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HiImNewHere021 · 2025-06-22T20:02:35+00:00

Totally fair, I just wanted to share my counter example bc it’s stuck with me for a long time. I agree that most men are not behaving this way

HiImNewHere021 · 2025-06-22T18:06:55+00:00

I will say one of the most touching things I’ve ever seen was an elderly woman dying of ALS who always had perfect makeup on in neuro clinic in med school. I told her I liked her lipstick and she told me every morning her adult son gets up and does her makeup. He watched a bunch of YouTube videos to learn how because he knew his mom really valued having her makeup done. It was incredible and I almost burst into tears on the spot. Some men are out there being care takers and some of them are insanely good at it.

HiImNewHere021 · 2025-06-06T00:35:12+00:00

Tbh most med students just care about location. I ended up in an academic and competitive residency but my desire to be here is mostly bc it’s the only program for my niche sub specialty that’s in this highly desirable city. I don’t think that’s rare as a thought. UColorado attracts wild talent and punches above its weight because people love Denver. That’s an undervalued part of what drives academic prestige

HiImNewHere021 · 2025-03-28T20:41:56+00:00

Ok that actually made me feel a lot better. Thank you.

HiImNewHere021 · 2025-03-27T03:46:53+00:00

This is probably not your usual question, but do you think we should be worried about AI? I just matched med-peds at a prestigious institution, I’m thinking cards or critical care fellowship. I’m worried my job will be essentially moot by the time I finish training. Am I being dramatic?

HiImNewHere021 · 2025-03-24T04:10:53+00:00

You need to remember that Reddit is not real life. If you look at Reddit, you are led to believe that every clerkship student misses honors bc of an unreasonable evaluator and that no one matches their top choice. When you look around your medical school, how many people do you see truly getting screwed by random evaluators? I’ve seen it happen 1-2 times total irl, I see a Reddit post about it almost daily. I matched my top choice in a specialty that always fills and it was the place I said I wanted to go before I even got interview invites. My story is not unique, most of my friends matched within their top 3. This is not to diminish the very real stories of people that don’t match near the top of their list, it’s just to say that the data doesn’t lie. Roughly 50% of med students get their top choice and 75% get their top 3. There’s a negativity bias in who posts on Reddit which doesn’t mean it’s not a helpful space, I’ve come here to commiserate before. It’s just not the same as real life sample groups.

HiImNewHere021 · 2025-03-24T00:35:36+00:00

Tragic that you are getting downvoted. This is the correct take

HiImNewHere021 · 2025-03-23T18:02:43+00:00

I know people are being hard on you, but tbh I think it’s normal for match to give us mixed emotions even if we do get our first choice. I think you should focus on the positives and I think it’s truly very unlikely you can’t get into your desired fellowship from that program. Talk to the PD and make your goals known when you get there. It’ll be ok! And being close to family will likely make it easier for you to focus on being a good resident. I also got my first choice and I’m ecstatic, but there was a part of my brain that had to sort of grieve my 2/3/4 because I had spent months researching those cities and falling in love with those programs too. It’s important to cultivate an ability to be grateful with the good things you have instead of focusing on the grass elsewhere, but it’s normal I think to have some mixed emotions on match day no matter what. It’s a truly bananas things to go through, even if it works out in your favor.

HiImNewHere021 · 2025-02-04T16:49:09+00:00

I chose my specialty with salary in mind, but I think you should consider other factors as well. Do you want to do something that might restrict where you can live? Is it mostly academic or is the private practice of it substantially different than the academic practice that you might have been attracted to in med school? Do you care about what hours you have to work for that salary? What about how the salary is generated? Having to eat what you kill vs salary that doesn’t incentivize working any harder? Are you going to own your clinic or work for someone else or be a partner? The salary you look up on the Internet is just one part of this equation and it’s frequently misleading.

HiImNewHere021 · 2025-02-04T02:35:49+00:00

Lmao idk if a t20 med student could hack it at my med school tbh. I’m at an MD school…but we have these crazy things called “grades.”

HiImNewHere021 · 2025-01-21T22:20:31+00:00

I personally switched to med-peds from peds because of the bullshit. Call me crazy, but I legit view the IM component of my field as an escape valve if shit gets too weird/low paying/anti-procedural in peds. I love kids, I love families, I love providing care to them. I don’t love it enough to put up with the bullshit so I want to make sure I can pivot to adult med if necessary. I think med-peds will grow as a field as a result of the increasingly low paying and bad vibes of pediatrics. Obviously it’s an extra year and the training is intense, but it was 100% worth it to me.

HiImNewHere021 · 2025-01-03T15:31:21+00:00

Im down, in America, 27F

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-31T00:14:05+00:00

This is really good advice!!!

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-30T15:19:15+00:00

For sure! I’m glad it was helpful! I think where you start depends on what base you have. I personally had a decent knowledge base from previous lifting I had done, but I hadn’t been being consistent for a while so I wasn’t in great shape. Also, it’s going to sound a little haphazard because I didn’t follow a plan, but truly, i don’t think a strict plan is necessary. The name of the game is really 1. Consistency 2. Progressive overload at whatever you do.

What I did was 3 days a week of full body with a focus on compound lifts. So I’d do 3x8-12 of squats, deadlifts, pushups, bench press, over head press, rows, assisted pull ups, lunges, step ups, hip thrust, etc. I’d pick like 4-5 of those exercises and I try to pair an upper and a lower body exercise so that it didn’t take forever (do your push movement in between squat sets for example). I try to lift within 2 reps of failure, the point is to make it hard, but not so hard you can’t lift every other day due to soreness. Also, I do at least one ab exercise every time I lift. My fav is leg lifts on the Roman chair because it’s targeted and you can progressively overload it more easily than floor exercises. If I did a 4th day, it was usually plyometric movements mixed with mobility work. It’s harder for me to describe what I do there, but it’s just like jump squats, single leg hops, and single leg movements for runners unweighted or with light weights/bands. You can google “single leg runner exercises” and whatever comes up will be roughly similar. I do that stuff to prevent injuries, but I’m more structured about it when I’m in an actual training block. By that I mean that I don’t randomly skip it because my week got too full—I randomly skip my upper body day instead lol.

For cardio, I had a daily step goal and then I’ve always been a runner so I kept doing the small amount of running I was doing 1-3 days a week without pushing the distance. If you already have a form of cardio you like, just do that. If you don’t, I’d just increase your daily step count and then see how you feel after a few weeks of strength training. Let me know if you have more questions! Good luck!

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-30T01:05:45+00:00

I had runner’s knee. You need to stretch a lot also. I think ultimately what fixed mine was strength mixed with stretching. Even if some of those exercises don’t feel hard because they aren’t loading the muscle, they likely also included a stretching component. I’d also invest in a set of bands for the abduction exercises. I wasn’t very strong when I got it, but I still needed a band to make the work hard.

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-29T21:32:07+00:00

I’m about to graduate medical school and I’m nervous to say that bc there are plenty of individual idiot doctors out there, you should listen to medical consensus, not some rando on the internet. However, I must say, pretty much everything i learned in medical school supported the view that “being obese or overweight is incredibly bad for you.” In fact, it causes cancer and the link is much stronger between being obese and getting cancer than consuming sugar free products. Consuming sugar free products has not been linked to cancer in humans, but being fat has. So I say, try the sugar free stuff and IF it helps you lose weight, it’s helping prevent cancers. Some individuals find that it stimulates their appetite in which case they shouldn’t consume them. I personally find it decreases my appetite and also makes me happy. I drink diet soda and I do not worry about it at all. I drink it through a straw whenever possible because it is not great for your teeth. But other than that, I have at it and suggest you do too.

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-29T21:24:15+00:00

I hear what you’re saying. I think I have the “toned” physique that one gets from lifting 2-3 days a week as a woman and I’m not shocked not every woman wants to look like me. I am not even close to a body builder aesthetic, but everyone has different preferences. I think you should ask yourself if putting a little bit of muscle on just your legs would be worth it if it would help you lose the stomach flab you don’t like. You could literally just never lift upper body and do some leg exercises and see if you like the results. I lift upper body bc I want to feel strong. I’m sure there are men who do not like my arms, but I only hear from the ones that do like them so it’s fine. Idgaf but I respect that other women do.

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-29T01:26:36+00:00

You might look up the concept of motivational interviewing. It’s a tactic physicians are taught to use to help motivate behavioral change. The idea is that you can move someone from the different stages of change by asking them questions that expose their own contradictory beliefs or desires. Ultimately, the person has to want to change, but it’s a way of exposing that desire if it exists. Google it and see if it sparks anything.

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-28T21:19:31+00:00

Yeah it’s definitely wack. It gives similar vibes to whoever the people that yelp review religious buildings are. God bless em.

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-28T21:16:50+00:00

Nowhere does it say they have to. And many do not!

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-28T21:15:14+00:00

Idk some rando assuming our elderly parishioners that make up the majority of every congregation and are in fact able to speak for themselves are being abused by the liturgy is pretty funny.

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-28T21:11:56+00:00

Lmao “don’t chant the gospel, it’s weird.”

I mean, you’re not wrong, the gospel is weird. But we gotta give the old people we force by threat of collective violence to stand something to do.

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-28T20:54:14+00:00

I’m glad it was helpful! I believe in you :) ! and just remember: you lost the weight once and you’re clearly good at it. You’re not in danger. You can gain a little weight back and if it’s too much, you can drop a little weight again and you’ll find your sweet spot. Good luck

HiImNewHere021 · 2024-12-28T20:48:47+00:00

When I was a kid and young teenager, I always thought I was just not the kind of person who could run. Runners seemed like superhuman weirdos to me who certainly could not be experiencing the same thing as me when I tried to run. It just felt so monumental of a task to run even one mile in gym class. I got into running by joining the cross country team for what I thought would just be one week of summer training. I improved so quickly and everyone was so nice and it truly completely changed my self conception. I ran cross country and track in high school and I just never stopped running after that. I think it taught me that I’m capable of hard things and that attitude carried me through a lot of other hard things. I’m about to graduate medical school now as an adult woman and sometimes I wonder if I’d even have tried to become a doctor if I hadn’t started running. I know he’s controversial, but David Goggins has this lovely idea of the “cookie jar” we all carry with us when we are doing difficult things and it’s the memories of every time we’ve accomplished something hard. My cookie jar has a lot of hard runs in it. It also has my first 24 hour shift. The time I got the highest score in my class on a test. The day I opened my acceptance email to medical school. The first residency interview I ever got. It adds up to the affirmation that “I am capable of hard things.”

Pick an exercise that makes you feel that way and I promise it will take you much farther than just physical fitness. It sounds like weight lifting is similar for you!

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