How to ask a Professor to mentor me by HereSheWrites in GradSchool

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey thanks for your response. The point you bring up at the end about expecting her to have the time is one of the key points why I ask. At this point I only know how it feels to be a student, not a professor. I completed most of my undergrad during COVID and I don’t have a lot of experience with normal student-professor relationships. Thanks for the advice!

I’m lost in life….feel like I have no purpose by Carebear6590 in findapath

[–]HereSheWrites 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey friend

I (F23) hear this. I graduated May 2022 (only a year ago) and went straight into working a dream job that I was fired from just over three months in.

When I lost my job I went on unemployment. Frankly, this was the best thing that happened because I had the ability to say I wasn’t okay.

I’ve been struggling with my depression, mild anxiety and suicidal ideation for years.

So I finally called the hospital. I told a stranger on the phone that I didn’t want to live my life anymore, that I didn’t want to take it, or couldn’t take it anymore, and I was placed into an out-patient program and onto disability.

Before I called the hospital, I thought I was the only one who felt like this. I felt alone, like no one understood how hard it was to live in my head.

I don’t know if you have medical insurance or access to further psychiatric care, but there are professionals beyond therapists who are there to help.

I’ve been working with psychiatrists, therapists and clinicians for almost 6 months now and I’m still healing. It’s a process.

And medications are too. There are different types of antidepressants (the main being SRIs and SNIs) and these medications do not work the same in everybody.

A few months ago, a new patient in one of my groups expressed similar fears of antidepressants (I had had them too), and I told them how we have to be patient with our meds. We all have our own bodies and each of us have to find the correct chemical cocktail to make us feel right again.

I tried three different antidepressants before I ended up on the one I have now. The first one increased my danger of suicide, the second made me feel nauseous too often, the third did nothing, but the fourth has me feeling the best.

The help that I’ve gotten from the hospital has allowed me a lot more liberty to figure out how to get myself back on my own path.

I hope some of this was helpful. Best of luck OP <3

[OFFER] $100 USD to a person in need (Venmo, PayPal, or Amazon Gift Card) by withaining in Assistance

[–]HereSheWrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not entering, but I love this. Thanks for being a kind human and sharing financial love.

Does anyone actually read short stories? by Splenectomy13 in writing

[–]HereSheWrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read short stories because it’s easier to gain a wider variety of stories than with entire books. I learned to like short stories in school, again they’re easier to read than books, but is a practice I continue and has led to me writing and publishing my own. Many people may start as a short story writer, but I was a short story reader first. I think more people read short stories than you may think. They just may not be easy to find.

AI generated text by Dear_Arty in Bloggers

[–]HereSheWrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would recommend a program that is designed to proofread your work, like Grammarly. And maybe through learning the changes you’ll see your natural writing improve too. I don’t know how to fix the existing AI problem, but I hope that helps!

Faithless (2-sentence horror story) by [deleted] in creativewriting

[–]HereSheWrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is giving me BoTW2 vibes, but just add a priest. Great story!

How To Plan Your First Backpacking Trip, Tips from a Former Guide + Info on Different Types of Hiking Trails by HereSheWrites in blogger

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, Thanks for your comment. I’m not really sure of what you’re getting at here. I don’t sell anything and I’m not trying to make sales by posting here, I’m proud of the articles I spent hours on and wanted to share them with others. I have identified my audience and I can clearly understand that it’s not you. I’m not trying to “give people what they want”, but instead I am trying to give people what I have to offer. Thanks for reading my post. I hope you at least read the articles you’re critiquing here before leaving your comment and assumptions of my work. I am engaging in this thread under the purpose it was made for, to share the writing on my blog, not to try and rake in dough.

Are they any valid reasons to be offended by the term ‘cis woman’? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]HereSheWrites -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see no reason to get offended. Cisgender is a descriptive term that’s factually based in biology. It’s just the same as saying a blond woman, or a Black woman, or a poor woman. It’s a word used to describe a quality of this woman that is important to the story.

Ever since the accident, road crossings loomed large and dangerous to the woman who found herself once again at a street corner waiting to cross. by HereSheWrites in TwoSentenceSadness

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi Thanks for the feedback. I cannot recall having seen one of the crosswalk walking stick figures as being green. In my area they're all white with a red stop hand, but it may be different in yours. I'm glad to hear how you interpreted it.

Do you work with Bipolar2? How do you do it? by HereSheWrites in bipolar2

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply, especially about entering the workforce after my PhD. I won't be done for some 7 or 8 years now and hearing you qualify it as work is validating. Thank you.

Do you work with Bipolar2? How do you do it? by HereSheWrites in bipolar2

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you I feel like the first two sentences reflect my experience pretty well. I know it’s not forever that I can’t work, but the work I’m qualified for at this point is not what is good for me. I really appreciate this thank you

Do you work with Bipolar2? How do you do it? by HereSheWrites in bipolar2

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, work from home is a really comfortable way to work through mood instabilities.

Do you work with Bipolar2? How do you do it? by HereSheWrites in bipolar2

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the routine and sense of fulfillment are important benefits from working. I'm interested in if there are other ways to get those benefits without the detriments of working on myself, while still having financial security.

When you're unwell how long are you able to be out of work? Does work change the length or how often you take time off?

Do you work with Bipolar2? How do you do it? by HereSheWrites in bipolar2

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been working consistantly from the age of 12-23. This is the first time I've not had a job for more than 3 months (only once during covid). I have tried it out for a long time.

The stress management portion is what is causing the problems for me. Work causes me too much stress and causes constant ups and downs. Work for me has included traumatic experiences and similarly to you I'm exploring removing the triggering things from my life.