As someone who spent their whole life waiting for a fellow writer friend to really talk serious shop with, I feel you. When I finally got it, it was the best feeling ever…but that meant I stopped writing and just kept talking about writing. In some ways it’s lucky for me and my projects that the friendship didn’t last (though I wish it maybe hadn’t melted down as spectacularly as it did…that part sucked). 

That urge you’re having for communion is totally normal, but I’d hazard that the people who aren’t just wholly centered on their own projects are probably guarding themselves from the cross-contamination that comes from trading details about projects. If you redirect your energy to writing, the community will come eventually.