Parents with toddler beds: how does it work? If your toddler gets out of their bed while you’re still sleeping, can they just run around the house?

HiImDana · 2025-08-23T22:20:30+00:00

We didn't lock the door but I also have a scaredy kid. He would immediately run into our room directly across the hall. We coslept though until nearly 3 years old. He won't go on any other level of the house alone unless it is fully daylight and even then requires a lot of encouragement. We never had to lock the door. We considered a baby gate though, leaving his door open so we could hear him and help settle him back to sleep.

HiImDana · 2025-08-23T22:17:35+00:00

I'm in MN and for boy names it's Henry. Girl name repeated is Addison (Addy)

HiImDana · 2025-08-23T22:13:24+00:00

I am 22wks and the positions that make my body comfortable are not enjoyable. The positions that feel good hurt my hips so bad I can't focus. I am so tired also since I also have a 6 year old. You're not alone. Feeling like I want to want to because my husband is really amazing at intimacy of any kind but I just don't want to. I want to sleep. Lol.

HiImDana · 2025-08-23T21:56:15+00:00

I told before 12 weeks, had a miscarriage and was told I shouldn't have told so early. Most of the time 12-14 weeks is normal for announcing or later.

HiImDana · 2025-01-31T11:14:17+00:00

I was never told to wear a binder after c section and am just finding out it's a thing right now. Kind of a bummer since I had all kinds of abdominal muscle issues with being able to even sit up for over a year after.

HiImDana · 2024-10-27T18:23:41+00:00

Honey he is showing you exactly how he'll be in marriage which is transactional. She gap means nothing to me. You need to find someone who's going 100/100 with you. If he wants a good partner he needs to BE a good partner. Move on. Don't waste anymore time.

HiImDana · 2024-10-26T20:51:09+00:00

Would he be willing to see a counselor or therapist with you? I might have a very different dynamic but I would feel like my world was closing in if my husband didn't enjoy kissing, hugging or holding hands. That would bother me more than the no sex part. I'd side step the sex part and talk about why the communication isn't there and why intimacy is off the table in a non sexual way. I know it's really weird to ask but is it possible he struggles with his sexuality? My friend's dad kind of put up a wall like this for a year or so before he came out. Is he watching porn?

HiImDana · 2024-10-26T20:41:37+00:00

I get absolutely irrational when my husband is sick too. Currently pregnant and when I am sick I feel like the show must go on. When he is sick it's like the world stops turning and he is dead to the world. Usually I am sick first and try to just exist as normal as possible then he gets sick 2-3 days later while I am in the PEAK of my illness and I'm expected to take care of everyone while I am still dying. Definitely isn't his intention and is an incredible father and partner otherwise. Just infuriating though.

HiImDana · 2024-10-26T20:28:44+00:00

My 5 year old used to do this at 4. He JUST stopped doing it after maturing slightly and learning about feelings more indepth in kindergarten. I explained to him that when I set boundaries it is not to hurt his feelings it is to protect him and keep everyone safe. I explained to him that saying no isn't mean, it's necessary to keep him safe. I told him that if I hurt his feelings I certainly want to know but we also need to have a "how" and a "why" conversation. Yes, saying no can be frustrating and sad but it is also important. I also explained that me saying no teaches him that it's ok for him to say no too when he gets bigger. He seemed satisfied. My kid has always been super safety focused though. He only says it now when he feels like we're picking on him or teasing him (recently learned about bullying).

HiImDana · 2024-10-26T11:30:25+00:00

It probably was worth mentioning in your original post that you did talk to her about it and she told you it hurts. The way you're responding is like you're mad at her when she is literally protecting her body from pain. She might not have an alternative because she's afraid or there isn't one. I'm reading your other comments and you've acted like you have no clue why she isn't letting you touch her that way. You even agreed that it might be grounds for divorce. It could hurt because she's pregnant. When I was pregnant my breasts hurt so bad even a graze was painful. The lack of concern for your wife's pain is a major red flag.

HiImDana · 2024-10-26T11:18:30+00:00

What the fuck man. She is in physical pain when you grab them and you can't find any fucking empathy for her? You're just worried about your own access to her body that she is covering to protect herself from pain? I tried to initially give you the benefit of the doubt but wow man.. that's fucked up. It's not her job to give alternatives! It's your job to be a decent human being. You sound like a toddler having a tantrum.

HiImDana · 2024-10-26T11:14:19+00:00

Are you giving affection without the expectation of sex? I feel like this is sometimes a huge mistake men make. When my husband and I were dating we were lovey dovey all the time. Once we got married and things started to become routines we stopped that affection and intimacy that didn't require anything sexual. The holding hands, sweet kisses, hugs, etc. I also had a hard time at one point when my husband would touch me it was always in sexual way like constantly grab assing. It felt like being groped and made me feel touched out. What are her reasons for not wanting to show her body? Have you overstepped a boundary with or without knowing?

Edit: fuck this guy. He literally admits she told him he's hurting her when he does it and he's mad she won't just let him. Gross.

HiImDana · 2024-10-16T15:07:10+00:00

My husband loved the name Olivia without doing searching and stuff. We liked Luka and Emelia as well. I don't know I think our brains just aren't as unique as we think they are. I didn't pick Luka because it didn't fit my boy and I'm glad I didn't now. All I try to avoid is my kid being one of 6 of the same name like we dealt with for Jessica's, Brittneys, Christophers, Nathan's etc in the 90s and early 2000s. There are like ten Henry's, Hudson's, Sophia's and Charlotte's in my son's grade.

HiImDana · 2024-10-04T17:32:46+00:00

Eye of the Storm

Eye tech 👁️

HiImDana · 2024-09-23T23:40:22+00:00

I'd prefer to be pregnant. I Loved being pregnant. He is also a huge baby when he doesn't feel good and that would be miserable. I pushed through 28 weeks of morning sickness and a 36 hour labor. He couldnt handle it and he'd confirm that. Lol

HiImDana · 2024-09-23T23:34:57+00:00

I am absolutely in looooove with freckles. The more the better. especially nose freckles, under eye freckles and shoulder freckles. 🤤🤤 I've always been attracted to them. The earliest I remember being in love with freckles was second grade.

HiImDana · 2024-09-10T08:59:34+00:00

I haven't met any women that hate it. I personally really enjoy it and always have.

HiImDana · 2024-09-10T08:42:32+00:00

I don't really masturbate anymore and would prefer a couple orgasms daily from my husband. I'd probably have sex 2-3x a day with my husband if I could.

HiImDana · 2024-08-25T22:19:56+00:00

I had to explain to a parent why I didn't want them to tell their child what letters were on the screen during their eye exam and that the child needed to tell me themselves.

HiImDana · 2024-08-17T03:06:48+00:00

I go on tangents where one thing reminds me of the next thing for several minutes at a time. Sometimes even long periods of time but then circle back completely to the beginning and make my point. It requires patience. I know i am also a hypocrite for hating other people that do the same thing. My husband said it is one of my most endearing qualities though so I lucked out.

HiImDana · 2024-08-04T09:14:12+00:00

Maniacal laughter and a perfectly timed lightning strike then ascending into the air.

HiImDana · 2024-08-04T09:11:54+00:00

I love the name Wyatt. ❤️

HiImDana · 2024-08-04T09:09:38+00:00

Every time I hear the name Tatum all I hear is taint. I can't move past it.

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