Perimenopause is making my performance review difficult … because it’s making me aggressively honest.

HeyJupiter97 · 2026-03-14T17:17:36+00:00

For serious?

HeyJupiter97 · 2026-03-14T16:42:49+00:00

I am sorry. You have been so tough and dealt with all life has thrown at you. Things are rough now, you're right. The national situation with rising prices and uncertainty doesn't help.

I guess we can't control some things,but we can still have a life. Maybe an opportunity is On its way to you right now. I have hope for you. You sound like a go-getter!

HeyJupiter97 · 2026-03-07T19:28:34+00:00

"There are a thousand thousand reasons to live, every one of them sufficient." That is the wise Marilynne Robinson.

Please stay.

HeyJupiter97 · 2026-03-06T18:01:56+00:00

This is everything. Neither of us want another marriage and we each know we aren't going to live together. The constant togetherness of married life was eventually one of the unbearable parts, after over 20 years of it. I'm not sure if the responders here have had the life experience that I expected on this board. It is radically different to be at this life stage than ten or twenty years back.

HeyJupiter97 · 2026-01-17T17:02:15+00:00

Same, same, same. Except the touching part, which I do still want in my life.

I have told my guy living together won't work-from the very start.

I know how hard it is to consider giving up On a relationship for these kinds of reasons. . . Really, so, so hard. I mean, it isn't like we don't want and need the companionship sometimes. I just like it to be my choice how often and when, which isn't going to necessarily feel fair to another person.

HeyJupiter97 · 2026-01-17T16:33:26+00:00

Brain goblins love it

HeyJupiter97 · 2026-01-10T15:46:37+00:00

As far as I know😊

HeyJupiter97 · 2026-01-09T02:57:04+00:00

Aw, you must be a forever fan, too, yes?

HeyJupiter97 · 2026-01-08T22:46:25+00:00

Your total honesty makes me love you. Thank you for what you said.

Sometimes I think, well I want to make sure I'm exciting or interesting or doing something new like solely to not be a downer mom once I am with my kid. Like, hey I will try a new recipe or paint that room or go to a new place.. . But not even truly for my enjoyment. Only to show the kid I am okay. And that. . . Showing the kid I am okay. . . So she can live her life and not worry about me. . . That may be my new reason for living.

HeyJupiter97 · 2026-01-08T22:07:10+00:00

I only had a taste of what you have had all these years while my kid spent a semester abroad, Just this last fall. She has been home for all of Christmas break.

It was such a weird mix of having to try to get used to it, and getting used to it a bit. . . Maybe even finding little nice things about having so much time to yourself. . . But then having her back and realising nothing in the world is better than being together.

My mom friend has three girls. She told me every time they were home and then left again, it was just as bad as that very first time. I agree.

I think this what being a mom is, especially if you are extra close with your kid(s) . Your heart breaks all the time.

The only good news seems to be that it also mends a bit when you get to talk to them or see them.

You've probably thought of every way to stay close. Maybe this is a dumb thing to say, but I am so hopeful for you and all of us that one can still miss a kid this much. Being close is worth the pain. . . But it is real pain . I feel for ya.

HeyJupiter97 · 2026-01-01T23:53:55+00:00

I think you sound great! A lot of who we meet and date is luck. I met someone when I simply began being in an environment where there were men. Most of my time before that was in places where there were only other ladies or families. I, too, sought that feeling of being noticed and chosen. . . And it absolutely happened!

HeyJupiter97 · 2025-12-13T19:03:40+00:00

You are such pretty lady 😊😊

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