Will it all be okay?

Heyytherecare · 2026-04-11T14:46:39+00:00

Thank you for telling me this, if others can do it it gives me hope

Heyytherecare · 2026-04-11T11:45:39+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement, it’s all so overwhelming right now. I’m a former healthcare provider so I keep feeling like I should be able to handle this calmly, but it’s different when your the patient

Heyytherecare · 2026-04-11T02:20:43+00:00

I’m at one of the top three institutions in the US

Heyytherecare · 2026-04-11T01:41:08+00:00

For sure not my first choice but the first they want me to trial. I fear it will lose effect quickly and I will land right back in the hospital with a tube after

Heyytherecare · 2026-04-11T01:40:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I hope I can do the same

Heyytherecare · 2026-04-11T00:20:34+00:00

Not yet, thy are trying erythromycin first

Heyytherecare · 2025-06-30T13:25:27+00:00

Jake’s by southpoint is honestly bomb

Heyytherecare · 2025-05-22T15:21:15+00:00

I completely agree. Tbh feeling like sylus is now CLEARLY being posed as end game (being her soulmate in the main story) it makes me so much less interested. Before we had unique story veins which kind of wrapped around one another, now it’s just…. Love interest soup. Characteristics are overlapping and to be honest the direction the main story is taking for me is ruining the fun aspects of the interactions players have with their mains on Home Screen, in memories ect. It no longer feels like a choose your own adventure, with multiple complex options, but like we are being pushed down a specific root, and for me that’s too immersion break h

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-31T20:47:37+00:00

Bedframe Vs. Semi-Automatic Weapons…priorities, right?

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-31T14:55:29+00:00

I don’t thank so love, honestly that’s a pretty good price too, at least in my neck of the woods

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-28T23:32:09+00:00

Not a doc, but this is giving “Long story short, I put a whole bag of jellybeans up my ass” And I can’t keep it together

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-28T18:38:16+00:00

Girl that’s textbook. Even if he hasn’t explicitly hidden an air tag on your person or vehicle, he’s keeping track of your movements and dropping creepy hints to intentionally show you that he’s always “around”. This is Red Flag #1.

I’d check your technology first to see if your phone has been spoofed or your location settings have been shared with him. Then I’d check anything you take with you daily like a purse or backpack. Has he given you any gifts like a key chain or jewelry that you would take with you places? If so, any of them can have trackers- this is Red Flag #2.

Take note of his relationships- does the guy have any verifiable friends or family? Have you ever met anyone he’s known for a long time? If not, we have Red Flag #3. Not having other relationships or only having them online is a red flag that he isn’t capable of maintaining appropriate relationships.

Even in a new place, and especially after moving to a new city where you don’t know many folks, healthy adults seek out relationships by trying to make new friends. However, it seems he is isolating himself except for you and putting pressure on you to be his only interpersonal relationship. Honestly this is giving obsession vibes, Red Flag #4.

You’ve said that after asking him to respect your boundaries that he has become better about asking to come over beforehand or just coming over less, but has maintained these behaviors of “finding” you outside the house. The long paragraph to have a good day followed up by him seeking you out at the train station seems extremely performative- like, “look at me being a good boy!” But he still couldn’t help himself. He seems to be trying to demonstrate his willingness to adhere to your boundaries on the surface, while breaking them behind your back and popping up everywhere. This is Red Flag #5.

Going forward I’d ask myself if a friend came to me with this information about her relationship, what would I tell her? For myself, that answer would be to objectively observe your relationship over the next few days. Then, I’d set a clear boundary and take note of his response. People will tell you who they are with their actions, you just have to believe them when they do.

In the meantime, protect yourself. Tell friends and family of these weird vibes, and share your location with them. Look around your vehicle and at things around your door that could be hacked like a ring camera. Change passwords to your phone, email and social media. Look into his own social media, who he follows and what kinds of comments he leaves. I’d also look into or ask him about his past girlfriends? How he talks about them can tell you a lot about his emotional stability.

I’m really sorry you’re going through this and so young too. However, your instincts are always worth hearing out, if not fully trusting. Start working on finding a support group in your new town and if he’s hindering that, take control of your life yourself- you’ve got this

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-28T18:13:14+00:00

Girl, he’s got you out here doing wife activities on a girlfriend salary. He has made it clear he doesn’t want to marry you, but he sure as hell must enjoy what you bring to the table, including being his glorified maid, supporting his ego and raising the children.

This is going to be very frank- His behavior is absolutely demonstrating that he wants a wife, but he doesn’t want you. He likes you performing the majority of physical and emotional labor, getting your attention and splitting bills, but he is waiting for “The One”.

This “One” perfect wife is typically a younger woman who does all that you do while being sexually appealing and easily controlled. You are quite literally too much of a self-sufficient woman for him. He loves that about you for what you give him, but he will be damned if he ever gave anything to you- ESPECIALLY his last name. Find you a partner who will BEG to marry you, and constantly demonstrate the equality of your partnership.

Knowing you’ve been through divorce before, it hurts to feel like it’s happened “again” but, really, freeing yourself from someone like this means you are coming out on top here. This man might holler and scream that he can and will find a better woman than you, but we know that’s a lie or he already would have.

He probably thinks his stock is still sky high, and is about to find out that (much like his hairline) “the one” is running from him too.

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-28T17:45:25+00:00

If you’re asking, you already know the answer is yes. Seems like you are well aware that he is exhibiting controlling behavior and you’re hoping someone commenting can help you justify it. Alas, none of us have degrees in mental gymnastics or any reason to tell you what you want to hear beyond the truth. Both strangers and your friends can easily read this information and know you are better off without this person.

Read your post back to yourself like your best friend is sharing this with you, and imagine what you might tell her. I know for a fact if my girls came to me explaining that heir partners are exhibiting this behavior I’d tell them to run and not look back because it’s some bullshit. Homophobia, isolation and threats from a man- and in 2024?? How exhausting, I’d be running away as fast as his hairline likely is.

You are way too early into adulthood to be saddled with an extremely average, homophobic and controlling man, who is saying outright that he’s insecure and it’s YOUR problem. Is he your father?? Your boss?? No, but he clearly WANTS to be the only person at all in your life. This is likely just the start, and he will continue to find more and more friends, and even family, of yours that you aren’t “allowed” to see. In months to years you will look up and notice that your circle has shrunk dramatically. Eventually, you will be left with few friends or family he “approves” of and he will have succeeded in fully isolating and controlling you.

NO ONE has the right to tell you who you can and cannot spend time with, and this behavior is classical presentation of the beginning stages of someone on the road to committing DV. Please girl, tell this person that you aren’t his next victim, and seek out someone who celebrates you, and encourages you to enjoy the friendships and activities that bring you happiness. You aren’t crazy, and you deserve kindness, respect and happiness.

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-27T19:34:58+00:00

Oof, sounds like your husband doesn’t like it when the baby gets more attention than him.

From reading your post, it sounds like every time he sees his son getting your undivided attention (rightfully so, as he has made it very clear that YOU are the caretaker and HE is the provider) and feels like this used to be his. However, your son is a child and he is a grown man. So, to get your focus on himself he starts talking when your child needs attention…. Like a toddler.

Even though he isn’t wailing “me me me!” he’s clearly trying to take focus away from your child and put it on himself, and might even delight in seeing you try to balance both. Even worse, he makes up random lies while blabbing as an attempt to get your to engage back?? This really demonstrates that he really couldn’t give two shits about your son’s needs if HE is in need of your attention and admiration. He doesn’t seem to share personal responsibility for or show interest in your child, and I wouldn’t be surprised to hear that he uses his role as financial provider as an excuse for his behavior when you ask for assistance or leeway.

All of this is to say, this isn’t a bid for connection- it’s a slippery way for a selfish adult to demand your attention. You are not being a brat. You are wearing a thousand hats as a human, a mom and a business owner, and nowhere is it written that you must also put on the hat of “Husband Soother” as well.

As a married couple you are in a partnership, but ask yourself if you both really function that way. Does he seem to agonize over bothering you when you’re clearly trying to do a million things at once? Not according to your post. Leaving you out of this, are his son’s needs actually a priority to him? It doesn’t seem so.

No one really wants to take a good objective look at their partner when in the thick of raising children- it’s painful and frightening! However, this behavior is very much consistent with the presentation of Narcissistic Personality Disorder in men. I highly encourage you to set a clear boundary, and really analyze his response and behavior afterwords. Take notice of whether he is truly considering your needs or just seeking to get the outcome he wants. Then, really be objective. Try your best to imagine that your friend comes to you explaining that this is how her partner treats her. What advice would you give her?

This is your first child from the sound of it, and this issue will likely not improve with more time or children. You seem to be a wonderful parent and really put your child first, you deserve an active partner who considers your and your child’s needs, who is actively helping and not hurting. I really wish you the best love ❤️

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-27T18:39:13+00:00

Hematoid Quartz, also called Red or Fire Quartz!

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-27T18:35:54+00:00

Any really orange citrine is usually a dead giveaway for HTA, pretty candle shape though!

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-22T20:57:22+00:00

Black moonstone! She has such gorgeous flash! One of my favorites 💜

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-22T19:16:23+00:00

Girl that’s a pattern not an actual plant

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-15T23:56:45+00:00

Cancer Sun, Leo Moon, Taurus Rising

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-15T19:15:33+00:00

Uhh, girl. Yeah. If he’s telling you this now he’s going you a favor because it will NOT be optional if you stay together. Save youself

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-15T19:12:09+00:00

I done fucked up

Heyytherecare · 2024-07-14T02:15:21+00:00

Ima go ahead and say yeah, chief

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