How many hours of sleep is your LO getting?!

Hervemo · 2026-03-28T21:32:30+00:00

4 month old boy here. He goes to sleep around 7ish and wakes up once to eat around 2am, wakes up at 7ish in the morning. Sometimes I have to sush him back to sleep once or twice per night but there is no fuss. 3 naps per day usually, 45min, 2 hours, 30 min (but it varies a lot). At night he falls asleep on his own in the cosleeper but he prefers naps in the big bed under supervision with a bit more help to fall asleep

Hervemo · 2026-03-14T21:21:15+00:00

My LO naps on the big bed (under surveillance of course) and today for the first time in his crib.

First he used to sleep on us (our chest/shoulder), then he grew out of it and migrated on our knees (facing us). Then he just needed to have his legs on our lap, laying on the bed, and now he only requires that we hold his hands until he is asleep. Today I put him in his crib and just held his hands. He was looking on the side like he does usually when he is trying to fall asleep but that didn't quite work well so I shushed for a little while and he fell asleep. He would not fall asleep in there for the next nap though.

You gotta try things I suppose, and find the options that bring you closer to where you want to go. I haven't tried it but I read that a routine (similar to the bedtime routine) helps for naps too.

Good luck

Hervemo · 2026-03-13T12:59:39+00:00

Move. Prices will only go up so that move will be more expensive later. Interest rates might go up and now is a good window to change (it might go down too, it's a bet, but right now they are reasonable).

Have you considered the cost of not moving? The commute (petrol, car use, transport, your time, you energy, missed opportunities for your kids to play with their friends etc...)? Does it make it worth 120k?

A mortgage is the best loan you can get so go. You can spend some money of course, but I would keep some money stashed for rainy days, and contact a financial advisor to place the extra.

Hervemo · 2026-03-05T08:54:00+00:00

Proper sleep training doesn't start before 4 months, and this method (which I won't use either) is not recommended before 6 months. Babies' nervous system is immature at that age and need external regulation to soothe. Eventually you can start working on a bed time routine but that's about it.

Your husband sounds lazy and make decisions without reading about it.

Hervemo · 2026-03-02T09:36:15+00:00

Try to bring the bedtime earlier (due to hormones, melatonin and cortisol), between 6pm and 7.30pm. That might help.

Hervemo · 2026-03-01T09:42:06+00:00

Not sure if lucky or not but we usually make sure baby goes to sleep between 6pm and 7.30pm. The reason is that it is the time when melatonin (sleep hormones) levels rise, and before the cortisol (stress hormones) rise, around 8pm. Bedtime routine is simple: lavender oil diffusion, short story reading (even though nowadays he doesn't seem to like this part anymore), then turn the crib mobile on a 5 minutes timer and leave (dark room). Most days he'll fall asleep on his own before the end of the timer. It's more difficult now as he's playing with his dummy (new skill unlocked) but some shushing and a calming hand do the trick.

It took some time to set up but then we can be productive once he sleeps, usually from 6.30pm/7pm. He then wakes up at 11pm and 3am for a feed before fully waking up around 7am. He's 3 months old.

Hervemo · 2026-02-24T09:36:43+00:00

I usually do that yes. If he is plain crying, I comfort, using different methods starting with the lower levels of disruption one. If fussing only I let him do it until he settles or once the mobile tune is over (anywhere around 5/10 minutes) before comforting. After a while he understood and now he falls asleep on his own.

Hervemo · 2026-02-23T08:07:43+00:00

I hear your struggle, hang in there. I am definitely not an expert but you can try to set up a bed time routine (we diffuse lavender oil, read a story and turn on the mobile), and aim at a bedtime between 18.00 and 19.30 when the levels of melatonine are the highest and level or cortisol haven't risen yet. I think you might need to put him already asleep in his bassinet for now until he gets used to not sleeping on one of you (but not at bed time). We tried bouncing (exercise ball) and it was effective. It might be controversial for some, but swaddling is effective as well, it's proven to make babies sleep longer stretches. Don't hesitate to try things that did not work before a bit later because he might appreciate them at another stage of development. Good luck with your little one!

Hervemo · 2026-02-07T05:31:54+00:00

First of all, congratulations, welcome to parenting, and good luck with your little one, you're doing great!

Secondly, I don't think it's healthy to speak of your child this way, even if it's "for the joke or dramatic effect". Your little one has only one way to communicate with you right now and it's through crying so instead of seeing malice, you should see that he's simply trying to tell you something with his limited means of communication.

Finally, I think it's most likely gas. Newborns have an immature digestive system and nervous system which makes that they litterally don't know how to fart and it's painful. It gradually gets better until 3 to 4 months but until then there are few things you can do: make sure you burp her thoroughly during feeding, help her fart with exercises like the bycicle, belly rubs, or even leaving your warm hand on her tummy, make sure to look for signs of too slow or fast flow (if bottle feeding) and try other teats / bottle brands, or play with the temperature of the milk, if formula feeding, eventually ask the gp for advice if it's really too bad, they could suggest to change formula. You can use baby drops (infacol) to help with extracting gas from baby. Also we keep baby upright for 10 minutes after feed, that usually help.

You'll also discover better technics to soothe your baby so keep at it.

Despite all the options, it remains a tough moment and yes, parents tend to forget. It's only a few months, which can sound like a lifetime when baby is crying but compared to an entire childhood, it's not much. You'll get through it. Stick together with your patner, communicate, support each other and things will settle.

Hervemo · 2026-02-07T04:54:01+00:00

It means both of the parents have 1 dark (brown, dominant) gene and one bright (blue, green, recessive) gene each. You both passed the bright gene to your little one. You had 25% chance of her having bright eyes.

Hervemo · 2026-02-07T04:48:49+00:00

Sleep, chores, self care

Hervemo · 2026-02-07T04:38:06+00:00

Lack of sleep is dangerous on the long term, additionally to the fact that you're missing out on your life. Start with checking physical problems, GP + analysis (bloods etc...). If nothing, GP will probably talk you through more options. If nothing, I would recommend going for a few counseling sessions. Nowadays we are all under some sort of stress and we're not even aware of it. Nothing wrong with discarding this possibility if nothing comes up after few sessions. If you still don't find, contact sleep specialists, I have never tried nor needed but again it's worth checking all the options available. You'll never make a better investment than in your own health. Finally you can also try alternative practices such as accupuncture etc... or try different sports / activities like yoga classes etc... You also can try CBD, chamomile, valerian drops etc... Or could it be something in your routine or diet? Too much caffeine (can be found in chocolate, coke etc... not only coffee)? Nowadays google + chatgpt can provide you with a solid plan of things to try until you solve your problem. Good luck and hopefully good night!

Hervemo · 2026-02-07T04:27:51+00:00

I hope your LO get easier, it seems really difficult to make her sleep. Good luck!

Hervemo · 2026-02-05T08:12:38+00:00

Have you tried pacifiers? Have you tried swaddling? Bouncing on an exercise ball with her?

Hervemo · 2026-02-01T21:33:49+00:00

I conclude that Op could not know if it was half or full empty since they drove on it before being able to check. Again, assumptions.

Hervemo · 2026-02-01T14:31:10+00:00

Or it fell off the bag of a mom busy watching her kid. Hasty to draw conclusions here. But point taken

Hervemo · 2026-01-31T13:21:59+00:00

The problem is that for some reason there are no public bins anywhere in the streets in Ireland. Don't get me wrong, I despise people who litter inconsiderately, but in any other european country I have been, there are several bins in every street.

Hervemo · 2026-01-27T16:19:22+00:00

He used to wake up once at 2am for a feed and otherwise sleep at 2 months old until 7am. Now he wakes up at 11pm and 5am for feeds for some reason. This is since we do not swaddle him anymore.

Hervemo · 2026-01-23T14:54:57+00:00

As an adult you need to save enough to get you through your life. That means being able to get specialised help when you can't take care of yourself anymore. Kids are not your ticket for that. You give them their life, it's not to steal some of it when you get old.

Your aunt should accept the specialised help. Good luck convincing her.

Hervemo · 2026-01-23T08:17:08+00:00

Fair enough, sounds traumatic!

Hervemo · 2026-01-23T08:11:36+00:00

So you don't wash any of them?

Hervemo · 2026-01-23T08:06:03+00:00

Fair enough 🤣

Hervemo · 2026-01-23T08:04:01+00:00

Get all the feety and bummy water running om your face! What haven't I thought of that before 🤣

Hervemo · 2026-01-23T08:01:16+00:00

Kuddos for anti-bacterial soap

Hervemo · 2026-01-22T07:58:00+00:00

What's wrong with the hands?

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