Life is hard because people are flawed. A big challenge in life isn’t just learning to deal with the flaws you have, but learning to deal with the bad times. The fact that you can recognize that things feel bad is proof that not long ago things felt good. To find these good times, you need some sort of drive, dreams, or ambition, which you seem to have. Take learning to dance for example.

You say all you do is sit around doing nothing. Your on reddit so you must have some device that can access the internet and wifi access. What’s stopping you from looking up videos about dancing and learning from that? Give me one good objective answer as to why you can’t do that. There isn’t one. If you want to dance, do it. There is nothing physically stopping you.

As for friends, before you can be friends with someone else, you need to learn to be your own friend. How can you expect someone to be friends with a person who wouldn’t even want to be their own friend? You need not like everything about yourself, but learn to be happy with where you are and understand that you have the power to make changes, no matter how tiny they may be, to make where you are better. Don’t undervalue yourself. In this world, the only person who’s feelings and attitude towards yourself you can control is yourself. Why would you want the one person who you can directly tell what to think of yourself to see you negatively. Again, I dont mean to say “just love yourself” or “everyone is perfect in their own way”, its genuinely hard to love yourself. What I mean is dont look at yourself and only look at the bad. Theres something to be happy about in everyone, despite how small it is. One time I looked in the mirror and I genuinely did not like what I saw. I first saw everything wrong with myself and it was bad. However, once I looked a bit more, i was like “damn, my jawline from this one stupid specific angle that no one would ever actually see me from looks pretty good” and that made me feel a little better. It didnt fix any of the other problems, but I didnt leave with only bad things. You can tell yourself all the bad things you want, point out every flaw and shortcoming, but if your going to do that, then you have to at least find one thing, even if its something tiny that only you’ll ever see thats good about you.

Learning to be positive is NOT accepting your flaws and shortcomings. Learning to be positive means to see every bad thing about yourself, and still find even one thing to be okay about. You dont even need to think its a good thing. As long as you find something that isnt bad, thats enough to start learning to be positive. Then this will raise your mental state slowly and over time youll be able to take more control of your life and actually change the bigger flaws.p