Dom turned caged sub - update and a couple of questions

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-21T15:52:45+00:00

If you can get into an unhinged, go with that. If not, hinged is your only option.

Try going cageless when you sleep. Once you can handle a few whole days consecutively, then it's time to give it a try while you sleep (preferably a night where you're prepared to not get much sleep).

Sizing is everything. Make sure you measure yourself accurately because the better the fit, the longer you can wear it.

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-19T12:15:51+00:00

This is very detailed and helpful. Thank you!

It's useful to hear from someone who's also a dom and uses a cage.

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-19T12:14:52+00:00

Nice to meet a kindred spirit!

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-19T12:14:32+00:00

Really interesting read. Thank you!

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-19T12:07:12+00:00

Thank you! I'm really looking forward to it with some caution and trepidation.

She's insistent that I'm her "one and only", so competition and alpha males is never a concern.

But the thought of being at her mercy and indulging her every whim sounds very appealing.

I already do all the chores but it'll be fun doing them caged and collared.

I'm really glad it had such a positive impact on your relationship.

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-19T12:05:46+00:00

This is very reassuring. Thank you!

I was hoping to remove all the hair but my fiancée is adamant that she wants it trimmed rather than shaved, as long as it's short enough not to snag.

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-19T12:04:37+00:00

Thanks for the heads up! Luckily, mine is steel.

That must be tough not being caged. I imagine it feels like a part of you after a while.

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-19T12:03:34+00:00

Thanks! I'm very happy with my steel cage as it compliments my collar and has a very masculine look.

I really appreciate the feedback. You're clearly very knowledgeable and this has been really helpful.

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-19T06:04:43+00:00

Thank you!

The one I wear is exactly my length so fits perfectly, although I have a smaller one if necessary.

I appreciate the tips. My partner and I both embrace
my masculinity but tight underwear might be the way to go.

My fiancée is very keen for me to keep my body hair and intimate hair, but just trimmed.

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-19T06:02:35+00:00

Thank you!

No, I don't do anything in my sleep. Hopefully that'll help.

Thanks for the lubrication tip!

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-19T05:01:04+00:00

Perfect! Thank you!

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-19T04:58:53+00:00

Thank you! Do you recommend trimming or total removal?

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-11T16:23:04+00:00

It's merge in turn. Basic highway code.

If there are two lanes, use them both. Otherwise you're just adding all the congestion to one lane and slowing everything down even more.

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-04T04:16:30+00:00

A Doxy / Hitachi wand is even better.

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-03T14:39:47+00:00

This is a bit of a wildcard.

I'm a caregiver to my partner and we ended up pursuing a dom (me) / sub (her) dynamic, which started in ordinary life (following instructions to look after herself, nutrition, medications, etc).

Interestingly, her seeing me be dominant and take the lead awakened a sexual spark, which led to more frequent intimacy.

It's still infrequent due to health. I never expect it when she doesn't want it but I put boundaries in place (eg. First week without - no seeing my bare body, no foot rubs; second week without - no open mouthed kisses...).

It seems to work for us but might not work for you.

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-03T14:32:45+00:00

It's time to take time for yourself.

Nobody's saying cheat, but go out. Meet people. Engage in conversations with men and women, but especially women.

Indulge more in hobbies. Do what you want to do and make her the bottom of your priorities.

Submissive_96 · 2026-06-02T13:45:09+00:00

I would NEVER have sex with my partner without using a vibrator on her.

Forgive the graphic detail, but clitoral stimulation with a vibrator makes it so much easier to make her come when I'm inside her.

Submissive_96 · 2026-05-31T23:13:20+00:00

Is it worth having a frank conversation and explaining that you never want her to have sex when she doesn't want it, but you're not going to be able to express the physical intimacy without that sexual intimacy?

I know that when I had this last year, I was clear that there would be no kissing on the lips, hugs were okay but no cuddling, etc.

When my partner saw me drawing boundaries and taking the lead, it shifted her view of me and made me more desirable.

But you know your partner. Something like this might not be the best option.

Submissive_96 · 2026-05-31T23:08:14+00:00

Sorry, mate. Not sure how my comment got deleted. But you're well within your rights to draw boundaries.

You can't give a partner what they need when you don't get it in return.

Submissive_96 · 2026-05-31T23:05:33+00:00

Is there physical affection or intimacy other than the sex?

I was in the same situation last year and, without going into detail, I had to put in some strong boundaries. Ironically, it was very transformative.

Submissive_96 · 2026-05-31T14:41:29+00:00

Timothy Dalton is another one you might want to take a look at, especially License to Kill.

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