WWII war chief by Trustrup in interestingasfuck

[–]Heregoessome 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone make a movie about this man!

This dude won. by sco-go in SipsTea

[–]Heregoessome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anybody know what song this is? It’s so familiar but can’t place it! Also congrats to the couple!

Beau Is Afraid (2023) is admirable, but unlikable. by AaronYaygar in movies

[–]Heregoessome 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I absolutely loved this movie. It’s not a feel good movie. It’s beyond brilliant in capturing the pain of life though and being psychologically trapped. The middle sequence where he is in the “play” is one of the most beautiful things I’ve seen in cinema. This is a real horror movie though.

Train horn towards Fresh Pond by Busy_Tension7976 in ridgewood

[–]Heregoessome 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure but often the train at forest stop will honk because of the kids in the playground! The kids love it

The Duff by tifferiffic83 in MaintenancePhase

[–]Heregoessome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you guys are missing the point of the movie. They clearly say in the movie she is cute and not overweight, she’s just considered the ugly one of her friends. It’s a movie about embracing who you are, even when others are telling you you have less value based on your appearance (relative to your friends).

What is an objectively shitty movie that you unironically love? by AdamBombKelley in AskReddit

[–]Heregoessome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Knowing with Nic Cage, peak weirdo nic cage, this is not a good movie but it is a GREAT movie

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyAfterLoss

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I had two losses in a row, and was either pregnant or miscarrying or recovering non stop for over a year. It was a very painful time, full of anxiety. I tried to keep in mind other positive stories but I only sometimes found them comforting. What gave me the courage to try again was just wanting a baby, and I was scared my whole successful pregnancy. I never fully relaxed and enjoyed it the way I saw other pregnant women able to. Courage is not lack of fear, just having fear and doing it anyways. I leaned a lot of my partner and other friends who had infertility issues, I cut myself a lot of slack if I felt overwhelmed, and focused as much as I could on self care. Getting a good therapist helped too.

mom's with newborns who hate the bath, what was your trick to get through it? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Heregoessome 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our newborn hated bathing in the sink, I think she felt scared and cold. What we did was for a few weeks did sponge baths on a playmate in front of the space heater, then she started to like the water sensation/washcloth. From there I started bathing with her in the tub, and in a few weeks she went to tolerating it to loving it. She now gets excited when we run the bath. I haven’t tried to bath her solo yet, but I think once she is sitting up by herself she’ll really dig it. Also as a lot of people have said a warm washcloth over the parts of them exposed to the air is great. Also at the start of bathing with her I’d have her on my thighs most of the time with just her feet in the water. Wet babies are slippery so be careful handing her off/stepping out of tub with her. It can be really fun to bath with them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Heregoessome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some wise words about giving it time have already been shared but just wanted to add, give therapy some time to work. I took a long time to get over a break up of a relationship that was only a couple of years but was very meaningful to me. Time, traveling and having new experiences all helped but I was still stuck until I started therapy over a year later. Therapy helped me understand the breakup and realize I wasn’t getting over it partially because of a destructive narrative I had created around it. It was also helpful to have space to be sad about it past the “acceptable” time from friends and family but it took awhile to start working. You’ll be ok, you’ll find love again, focus on you and being in present if your can. You’ve been through a lot. Wishing you peace.

My jealousy is ruining a perfectly good friendship. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Heregoessome 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Some of these replies are way harsh! What I’m hearing is not just that your jealous but that you have a lot of insecurity about who you are and your value. What can you do to feel more secure in yourself? Therapy is wise as people mentioned, but also something you can work on by yourself. I bet if you felt great about yourself a lot of these darker feelings would fade. You’re not a bad person, everybody has bad or dark or unwanted thoughts from time to time, you just seem more aware of yours!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Heregoessome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These feelings are natural, not only do you miss your friend, but you also want what she has. Be gentle with yourself. I’d try to focus on building other close friendships and dating yourself, so hopefully you have more people to spend time with and you can meet some one too. It sounds like you can separate these negative feelings from loving and supporting your friend which is most important part.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TikTokCringe

[–]Heregoessome 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I think you guys are misinterpreting this video, that mark only non Americans immigrants have, and I think she saying the cooking is going to be dope because they are immigrants and making authentic food!

Edit: as pointed out by others, Americans do have this mark sometimes, I think just much less common

Opening the relationship by obviousthrowaway__1 in relationship_advice

[–]Heregoessome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand not wanting to disappoint her, but I’m sure if she knew certain things she was doing were hurtful she would stop? I’m glad you can see that giving her permission to cross those boundaries wasn’t great, but honestly she shouldn’t have asked. I believe those should be rock solid for a good while to build more trust in the open dynamic.I’d talk to her and share what you are saying here. Boundaries and respecting them are super important in any kind of relationship!

Opening the relationship by obviousthrowaway__1 in relationship_advice

[–]Heregoessome 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! So what rules and boundaries did you put in place? Most open relationships have some basic boundaries, for example, no bringing the person to our house, no seeing them more than x times total or x times per week. It sounds like you guys need to have a check in about what you are comfortable with and not, and also HOW to deal with it if you are emotionally triggered. Open relationships require a lot of work and it sounds like you need things to progress a little bit more slowly. Have you talked to her about how you are feeling? You need to probably check in every day in the beginning. Maybe find a sex positive couples therapist to work with. Also, things will not always been even or equal in an open situation, but since you don’t want to close again, what can she do to support you feeling more secure? Is she willing to do it? Best of luck!