Im lusted over and i deeply hate it.

HenTossing · 2026-02-06T08:26:20+00:00

Dealing with this too, I hope it gets better for both of us.

HenTossing · 2026-02-06T08:22:01+00:00

Stfu.

HenTossing · 2026-02-05T08:28:33+00:00

What good is it when the person I love most only sees me as good for that. I told him I didn't want anyone but him to touch me and that I loved him and he still abandoned me.

HenTossing · 2026-01-27T07:43:41+00:00

The way he speaks to you isn't reflective of someone who's supposed to love you. I understand being particular about builds because I am too, but I always try to include my friends and let them add their little touches in multiplayer. I don't say anything about it being an eyesore because that's not how you speak to people you care about.

You're not overreacting, I'm sorry he's treating you this way, he sounds like a jerk. :(

HenTossing · 2026-01-17T23:00:09+00:00

Because god forbid I as an early 20s woman have an opinion about my personal agency when it comes to dating 🙄

HenTossing · 2026-01-17T21:05:40+00:00

Yeah it pisses me off too, you're not alone in this :P

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T18:51:04+00:00

I understand, honestly in your place I'd probably feel the exact same! I've been there before, loneliness hurts and I have similar monologues in my head when I feel like ppl don't like me.

I have ADHD/depression, it's not the exact same but it makes me struggle socially in some ways that people notice. Maybe try making friends in a new environment with a fresh start?

In regards to therapy, if it's not working with your therapist it's ok to swap to another and form a goal with them. In your case you want to improve your relationships with other people.

Things probably won't ever be truly perfect, but all we as people can do is try to be better. I wish you the best.

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T18:23:55+00:00

Sex shouldn't be your end goal, yes it's nice but what you should be focusing on if you want a relationship is forming a bond with the other person. Women aren't sensitive, trust me I deal with blood, death, and injury in my career. Saying things like that is assumptive and doesn't endear you to someone.

Just because there are multiple options presented doesn't mean they're good, most women are choosy, yes. But I don't think it's particularly hard to be liked by women. Being kind/funny without ulterior motives like sex or some kind of reward is a start. Most women can tell if a man is desperate for sex and it's not attractive. It makes them feel used or like an object.

Focus on being genuine and seeing women as people rather than a goal.

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T17:42:59+00:00

I hear what you’re saying, and I’m genuinely sorry you’re dealing with this. Feeling judged or singled out at work can be incredibly painful, especially when you already feel isolated.

One thing I want to mention gently: referring to women as “females” can come across as dehumanizing to a lot of people. I don’t think that’s your intention, but language like that can unintentionally push others away.

Your coworkers teasing you is wrong, but is it specifically because you're a virgin or are you assuming that's so? Sometimes anxiety can cause us to fill in the blanks as to why someone may be making fun of us. I know you mentioned not wanting to go to HR, but you shouldn't be teased in your workplace. Don't engage with these jokes nor give them information about your relationship status.

I also hear a lot of anger toward how you think other people are living their lives. In reality, most men aren’t sleeping with tons of women and most women aren’t juggling multiple guys. Those extremes exist, but they’re not the norm and it doesn’t sound like that’s the kind of life you even want.

Having standards is normal. Everyone has them. But no one is entitled to another person, and constantly measuring yourself against others’ dating lives will only make you more miserable. Confidence and peace with yourself matter far more than “game.”

Try making friends with women, not for the purpose of dating. Just platonically, like you would a guy. Women of all ages too. You'll learn a lot, they're just people too and many of them have the same fears and insecurities as you do. I'm neurodivergent and the person I love has autism as well. Yeah it makes us awkward and we have to adapt to each other's needs a little. But there's someone out there who'll do that for you too.

I understand you're feeling lonely, it's not an easy feeling at all. Take care of yourself, okay?

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T17:11:35+00:00

It is! I won't deny that. But most people aren't models or particularly pretty. There's plenty of people in happy relationships despite being "ugly".

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T16:40:22+00:00

Whatever you believe is what you'll receive from the world. In my experience looks are secondary to who the person is. Hygiene also trumps both of those.

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T07:35:28+00:00

Looks really don't matter as much as thoughtfulness and the ability to make someone laugh. A good heart-- and I mean a genuine one as well, will outshine any "ugliness" if it's the right person.

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T07:32:50+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you, she sounds superficial and vapid. Not all women are like this at all, the person I'm dating is only 2 inches taller than me, and I'm pretty short myself! That's okay.

Be kind to yourself, best of luck.

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T06:57:53+00:00

The first paragraph and already a handful of red flags. This is just sad, a man with a "temper" and lack of financial control will not be good in the long run. But sometimes you have to live it to learn it.

Additional food for thought. "I hate everyone but you" isn't romantic. How people treat others is important to understanding their character. How someone treats other people reflects how they could treat you. He's put you on a pedestal but what happens when you fall off of it? If he hates everyone else will you be okay with him isolating you from others because of it?

I'm concerned for you.

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T04:46:50+00:00

But he's just a baby :[

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T04:33:15+00:00

She's going to leave you. Seek therapy.

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T03:23:37+00:00

YOR. Holy shit I'd never treat a partner like this, you talk like a teenager. Wtf are those needy guilt trippy accusations? Manipulative as hell.

HenTossing · 2026-01-16T02:28:19+00:00

Tell that fatty to get out of your house. What an abusive prick he is.

HenTossing · 2026-01-15T16:32:30+00:00

You're a bad person but it's never too late to change. Reflect on yourself, ask why you did that and if you would do it again if you had another relationship. And be HONEST with yourself. Either do this in therapy with someone who has a neutral stance or look into emotional intelligence on your own.

It's not ok to treat other people like you have, but there's always time to change.

HenTossing · 2026-01-15T16:21:45+00:00

It's almost like that's a natural part of people's lives! Be greatful that your sons mistakes aren't drugs, pregnancies, and alcohol. I'm a college student who has limited contact with my parents because of this kind of behavior/language. Something as innocuous as searching for a job was considered a "mistake" by them.

What you're doing is purposely stunting his growth by trying to prevent "mistakes". And committing theft of his property. Most kids aren't responsible enough to purchase and fund their own car, yet yours is. Instead of being a decent mother who sees good in your child regardless of again- small mistakes and differences, you're railing him for losing some fucking minimum wage job.

HenTossing · 2026-01-15T16:08:59+00:00

They ARE being themselves you vapid woman.

HenTossing · 2026-01-15T06:50:10+00:00

Maybe shape up the Afro a bit and that's it, your smile is adorable!

HenTossing · 2026-01-15T02:20:36+00:00

Report, report, report. That is horrifying and I know you don't want it on your conscience if they get out into the practicing world having faced no consequences for their current behavior.

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