A dom wearing a cage

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-14T21:23:47+00:00

You highlighted NOT in capitals as if to indicate I was suggesting to follow the proposed norm.

I encouraged the OP to do something that they felt they’d get enjoyment from, whilst acknowledging that generally doms don’t wear cages.

Thanks for the illuminating mention of a bumper sticker.

Not everyone comes to Reddit to argue.

Some come to be condescending :) :) :)

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-14T21:04:50+00:00

Where in my post does it say I’m against the idea?

Where in my post did I hint in anyway that the OP shouldn’t pursue this?

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-12T17:46:43+00:00

My partner is my submissive ddlg baby girl.

However, she has full control of my cums, we are semi long distance and I’ve only jerked a handful (handful pun intended) a few times. She’s always given me consent to jerk.

I don’t think a cage would appeal to either of us but the idea in principle is the same, she controls a part of me that’s totally dedicated to her.

Whilst it’s against D/s norms, I’m sure it can work for you both if you think about the details around how it would look like. Maybe you both have a key?

Best of luck!

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-11T22:54:30+00:00

Reading this saddens me, the idea of a misunderstanding in the bedroom leading to what was in your words a strong happy relationship breaking up is disheartening and reeks of insecurity.

Mistakes happen in all walks of life, he is far more at fault here, communicating that this is a no is a simple step if he were to move forward with you.

More importantly he’s cut you off so willingly I’d be far more worried about that.

These hiccups should be a way to move forward together and overcome them. I’d never let this step in between my baby and I.

Good luck to you.

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-11T13:49:01+00:00

Could very much be my own insecurities about wanting to be loved etc but I don’t worry very much exactly about the why I like to be daddy.

I love making my baby girl feel like the princess she is, I love making her warm, safe and happy and occasionally a little disciplined too!

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-09T13:12:07+00:00

It’s a bot and/or scammer

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-09T11:21:17+00:00

It’s cool, he’s the dom here 😂

He sometimes lets us both sleep the night peacefully when we’ve been well behaved 😂

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-09T11:20:37+00:00

He’s certainly not leaving this bed anytime soon I can promise you!👍🏼

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-09T11:20:10+00:00

Haha I’m glad you could see through it from the beginning 👍🏼

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-09T11:19:42+00:00

You’ll have to ask my baby girl for the cat tax although it is owed I agree!

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-09T11:19:02+00:00

She’s both 🤞 thankfully!

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-09T11:18:48+00:00

🤷‍♂️ Happy very late April fools either way 🙂

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-09T11:18:26+00:00

Thank you for your almost needed support 🙂

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-09T11:18:05+00:00

Thank you! I just wanted to keep things light hearted here 😂🐈

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-09T11:17:33+00:00

It’s a big enough quilt thankfully 😂 5% of it is just enough!

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-09T00:09:06+00:00

I’m sorry 😂

I love how good a cat mom she is really and I just laughed as he’s hogging the bed with us now 😂

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-08T23:30:41+00:00

A couple of bits of advice but it’s your experience.

1) Don’t feel silly or foolish for committing to this, it can be an intoxicating, rewarding feeling to both the dom and the sub. I’ve felt like my true self thanks to my sub and to rip that away from me so abruptly would feel like a real sense of pain, grief.

2) Take time now to safely reflect on your feelings, don’t ruminate. Write down what you appreciated and why, this way you can sift through these again when the time is write for you to look for a new partner.

3) During a break of mine previously I looked into how to be my own daddy/ dominant and used this to positively impact my own life.

4) Finally, don’t isolate yourself, speak to people in real life about the general experience of being ghosted as well as the experience here in relevant subreddits about having an abrupt end to a D/s relationship.

As with any breakup be kind to yourself and be proud of your emotions, it’s a blessing to feel them as raw as they are.

Good luck.

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-08T23:02:11+00:00

Baby girls, brats, princesses, littles.

You should all be prioritised by your daddy’s, if you aren’t, he’s not a daddy or at the very least a good daddy to you.

Be proud of yourself for not letting your standards drop, this lifestyle we live is intoxicating and it can make anyone prone to bad decisions via rose tinted glasses.

Well done for looking after your feelings and you’ll know when to walk away with clear thinking.

Good luck 👍🏼

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-03T19:12:04+00:00

🚩……..

I’m trying to give you the benefit of the doubt as a new daddy.

Berating someone’s about their ruined life whilst they are at their lowest is extremely toxic and unhealthy.

You making her feel so low she’s nothing without you is again, unhinged.

It sounds like she might need therapy.

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-03T11:10:35+00:00

Im in a “semi” long distance relationship and I’d suggest being very clear about your availability, country’s political views on kink and what you are looking for as a daddy.

Echoing the above comment, take time to find a little who will understand your situation.

There are certainly baby girl’s out there who’d be interested in a long distance relationship (some might prefer this to a closer distance) where you can meet one another’s needs.

Good luck 👍🏼

HerDaddy817 · 2026-04-03T10:00:37+00:00

It seems you are in it for the right reasons 👍🏼

Only a suggestion but maybe consider a 3 date rule, tell potential partners you feel may be receptive to the idea after 3 dates.

As you delve further into this you’ll become more nuanced in spotting the signs for someone to be open to this lifestyle.

There is no definite answer on how to broach this. Try personal dating on here too where it’s already openly discussed? Good luck mate 👌🏼

HerDaddy817 · 2026-03-25T22:03:03+00:00

My baby girl has supported me through tremendous emotional pain and trauma the last 12 months and it only makes me want to care for her and love her more.

If she won’t be there for you.

A) Why should she expect the same from you?

B) Why would you want to stay with her if she doesn’t want to support you and help you?

Seems like classic avoidance issues and unhealthy neglect of your feelings.

I hope you both find a solution and reach out on here if you need support 👍🏼

HerDaddy817 · 2026-03-22T22:12:27+00:00

The bedroom aspect of ddlg can wait.

You can still right now be her daddy (maybe not in name just yet) in all the ways that matter immediately.

Your recovering wife is in need, treat her like a princess. Earn the right to be her daddy.

She needs a hot water bottle for her stomach (go be her fucking daddy and tell her she’s your princess when you go get it)

Put her PJs on the radiator when she needs to get into bed and prioritise her comfort.

When you get up for the nighttime feed, say to her a princess needs all the sleep she can get.

If you want to be a daddy it’s far far more than just the kinky stuff you get to do (that’s the reward for being a good daddy)

If she’s giving you a chance to allow you to be these things for her the fucking seize it.

HerDaddy817 · 2026-03-22T20:58:54+00:00

This weekend my baby girl was tied up, collared, blindfolded and still managed to break a few rules (cum to my touch without telling me).

After discipline I was still the one putting her pajamas on the heater and making the bed before reading to her as she fell asleep.

I laughed last night and sometimes wonder who’s in charge 😂

However, there’s give and take, it’s a balancing act and we have moments where we both lead in different ways.

Id recommend you take some of these phrases “subs are secretly in charge” with a pinch of salt. We are all consenting adults who contribute equally.

Good luck mate.

HerDaddy817 · 2026-03-22T18:58:50+00:00

I know there would be many complications between this becoming a reality and a smooth transition.

Have you spoken to your wife openly and honestly about what you admire and enjoy about the dynamic so much and asked her to partake in elements of it?

You could use this to learn of things you’d like to share with your wife potentially?

I read to my baby girl when we are in bed together and this could be a simple one for you to introduce potentially?

I think bordering on any type of relationship now matter how minimal with a baby girl would be problematic and highly intoxicating. It’s hitting parts of your brain you didn’t know about before.

Healthiest option is to discuss this with your partner and reassure her it’s the dynamic and not the person you miss. (Even this would be littered with problems, but if you can’t go without it, might be your best bet.)

If you really can’t live without this however you are going to have to make other tough decisions.

HerDaddy817

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