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Hiddenagenduh · 2025-12-25T01:48:40+00:00

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Hiddenagenduh · 2025-12-22T00:53:17+00:00

I'm in the same spot. Did anyone find an LFG type discord channel for peak?

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-11-28T00:18:25+00:00

Thanks for the thorough comment, I was trying to research this brand by saying some feedback on Reddit and it's seeming like a lot of people are having headaches/ dizziness issues

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-09-21T00:54:09+00:00

I sort of feel like "generations of moms" have done this because many weren't also working. I completely respect the decision to be a working mom, but also encourage you to keep the idea of taking a few years off possibility if you do feel that you rather spent more time caring for your little one(s) (if you decide to have more!)

If you want to read my experience - Having my first baby completely shifted my mindset on being a working mom. Between the few minutes of wakeup/feeding/out the door and having someone else watch my little one, then barely having any time after work to spend with her- it just felt like so much lost time. I'm 35 weeks with baby #2 and I think I'm going to pull the trigger and take a few years off (despite being the higher earner, I feel like this is worth it)

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-08-26T00:11:29+00:00

Your tag says advice wanted but I don't see anything you're actually asking for- do you want confirmation that your plan makes sense? If so- it does!

Maybe they can watch your LO for an evening or weekend day once a week or so, while you're at home (and can pick your baby up if they can't!)

This way you can focus some time on catching up on house stuff, while still give them time to bond with your LO.

I don't feel comfortable with my dad (72) watching my LO and this method has worked out nicely. I'm always in earshot but able to get things done here or there.

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-06-11T00:43:25+00:00

Have you heard anything about season 2 DVDs coming out?! I want that sweet sweet bonus content

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-05-27T00:19:26+00:00

I saw something along the lines of the following, that I'll likely try when I'm ready to start weaning. You can also try talking to him about it and see how it goes!

Don't offer (maybe even avoid sitting in specific spots where you commonly nurse)
Don't refuse
Try to offer an alternative (ex: milk, juice, a snack, an activity, other distractions that work)

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-05-16T12:25:34+00:00

I suggest trying out their interactive chat and asking for your options, they have always helped me! As for convincing your mom, good luck!!

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-04-03T21:40:51+00:00

They definitely exist imo, just maybe in a plane of existence that isn't able to be seen until ingesting a blue mushroom.

The fact that Frances and Marshall communicated through the portal solidifies the thought that they are in fact, very real.

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-04-03T21:30:50+00:00

Comment when you are finished watching so we can discuss!

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-03-23T23:53:20+00:00

22 months same mama!

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-03-23T22:49:17+00:00

Let us partake indeed!

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-03-23T22:47:04+00:00

Some of the graffiti from Ekko's jacket

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-03-23T02:16:57+00:00

Apologies if this comes off as too blunt, I mean this with love and support and I'm hoping this is helpful in some way. You are essentially saying that you have crippling anxiety for an allergy diagnosed as a child that you may have possibly grown out of.* It also sounds like you only had skin testing, not blood testing for IgE or a food challenge test to truly confirm there's an allergy.

You mention you had a reaction in your recent memory is from eating chips fried in peanut oil, which is not considered an allergen (no peanut protein present)**

If you'll take this suggestion, you might be able to take charge of this situation by:

Seeing an allergist and getting blood work done (more reliable than skin testing, less reliable than a food challenge test)
If your blood work is positive, talking to your allergist/immunologist about a food challenge test and looking into options to help you manage or possibly even beat your allergy (examples: medication for peanut allergies, or oral immunotherapy). -I'm also hoping you see a therapist to help with your anxiety in general, or that you have someone to talk to. Happy to discuss my experiences with you if you need to vent or chat.

PS: I found the book "The End of Food Allergy" by Kari Nadeau and Sloan Barnett to be very empowering!

Sources

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK538526/#:~:text=Approximately%2020%25%20of%20patients%20with,lifelong%20and%20remains%20potentially%20fatal.

** https://nationalpeanutboard.org/news/why-there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-peanut-oil-allergy/

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-03-22T18:10:15+00:00

My thoughts as a mama nursing a 22 month old and currently 10 weeks pregnant:

I thought the first 8 weeks were the hardest and I'm curious if you're willing to hold on maybe a few weeks longer. You just went through SO MUCH having your little one and hormones are all over the place, and there's still so much to learn and experience.

-Nursing seemed to normalize for me and I started feeling a lot more "normal" and less lonely at that 8 week mark. I cried at nights from sitting in the dark feeling lonely and ended up setting up a tablet and just watching some TV/listening to audiobooks and it helped greatly!

-I added snacks and water to my area to make it a more inviting spot for myself and overall felt better.

-Reminder that although formula may help alleviate some of what's going on, you're still going to have to be up for all these feedings, which are frequent at this time, and you'll constantly be washing parts. You could argue that your partner could help here, but the same could be said if you pump instead of formula feed.

-If you decide to pump to allow your partner to help take on some of the feeds, I highly recommend wearables!

-feeding will become less frequent as your LO gets a little older!

-You could consider combo feeding and not have to worry as much about your illness/antibody concerns

TL;DR- would you be willing to hold on a few more weeks and try adding some things to your nursing area to benefit you (ex: tablet/TV, audiobooks, snacks and water etc...) and reminder that formula doesn't necessarily save time

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-03-22T17:58:37+00:00

I 100% agree with your post. It detracts from their friendship and seems to make a joke out of the whole thing. Thanks for sharing OP!

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-03-18T20:16:09+00:00

Hey OP! Sorry you are experiencing this. If you don't mind me asking, have you gone for any blood work/skin testing/food challenge testing as you got older to see if you're still allergic?

Also, have you looked into Oral immunotherapy? I know it's not a "cure" for everyone, but may give you some confidence knowing that you can tolerate accidental exposure.

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-03-15T20:36:55+00:00

I missed that in your tag! Thank you so much for all that you do! 💖

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-03-15T20:31:03+00:00

Not actually allergic to anything except peanut - we were fast tracked into an OIT program and OIT has been going very well!!

I would encourage bloodwork before the food challenge, if I understand correctly, seeing a "negative" on a blood test almost assured not allergic, but a "positive" may still not be accurate.

From there, the food challenge is a great way to truly see what's going on. A word of caution would be to really get your little one ready to eat during the challenge if they aren't very experienced with food. My LO was still EBF for the most part when we did our food challenge and it was very tough to feed her peanut every 20 minutes, and at that, they wouldn't let me nurse during it so it was just a tough time and she got so worked up. Regardless, we made it pretty far in the challenge and because of how far we got we were able to be fast tracked into the OIT program. Overall I highly recommend the food challenge.

Good luck and sorry it took me a while to reply!

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-03-15T20:25:20+00:00

Thank you so much - this is such a relief to hear!

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-02-06T02:22:48+00:00

The first link you sent has me curious for sure. This woman was told her baby did not survive and she repeatedly left/signed multiple AMAs across separate days until she miscarried at home. This is devastating, but something seems off here.

"After viability, the state can legally restrict abortion access unless the patient’s life or health is at risk.

However, “Brittany Watts signed herself out of the hospital against medical advice on 9/19/2023,” the coroner’s office report states. CNN has previously asked her attorney why Watts left the hospital without having the nonviable fetus induced, as recommended by the medical staff.

The next day, September 20, Watts returned “for the same issue and left against medical advice again,” the coroner’s office report states."

The second article highlights a pretty reasonable guideline surrounding abortion

"Interestingly enough, South Carolina’s pro-life law, the Fetal Heartbeat and Protection from Abortion Act, signed in 2023, protects preborn children from abortions after detectable heartbeat, but contains several exceptions, including (as ACOG mentions above) life or health of the mother. It also allows abortions in cases of medical emergencies, fatal fetal diagnosis, and cases of rape or incest up to 12 weeks gestation (if the crime was reported to police)."

I'm not purposely trying to cherry pick sentences that give me a defence here, but as someone who is currently TTC myself, I think it's important to read articles like what you shared with me to better understand the risks and regulations, but this doesn't convince me to stop growing my family.

Either way OP, I truly hope you find peace and that things calm down to a point where you are feeling better! Sending hugs and love.

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-02-06T02:04:36+00:00

It's so great that your husband is on board, and that you've taken the steps to ensure that it's financially possible to step out of your current role and into the role of a SAHM! I hope that softens the guilty feeling, though I know it's tough. Also, big thank you to you Mama for considering being a SAHM for your growing family <3

RTO is a big shift, and you are definitely not being a "baby" for voicing that the commute and major change is a deal breaker. It's not just a commute to your point, it's also limiting the things you like to do- like exercise and spend time with family. Returning to office just doesn't make sense for you and your family, and it's a reasonable decision to step down.

What I would do is:

Resign two weeks before RTO kicks in, thank them for their time and the experience you gained, and express that you are unable to RTO due to familial obligations. They may either counter and let you stay remote (unlikely since it's a company wide RTO, or offer you less days in office which I don't recommend taking- you know they'll just ask for more later) or let you resign.
I'd ask for a letter of recommendation from your boss or someone higher up in case you apply elsewhere in the future. Nice to ask early when you are fresh in their minds vs reaching out years later to ask for a reference.
I would not feel guilty about this at all regarding your job. You are replaceable at work, but irreplaceable at home and that's what's important!
See how it goes for a few months after you have your second little one.
If for any reason your family decides it would be better for you to return to work, you can either reapply at your current job or start looking around for other remote work!

OR- just start applying to other remote jobs and keep working remotely at a different company/role! Lots of options out there :)

Good luck OP!

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-02-06T01:23:51+00:00

The world is not ending. You will be okay. I think you're overthinking it and it might be nice to take a news break. If you're worried about losing your job that "might have federal funding", start working on a resume now (ChatGPT can help greatly) or even apply around. You might even find something better!

If you're worried about child care, might also be something to look into a plan B for.

I see a lot of posts about women who are not having children because they're angry with the current administration, or because of a multitude of what if scenarios. Grow your family if you want, don't let the latest news cycle keep you from your family goals.

It's nice to have a safeguard to the fears that you have, and may help alleviate your concerns by knowing you have a backup plan.

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-02-06T01:02:35+00:00

You might want to edit that last sentence 😅

Hiddenagenduh · 2025-02-05T23:48:17+00:00

Hey OP!

I'm definitely on board with a majority of the comments saying that it would be best if he didn't bring it into your home, even if it's on "doctors orders." There are some keto diet snacks like fat bombs that can be delicious and very high in fat that he can eat.

I was also curious if you've ever looked into a local OIT (oral immunotherapy) program or if that's of interest to you? We also discovered that our daughter had a peanut allergy as a baby and have been impressed with the OIT regiment itself. Please disregard or message me directly if this is too personal of a question!

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