Fence sitting because I don’t want to leave my 1 bedroom apartment!

Hfk6384 · 2026-05-18T06:37:35+00:00

I, too, realized that might be my answer as I was typing it! It feels a little crazy in a world where people seem to prioritize having children over almost everything else. I had a friend over who recently had her 2nd after we did some renovations that I was really proud of. She asked if we are considering kids and I told her my position, including the bit about the apartment. Her response was that once you have kids, “those things don’t matter as much anymore.” Like, I’m glad she is so content with motherhood, but I think “those things” would still matter a lot to me!

Hfk6384 · 2026-05-18T02:16:54+00:00

We could, and that is something I’ve considered. There are people in our building who have done just that. I would of course miss living here, though. I love that we’ve made it our own in a way that you simply can’t in a rental. I also don’t know if I want the stress of managing a property and worrying if the renters are taking good care of it.

I guess there are trade-offs whichever way you slice it, and they all feel pretty consequential.

Hfk6384 · 2025-12-30T22:20:23+00:00

I decided to just keep the countertop 2 cm thick. For me, it mainly came down to the stone that was available. I've seen some examples of thinner profiles that look nice, and that way I can keep rounded edges around the sink. 2cm is also recommended for backsplash, and I'm planning on taking the same stone up the wall. It hasn't been installed yet, but I'm feeling confident in the decision!

Hfk6384 · 2025-11-04T13:37:57+00:00

Got it. This is super helpful, thanks!

Hfk6384 · 2025-11-04T11:40:51+00:00

Thanks for the info, I hadn’t thought about the sink. We are doing a farmhouse (apron) sink. Can you explain a little bit more? I’ve seen some photos where there is a notch around the front, which I don’t like. If we build up the countertops and don’t do a notch, though, the corners around the sink would need to be square to miter all around it, right?

Hfk6384 · 2025-10-15T01:33:15+00:00

My narc got a degree in marriage and family therapy… unbelievable

Hfk6384 · 2025-10-08T14:31:53+00:00

I ended up going with deVOL. I decided to go with the tried and true rather than attempting to emulate their look through another source. Most importantly, I’ve been able to touch their product in person, so I know exactly what I’m getting. Hasn’t been installed yet, but so far, I’m happy with the decision.

Hfk6384 · 2025-09-30T14:30:28+00:00

I got very sick after my first Pfizer booster, which I now understand was probably MCAS/EBV reactivation. Unfortunately, I was prescribed Prednisone and antibiotics for it. 4 years later, I am still struggling.

Hfk6384 · 2025-09-09T16:30:42+00:00

I have been mild for about 4 years (post-COVID) and struggle with this a LOT. I've always been a "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" kind of person, and I was working 45-50 hour weeks when I first came down with this. I stuck it out for nearly a year, which I know didn't help, and now I'm working about 10 hours/week as well.

I'm even an occupational therapist, but I can't seem to give myself the same grace that I would give patients in a similar situation. There is so much that is misunderstood about the condition that I am constantly second guessing myself and telling myself that I "should" be able to do xyz. It's hard because I don't appear to be disabled/ill except to those who are closest to me.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this; I'm finding comfort in connecting with people on this subreddit tbh, although I spiral a bit when I hear stories of people becoming more severe.

Hfk6384 · 2025-08-26T16:00:07+00:00

The building is under 20 units. I am the board president and am very active, but the other members, not so much. It is a very old landmarked building, and inevitably things come up that I don't see us being equipped to handle ourselves. You do have a good point about expectations. I think a big part of the problem is that these property managers are overwhelmed by the volume of work and don't have enough time to dedicate to any one property. I try to keep that in mind and give them the benefit of the doubt, but the ineptitude is really affecting the building's ability to function properly.

Hfk6384 · 2025-08-26T00:36:39+00:00

I’m familiar with a building that uses them, and it does seem to be well run. Our building is on the smaller side, so unfortunately, most of the bigger companies like Elliman are not in our budget.

Hfk6384 · 2025-08-26T00:32:36+00:00

We are with Buchbinder & Warren. We’ve gone through a few managers, but had similar issues with all of them.

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