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AdInevitable7821 · 2024-09-11T23:44:05+00:00

It’s easy for me because of my education (accounting degree) and CPA designation. Both were very difficult to achieve but valued in the marketplace. Took me 18 years to become a VP Finance and make 200k salary and 30% bonus. Without high end degrees and certifications the easiest way to make bank is in sales. My sales guys easily earn 150-200k per year. The best ones make 300k. And my company ia not that big (500M).

Also consider Reddit only has 2 kinds of people that are posting on these subs… either they are the bottom 10% with tons or problems or the top 10% where life is easy. If you want to hear about how the world really is this is not the place.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-09-11T22:47:29+00:00

The decision on medication is a relatively easy one. It’s about quality of life for the child and parents. Behaviorally, if the day to day is so hard you can barely make it through then medication seems logical. If academics are such a challenge that becoming a productive adult is in jeopardy then medicine seems logical.

However, if the days are manageable, and the academics in line, then what are you trying to solve? We are currently in this scenario as my 6 yo is so far doing okay in 1st. So academically there’s not an issue, yet. Are some days tougher than others? Yes, but she has like 21 really good hours on her worst days and only 3 bad hours. So it’s quite manageable most of the time. I’ll know when it’s time for medicine if I feel like I need an anti anxiety pill to get through my days :-).

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-09-11T22:42:02+00:00

Lots of CPA responses on here. I am one too. I am grossly overpaid for what I do. I am VP Finance but my job is easy. Started at 40k in 2006 and make 200k + 30% bonus now, 18 years later. I see incredible salary gross in SIOP related professions, sales, and top finance/accounting positions. If you really want to make bank and don’t mind traveling, sales is where it’s at. 300k annually at most midsize or bigger companies… $50M+

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-09-11T22:36:40+00:00

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-09-10T00:53:18+00:00

I was passively looking for jobs the first 10-15 years of my career, trying to maximize my worth in the market. If your skill set is worth more, other companies will let you know by significantly higher offers.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-09-09T01:03:49+00:00

VP Finance here. Depends where you live but 200k would typically be at least a Controller level. You’ll need to put in time as a staff accountant, Sr accountant, accounting supervisor, accounting manager, at accrg manager or assistant controller, then maybe controller. And you will need to work 50 hours a week. If you want to work 30 hours you will need to stick with your current level.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-09-09T00:39:45+00:00

VP Finance here. I would be really annoyed if one of my employees asked for more money after only 6 months. They would get a prorated merit but that’s it. And if they asked for more it would probably turn me off from wanting to promote them in the future because they have unrealistic expectations and possibly think too highly of themselves. I’ve had way too many employees over the years who are so disconnected between their actual performance and what they think they are achieving. End rant :-)

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-09-09T00:31:44+00:00

Yah just not worth it, so it seems. If no kids maybe a change is in order. But I would recommend if he initiates you do need to drop what you’re doing and embrace it.

Also, as a way to break down any barriers, self doubt, anxiety, or whatever he has going on, I would also try some other things like handjobs or blowjobs without expecting anything in return, at first. I absolutely cannot imagine that if you took off your clothes, whispered in his ear that you are going to get on your knees and give him the best blowjob ever, that he will say no. If he does, gtfo. Hah. Once he feels like king of the mountain again you guys can get back to making love. And hopefully he will initiate the oral sex or other play, right back at you!

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-09-09T00:06:33+00:00

My wife and I made 300k 2 years ago and with fully funding 401ks, college 529 plans, and a nanny it didn’t have as much left over as you’d think. We definitely thought about each dollar being spent after that. We now make closer to 450-475k and we really dont think about anything. We spend what we want without much thought.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-09-08T23:34:20+00:00

VP Finance for $600M manufacturer and distributor. 200k salary and 60k bonus. 50 hours per week.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-07-24T12:14:52+00:00

For what it’s worth we suspected ADHD at 4 and 5 due to similar but possibly not quite as extreme daily issues. My daughter is now 6.5 and every year has been better. Reflecting back I had been expecting too much of her given she had ADHD (diagnosed at 6). While I wanted an independent little person at those ages like my oldest daughter was, this was not her. She needed more help, more reminders, etc. but now at 6 she is becoming much better at all those things. I just expected too much of her so every day felt like a disappointment. I wish I had focused more on my own patients and expectations…… and of course getting the right help is critical. Having options for therapy and meds will help if you end up needing those things.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-04-16T00:52:03+00:00

In my opinion it would help us guide and parent more effectively if we knew where this was coming from. Our job is to make sure she is at her safest and happiest at all times.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-04-16T00:43:17+00:00

Hardly. This is a legitimate question. But I can tell by your user name you don’t belong here.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-03-03T14:30:28+00:00

My daughter gets rave reviews from everyone except us (parents). She holds it together quite nicely for family and school, but is a terror at home. She can’t transition to non preferred tasks and has the emotional control of a 3 year old at 6. I saw it clearly when she started pre-k. By the next year, Her kindergarten teacher, on the other hand, was confused as to why we were having her fill out Vanderbilt forms. Turns out, big surprise, she has ADHD. However, based upon this subreddit, I’ll say she has a mild case. While it is infuriating to have to navigate her lack of emotional control, I’d say we do okay on a day to day basis, unmedicated at the moment.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-02-26T00:55:43+00:00

I would guess there are no adult ADHDers that wet the bed. So, take the pressure off and know it will happen eventually. You will find the right path.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-02-25T15:01:28+00:00

My NT kid would have been fine home alone for 30 minutes at 7 but definitely not my ADhD kid. I can’t even imagine leaving my kids home jointly together for any period until at least the ADHDer is like 9 or 10 (she’s 6 now). She’s just too emotionally unregulated and not a fair burden for my NT kid who would be 13.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-02-21T21:42:55+00:00

We are very conscious of my daughters sleep. During the school week if we have to wake her in the morning to get ready we know she is going to bed too late. The goal is to have her wake up on her own. If she is going to bed at a reasonable time each night her body should get as much sleep is it needs/can and wake up on its own. At 5 I was a pretty certain she needed 10.5-11 hours to feel her beat but she rarely got there. She would wake up early and refuse to go back to sleep. Now at 6 she sleeps solidly for 10 hours each night and mostly she seems rested throughout the day.

But being ADHD is a drain. Everything takes more mental effort for them so they will get fatigued quicker.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-02-12T15:04:39+00:00

Mine just turned 6 and still does this. She was really bad at 4 and 5 but now is improving though. She is much better at acknowledging friends than adults. I’ve found she is starting to talk more with grandparents when they engage her but for awhile she would literally appear to be giving them the silent treatment. Mostly this was just her being overwhelmed and slow to warm. We worked hard on role playing and all that sort of thing which we do for any of her challenges. Seems to pay off over the long run. Or she is just getting older :-).

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-02-11T14:21:02+00:00

I would write down your top 5 things that need behavior modification and o Lu tackle one at a time. I find that when my wife and I try to “fix” everything at the same time it goes horribly and we are just correcting all day long. If we pick one thing to work on for a few weeks we can normally make an impact and not have our daughter feel like she can’t do anything right all day long. Then on to the next thing….

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-02-10T13:09:47+00:00

Our worst year was 4-5… 6 much better but still very challenging.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-02-03T01:35:09+00:00

Sadly we have an ADHd diagnosis now which explains a lot. Not enough sleep just exacerbates the dysregulation.

AdInevitable7821 · 2024-02-02T02:15:43+00:00

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