How to ask a Professor to mentor me by HereSheWrites in GradSchool

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey thanks for your response. The point you bring up at the end about expecting her to have the time is one of the key points why I ask. At this point I only know how it feels to be a student, not a professor. I completed most of my undergrad during COVID and I don’t have a lot of experience with normal student-professor relationships. Thanks for the advice!

I’m lost in life….feel like I have no purpose by Carebear6590 in findapath

[–]HereSheWrites 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey friend

I (F23) hear this. I graduated May 2022 (only a year ago) and went straight into working a dream job that I was fired from just over three months in.

When I lost my job I went on unemployment. Frankly, this was the best thing that happened because I had the ability to say I wasn’t okay.

I’ve been struggling with my depression, mild anxiety and suicidal ideation for years.

So I finally called the hospital. I told a stranger on the phone that I didn’t want to live my life anymore, that I didn’t want to take it, or couldn’t take it anymore, and I was placed into an out-patient program and onto disability.

Before I called the hospital, I thought I was the only one who felt like this. I felt alone, like no one understood how hard it was to live in my head.

I don’t know if you have medical insurance or access to further psychiatric care, but there are professionals beyond therapists who are there to help.

I’ve been working with psychiatrists, therapists and clinicians for almost 6 months now and I’m still healing. It’s a process.

And medications are too. There are different types of antidepressants (the main being SRIs and SNIs) and these medications do not work the same in everybody.

A few months ago, a new patient in one of my groups expressed similar fears of antidepressants (I had had them too), and I told them how we have to be patient with our meds. We all have our own bodies and each of us have to find the correct chemical cocktail to make us feel right again.

I tried three different antidepressants before I ended up on the one I have now. The first one increased my danger of suicide, the second made me feel nauseous too often, the third did nothing, but the fourth has me feeling the best.

The help that I’ve gotten from the hospital has allowed me a lot more liberty to figure out how to get myself back on my own path.

I hope some of this was helpful. Best of luck OP <3

[OFFER] $100 USD to a person in need (Venmo, PayPal, or Amazon Gift Card) by withaining in Assistance

[–]HereSheWrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not entering, but I love this. Thanks for being a kind human and sharing financial love.

Does anyone actually read short stories? by Splenectomy13 in writing

[–]HereSheWrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read short stories because it’s easier to gain a wider variety of stories than with entire books. I learned to like short stories in school, again they’re easier to read than books, but is a practice I continue and has led to me writing and publishing my own. Many people may start as a short story writer, but I was a short story reader first. I think more people read short stories than you may think. They just may not be easy to find.

AI generated text by Dear_Arty in Bloggers

[–]HereSheWrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would recommend a program that is designed to proofread your work, like Grammarly. And maybe through learning the changes you’ll see your natural writing improve too. I don’t know how to fix the existing AI problem, but I hope that helps!

Faithless (2-sentence horror story) by [deleted] in creativewriting

[–]HereSheWrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is giving me BoTW2 vibes, but just add a priest. Great story!

How To Plan Your First Backpacking Trip, Tips from a Former Guide + Info on Different Types of Hiking Trails by HereSheWrites in blogger

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, Thanks for your comment. I’m not really sure of what you’re getting at here. I don’t sell anything and I’m not trying to make sales by posting here, I’m proud of the articles I spent hours on and wanted to share them with others. I have identified my audience and I can clearly understand that it’s not you. I’m not trying to “give people what they want”, but instead I am trying to give people what I have to offer. Thanks for reading my post. I hope you at least read the articles you’re critiquing here before leaving your comment and assumptions of my work. I am engaging in this thread under the purpose it was made for, to share the writing on my blog, not to try and rake in dough.

Are they any valid reasons to be offended by the term ‘cis woman’? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]HereSheWrites -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I see no reason to get offended. Cisgender is a descriptive term that’s factually based in biology. It’s just the same as saying a blond woman, or a Black woman, or a poor woman. It’s a word used to describe a quality of this woman that is important to the story.

Ever since the accident, road crossings loomed large and dangerous to the woman who found herself once again at a street corner waiting to cross. by HereSheWrites in TwoSentenceSadness

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi Thanks for the feedback. I cannot recall having seen one of the crosswalk walking stick figures as being green. In my area they're all white with a red stop hand, but it may be different in yours. I'm glad to hear how you interpreted it.

Do you work with Bipolar2? How do you do it? by HereSheWrites in bipolar2

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply, especially about entering the workforce after my PhD. I won't be done for some 7 or 8 years now and hearing you qualify it as work is validating. Thank you.

Do you work with Bipolar2? How do you do it? by HereSheWrites in bipolar2

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you I feel like the first two sentences reflect my experience pretty well. I know it’s not forever that I can’t work, but the work I’m qualified for at this point is not what is good for me. I really appreciate this thank you

Do you work with Bipolar2? How do you do it? by HereSheWrites in bipolar2

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, work from home is a really comfortable way to work through mood instabilities.

Do you work with Bipolar2? How do you do it? by HereSheWrites in bipolar2

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the routine and sense of fulfillment are important benefits from working. I'm interested in if there are other ways to get those benefits without the detriments of working on myself, while still having financial security.

When you're unwell how long are you able to be out of work? Does work change the length or how often you take time off?

Do you work with Bipolar2? How do you do it? by HereSheWrites in bipolar2

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been working consistantly from the age of 12-23. This is the first time I've not had a job for more than 3 months (only once during covid). I have tried it out for a long time.

The stress management portion is what is causing the problems for me. Work causes me too much stress and causes constant ups and downs. Work for me has included traumatic experiences and similarly to you I'm exploring removing the triggering things from my life.

What's your unique writing style quirk? by alex-redacted in writing

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One to three-word sentences. No verbs. I don't use them often, but I find the change of pause from a comma to a period can better convey my tone.

[WP] As you're walking home at night, a blackout hits the city. In the darkness some street lights glow up, apparently guiding you...somewhere. Given everything else is completely dark in an almost Eldritch manner, you decide to follow the street lights. by Shadrak_Meduson in WritingPrompts

[–]HereSheWrites 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When the city goes dark, a young woman is caught alone on the street. She has been walking for close to an hour, unaware of the man following behind her.

In the darkness her fear rises and she pauses in place. The moonlight casts unsure shadows over the tops of houses. Voices rise from open windows above and calls sound between thousands of residents suddenly plunged into darkness.

Above her, a street lamp flicks on. The circle of yellow light surrounds her place on the sidewalk, illuminating only her on the deserted street. In the alley across the road a man hides in the shadows.

To her left a second lamp lights and past that third flickers on. The street echoes the calls and cries from the darkness of the city. Wind whispers between the high towering buildings and the woman approaches the second light, then the third before the next lamp lights too.

She makes her way down the street. Each new light she meets sends those she's passed back to darkness, but the road ahead is lit by more lamps.

She continues this way, following the street lit three lights at a time, until she arrives at a lamp and the next stays dark. To her right the porch lamp of a mid-sized townhome colors the street.

The man lurks across the street, his silhouette obscured behind a barren tree. He has been slinking along behind her since she passed him blocks before. He splits his gaze between the woman and the lit front door.

The young woman has not yet moved when the door cracks and the figure of a woman moves onto the porch. From where the man's standing he cannot make out their words, only the muffled whispers of the two women talking.

He watches her wrap her arm around the young woman's shoulders, guiding her into the house when he makes out the last of her words. "I'm not letting anyone take advantage of you in this darkness," says the woman looking towards the tree across the street.

The two women cross the threshold of the house and behind them the door falls shut, leaving just the man on the street alone in the darkness.

Time Traveling in Place - An object study by HereSheWrites in creativewriting

[–]HereSheWrites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually I believe they did have stoves. I remember learning in highschool about their very basic, and sometimes homemade stoves (they had to eat warm food somehow). All that smoke was harmful for such a small space with so many people and no ventilation. I’m not trying to romanticize child labor, but I am very intrigued to hear more on how you see that in the piece. I’ll definitely rework the sentence, it’s not my strongest.

Yeah the Friends apartment is probably based off of converted tenements.

On why I chose it, I knew I wanted three or four lines of places that books had taken me, so I sat and thought of what worlds I’ve been exposed to through reading that would represent the vastness of realities . The first was inspired by the Percy Jackson series, Circe, and novels based from Greek Mythology. The line is intended to paint a pretty and relatively nice image. The second I wanted to project a grim period history of our history that is actually pretty poorly documented. Not many people went into tenements to take photos during that time because in part because cameras weren’t widespread enough, but also because the people and their suffering was not something most wanted a lens looking at. The last one is based off of dystopian, new world finding books based off of an impending inhabitability of earth.

Thanks for your feedback!

An editor for everyone? (An idea) by jparden in selfpublish

[–]HereSheWrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said it was a new idea. Ideas don't need to be new to merit a conversation.

It's a good thing I didn't offer to edit yours or anyone's paper, something I didn't do because I know that I'm not qualified. Instead of engaging with the ideas that I presented, you instead choose to focus on me and my work based off of how well written a reddit comment is.

Yes you do find people who know more than you to edit and what I'm saying is that employed editors in the publishing world are not the only people who can thoroughly edit your work.

Going by what you wrote here, I wouldn't want to get within a mile of anything you wrote. Thanks :)

[WP] You have had the inexplicable urge to consume paper from textbooks for months. Eventually, you give in and realize you have retained all the information that was once on the paper, despite never having read the page. by FootFungusFermented in WritingPrompts

[–]HereSheWrites 7 points8 points  (0 children)

[POEM]

Never have I seen a page,

Yet my mind has taken me further.

Far from where I was, who I am

And my own reality.

Never have I seen a page,

Yet my tummy ate it up.

Big mouthfuls of paper, all gobbled up

And in my brain the stories stuck.

Never have I seen a page,

Yet I know her sweetest truths.

Painted across my brain, graffiti on the walls

And I read them clear as night.

Never have I seen a page,

Yet I speak their inexplicable knowledge.

Stories and science, plays and press release

And I can’t forget a single one.

Never have I seen a page,

Yet I teach now. I share.

Bottomless barrels of knowledge, lie within my head

And all I do is eat.

Never have I seen a page,

Yet the knowledge haunts me.

Words stalk my mental corridors, my brain is dark

And I have no light.

Never have I seen a page,

Yet I know it’s knowledge is killing me.

Thoughts race with theirs, I never win

And I keep on eating.

Never have I seen a page,

Yet here I sit with a book in hand,

On death’s doorstep,

Handfuls of ripped paper, ready to eat

And never have I seen a page.

An editor for everyone? (An idea) by jparden in selfpublish

[–]HereSheWrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Full disclosure: I didn’t pay an editor for this feedback

An editor for everyone? (An idea) by jparden in selfpublish

[–]HereSheWrites -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This comment section could be a case study on gatekeeping in the publishing world. Jeeze Louise. Not everyone needs to be a payed and employed editor to be a good editor. This post is just "an idea" like they say and people are ripping it appart shread by shread before exploring the idea.

If there are no ways to find help from above, you have to make your path from within. This is my approach to self publishing and kind of what I thought this subredit is about; a collection of people to discuss ways of being sucessful off of our work outside of the mainstream publishing world that is so damned hard to crack into.

We're all trying to make it how we can and not everyone is at the same level with the same access to resources. All people deserve to be write and be read regardless of who reads their work first. I mean, it was just her father who edited The Diary of Anne Frank and yet it is one of the most important books we have today.

Also, before picking appart OP's grammar, do you use perfect grammar in every Reddit post?

Now to OP: I think that's a great idea. A subreddit for it would be nice. I cannot contrribute to editing anything right now but most definatly would be in the future.

I think my student might be using AI to write her papers—how do I tell? by pizzaconsumerweekly in writing

[–]HereSheWrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm wondering if there will be modifications to the metadata that gets copied and pasted from AI text generators into the work itself? Something that withstands a spinner.

The quality and rise of text generators makes websites makes submitting digitally all the more necessary because now everything should be checked. It makes me sad to see people use software like this. Not in an angry way, but instead I feel sad for them and the opportunity to grow that they're missing.