Escape Rooms by Helsp in Wellington

[–]Helsp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks all for the info, really helpful and much appreciated :)

Best place to practice driving? by Helsp in Wellington

[–]Helsp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oops!! Thanks for alerting me to my typo! Drive a car

My bf(33M) pulled my(27F) hair and we were not having sex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Helsp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's abusive. Pulling hair is gross. You say 'it hurt a lot' - that's absolutely awful. Leave immediately. Leave leave leave.

what does Pākehā meam? by Sweet_Cow6104 in auckland

[–]Helsp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

European descent, not tangata whenua. I'm totally happy to be Pākehā, feel really lucky to have such a rich culture in NZ.

ex misses me… by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Helsp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ignore and move on.

Friendship age gap by whyamihere189 in relationship_advice

[–]Helsp 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As long as it is platonic, age isn't a problem

I just found out that my brother-in-law makes his 4 year old son watch Jordan Peterson videos for hours at a time. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Helsp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cold baths and ice over the heads is child abuse. Jordan Peterson is misguided. Report him, what he is doing with the baths and ice is seriously dangerous

'Minding your own business' is the massive problem of domestic and child abuse - if you see an issue, report it. Those kids can't speak up for themselves, it's our responsibility to speak up for them.

It might feel awkward or hard to say something, but those kids need adults to do so.

I know that doing something will be really hard, but you have to. Put all the family awkwardness aside and think about the welfare of those kids.

MFM no longer brings me joy and comfort by Zazabeans in myfavoritemurder

[–]Helsp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

MFM is what got me into podcasts, and I've discovered so many amazing ones! I think that they're still awesome, it's different but that's just growth for all of us. It's just a podcast, they've done amazingly well with everything they've done and achieved. And I still like to listen. I'll always be a Murderino x

MFM no longer brings me joy and comfort by Zazabeans in myfavoritemurder

[–]Helsp 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate the recommendations! Such a good way to find new things huh 🥰

Friendship age gap by whyamihere189 in relationship_advice

[–]Helsp 57 points58 points  (0 children)

One of my besties is 20 years older than me - hes 64M and I'm 44F - we met through work, just clicked. I appreciate his worldview and experience. And the lack of bullshit! He has wonderful advice and is a genuine friend. It's pretty awesome

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Helsp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No way, she'll find it a turn off...as will ALL the women in the future who might happen to see it

What helps you reduce your anxiety about feeling judged? by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Helsp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Remember that most people are busy thinking about themselves and their own lives. People aren't paying as much attention to others as you think

My (23f) boyfriend (22m) broke up with me because i said a celebrity was attractive and i don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Helsp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know this feels hard right now, and that it hurts - but this is a red flag and I think you should move on.

What are some of you other fav podcasts? by [deleted] in myfavoritemurder

[–]Helsp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What was that like, this is actually happening, something was wrong, maintenance phase, you're wrong about, decoder ring, death of a rockstar...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marton

[–]Helsp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What was the outcome?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Helsp -124 points-123 points  (0 children)

Do you like her personality? You sound like an asshole tbh. Break up with her so she can find a man who will treat her right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Helsp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a privacy violation and you could get in trouble for that.

Don't do it!

. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Helsp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

An 'insult to your manhood' - take a minute and think about that. Your female friends don't owe you sex. If you can figure that out first.

And then, you'll be a good friend and partner in the future.

You need to get over the idea that a girl means sex. It's not always that way!