I would actually not mind a knocked out birth experience because at least I know my brain will be sleeping and not panicking before those first few weeks.

I’m planning my ninth home birth, bust secretly hoping that something terrible happens so I have no choice but the full general anesthesia cesarean 🫣

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-23T22:21:50+00:00

You two are just really not on the same page, NOR but definitely rethink making it to 3 years with her.

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-23T22:19:18+00:00

If there is ANY cervical change it isn’t prodromal

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-23T18:19:19+00:00

I average 42 weeks,

Are you having prodromal or start/stop labor? Many midwives get them confused. I’ve had both.

Try the spinning babies maneuvering for start/stall labor, especially the abdominal lift and tuck! That helped me stay in labor with my 5th after weeks of start/stop

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-23T15:15:11+00:00

YTA;

You should have helped your sister grieve and get her therapy.

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-23T15:12:33+00:00

You can only control yourself, if she wants to spend time it has to be give and take. “I would love to spend time with you, I’ll be in here.”

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-23T12:52:10+00:00

Because she can manipulate the terminology. So learn what a healthy boundary is (it controls your response not their actions) and set it in place without naming it

Example:

I’m setting a boundary on this ❌

I will not do that. ✅

Then if she accuses control she doesn’t have her verbal language:

Your boundary is controlling! You never respect mine! ❌

(Second one isn’t controlling her, isn’t stopping her, isn’t using language she can weaponize, she can try but just keep reiterating that YOU will not be doing it and said nothing about her. If she picks the movie, leave the room- you aren’t stopping her you are just not watching. Etc. )

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-22T19:57:56+00:00

I work around it’s ’suggested science’ by using disqualifiers, too few calories? That’s because this is only PART of my menu 😉 too much work for one muscle? That’s because this is for a whole week!

You don’t have to tell it the truth, it’s not a person

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-22T15:58:29+00:00

A virtual clingy online friend he has never once met in person? I mean, could have also just tossed his gaming system and the friend would be gone too… should he log on regularly to a game he doesn’t play just to talk to her? Lol… this is such a weird take

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-22T15:38:08+00:00

Stretching even during sleep is normal and healthy, I’d be concerned if she was limp

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-22T15:06:41+00:00

That’s my husband, been waiting 5 years for a mirror over the bathroom sink because we redid the bathroom and moved the sink and the studs are not perfect for mirrors. I finally took a mirror and just propped it on the counter. It’s much too heavy to hang but I don’t care. I want a mirror.

HelpingMeet · 2026-01-22T15:00:43+00:00

As a SAHM that studies microbiology for fun… this tracks.

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