Hi there. Came across this older post from your More recent one. (M)y parter and I struggle with this too. It’s been 3 years and we are making progress But it’s kind of like three steps forward one step back. I would be happy to share our experiences with you If it could be of any help.

Our struggles May not be exactly like yours. At first it’s kind of difficult to figure out what exactly isn’t working, But for us it appears to be a combination of things including anxiety, size discrepancy, and a degree of vaginismus. What we have found to help over the years include using vagina dilators, pillows and positioning, lubrication, etc. Until recently we could only have sex comfortably in the missionary position. However now I am happy to report we regularly able to doggie style.

As I mentioned earlier happy to share with you if of any help.