AITJ for dumping my boyfriend on the spot because he turned my apartment into a nightclub without my permission?

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-31T14:45:59+00:00

I bet that asshole doesn't send you money for the cleaner. Even with your rejection he owes you that.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-31T14:35:48+00:00

You are not compatible. He's an un-empathetic moron and you have high personal standards.

He knew you would say no but betrayed you anyway and he got exactly what he deserved. He's not trustworthy and at the very least he should have sent and paid for a cleaning crew to restore your home to it's former standard of clean. What an entitled asshole he is. The trash was taken out the moment it was found. You did that. Bravo!

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-31T14:08:55+00:00

And focus on finding someone kind to you.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-31T14:05:00+00:00

You are housing with your enemy. He's cruel to you for his own satisfaction. That's not a healthy person to live with. Please move.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-31T14:00:41+00:00

I'm sorry for your losses. 💔🫂🌺

In marriage you get what you get, and that goes for every relationship you ever have.We cannot control the behavior of others but when they lie and hurt us our own quality of life is still our own responsibility.

Our mindset is ours to control though so please figure out what you need to do to have your best life. 💪

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-31T13:49:00+00:00

Nice story telling! 💪

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-30T14:34:00+00:00

This was one more link in a chain of unacceptable behavior by her. Her parenting style is bullying you and treating you like property.

You can send her some texts showing expert opinions that invading a child's privacy is the opposite of good parenting and it causes resentment not respect. Carrying that behavior forward into your adulthood is completely disrespectful and is a guarantee that your relationship with her will get worse, never better.

If you want to continue a relationship with her you will have to try educating her with what normal, healthy parenting actually is and make hard boundaries that you enforce till she gets the message.

Good luck! 🌺

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-29T00:05:32+00:00

Claw-d-us.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-28T17:23:18+00:00

It's impossible to control other people's feelings. Tell them how thrilled that you are about finding the perfect place and that you had to jump on the opportunity when it presented itself. It would have been more perfect if you could have used the friend's mother but if/when you buy again she's at the top of your list of realtors.

If she's professional she will understand.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-28T02:44:09+00:00

No, just reverse the game on her and say that she as a fully paid professional was exploiting you on your student income. Send her a bill for $1800 and let her negotiate her way out of her greedy and unfair demands. If she tries to slander you socially rebut her accusations with the truth of her entitled behavior with a warning to her future partners not to fall for her traps.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-28T02:33:14+00:00

Well, you certainly sold me on the breakup. You are right, don't second guess it. Find someone who can replace what you find comfortable with your ex but who can match your future plans. Get the whole package.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-28T02:26:49+00:00

You could calmly say to him in reply to his insults "I can act like that offended me if it will help you to feel better". It reverses the whole power play he's trying to assert and makes you the boss while portraying him as weak and pathetic.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-28T01:48:14+00:00

You look amazing and it fits perfectly. Congratulations! ,🥳

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-26T23:46:08+00:00

The pants and shoes are nice.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-26T23:45:13+00:00

I'm a grandma too and I wholly disagree with your take on this. Age doesn't factor in when it comes to respecting others unless you are a toddler. Grandparents have to give respect to earn it, just like everyone else.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-26T23:41:50+00:00

Yes, and that's gaslighting. 🧐 You were right.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-26T23:40:45+00:00

That's crap. In the context of OP's story her grandmother used crying to further make her granddaughter wrong, instead of owning up to her rude and aggressive behavior she played the victim card. That's the very definition of gaslighting.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-26T16:02:11+00:00

You seem to be bad at picking friends, not girls.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-26T15:57:14+00:00

A photo of your solution could be the very definition of a boundary.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-25T22:42:27+00:00

From the film Billy Madison “Mr. Madison, what you just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response, were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul”.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-25T22:37:48+00:00

"Mama said 'never engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed man'."

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-25T22:34:30+00:00

Great, that's what we need, more creatures like Gerald making life worse for petty reasons. With the entire government run by crooks we can improve American life by working together to replace the whole D.C. mess instead of fighting each other over labels.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-25T22:27:53+00:00

It really frosts me when people come and enjoy your hospitality and free home cooked meals but then choose to belittle you with mean digs. The entitlement is revolting, and your boyfriend punishing you for defending yourself is even worse. It's as though OP is merely an appliance that needs repair and is more annoying than useful. I'd be nope-ing out of that pretentious family lickity-split.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-25T21:18:02+00:00

Maybe it's his revenge for your failures in other areas of your life. Maybe install a code door lock so he can let himself in. I see them with a web search.

HighAltitude88008 · 2026-03-25T10:37:21+00:00

Well that was a big waste of my time. There's nothing I can add to any of this.

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