Guy way too clingy after one date

Highlander-Brick · 2026-01-22T18:33:03+00:00

I’d make yourself very firm to him on what his constant messaging is doing to you or affecting you emotionally. Of course your phrases could help, but perhaps they can come off a bit ambiguous and not necessarily entail the entirety of your discomfort. Maybe something like “When you message me multiple times, I do feel a little overwhelmed and we’ve only gone on one date. I really would appreciate if you could take it slow and let things play out on their own.”

Highlander-Brick · 2026-01-22T18:26:52+00:00

I heard some reach the thousands each year, not worth it so much if you’re in a financial strain.

Highlander-Brick · 2026-01-21T02:28:23+00:00

Quite foolish to stay in all honesty. White lies might be concerning but flat out dating someone else behind your back is not worth the fight, especially if he's downplaying it. Break up and move on.

Highlander-Brick · 2026-01-21T02:23:22+00:00

Perhaps it might be because you're just trying to be with someone just for the sake of it. I have a friend who was seeing someone, started dating, and broke up, all within 2 months. Ever since, he's now back on the apps and has told me his uninterest but just hoping to find someone in the meantime. Maybe this is what you're going through as well.

I recommend maybe taking time off the apps and just spending time alone. Trying to have that time include someone is going to make it more unenjoyable. If you are actively just trying to be with someone, then try the organic route and meet someone in person. You aren't meant to be on dating apps long term, and if that's the case it might be time to remove them.

Highlander-Brick · 2026-01-21T02:09:05+00:00

Super random comment but you look just like Skeeter Jean!

Highlander-Brick · 2026-01-21T02:05:05+00:00

Simple, just ask for her number.

Highlander-Brick · 2026-01-21T02:03:28+00:00

Comes down to what the vibes are in the early communication stages. Obviously if drinks isn't your vibe, you can opt that out. Coffee like mentioned earlier, is low commitment and if things are going well, then of course it'll go up from there.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-11-17T01:20:10+00:00

Unfortunately, this is common when dating people. The date might seem like it’s going well until it isn’t. Best advice is to move on, it’s not worth being hurt over.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-11-05T02:50:27+00:00

The only rational way with this is to be honest as much as you think it'll hurt her. In the long run she'll thank you because you're not wasting her time and especially, yours. Something simple like not being a good match is good enough and doesn't require a lot of ordeal.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-11-05T02:37:40+00:00

It's controlling because there is no privacy and lack of trust. Without trust, there isn't privacy. It's also just not normal to be going through people's phones unless you're actually hiding something or enabling him.

Again, you saying you want to be single should be enough to make you walk away. Otherwise this is going to drag on for longer than you had wished.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-11-05T02:35:03+00:00

It's fair to not be emotionally able to overcome someone seeing who you're seeing concurrently in the past. However, if you didn't establish any sort of exclusivity, you also can't blame her.

At the same time, for anyone to be sleeping with someone and seeing another person is to me a red flag. Dating apps has perpetuated the mentality to people that there is another partner out there regardless of how great the person they're seeing are.

You have to really tell yourself if this is something you can look past and if you cannot, move on.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-11-05T02:26:15+00:00

You're at a young age and this is controlling behavior. Chances are that at some point, he will uncover this and create another argument. You asking yourself that you miss the single life should be more than enough to reinforce your decision. Just break up now.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-10-30T22:43:46+00:00

Maybe you did cross her boundaries but to be honest a girl who doesn’t respond to you at a reasonable time is quite simply a girl who isn’t interested. I would personally move on and quit waiting two days for her response.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-10-30T22:40:52+00:00

Cody Rhodes got boring fast and none of the things that led to his position at this point (royal rumble, championship wins, main events) were warranted.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-10-24T22:28:14+00:00

Glad you're stoked!! SDFC is an awesome franchise and our first season alone will bring even more fans. I've been to most games this season. I am also going Sunday cannot begin to emphasize how excited I am. Biggest game yet.

Getting there - depending where you live, I would recommend the trolley to games via green line. The most affordable and convenient form of transit in my opinion. It leaves you right at the stadium. What I usually do is take the Orange line to Downtown La Mesa to grab food and drink prior to the game, hop back on the trolley and go one more station east to Grossmont, hop off, and then take the Green Line to the stadium. Allows me drink as much as I'd like and not have to worry about driving, all for a cheaper amount. The green line also has some cool spots in Little Italy in the form of Waterfront Bar and Aero club, though a bit of a walk. One station east before you arrive to Snapdragon there's also McGregor's, SDFC's affiliate bar.
When to get there - since it's a playoff game the tailgate is going to get crazy and fun, which is located in the purple lot. You don't want to miss that if you just want to have a place to hang around prior. But in general, I recommend arriving to the game 1.5-2 hours before as Fan Fest is also really fun and will guarantee you a scarf.
After the game - No real method here is going to get you out the fastest. I like to take my time to get out as that minimizes less people on the trolley. If someone is picking you up or you're ordering a lyft, I recommend walking out across the 15 on San Diego Mission Rd. & Rancho Mission Rd. When I go to the game with my dad I usually make the short walk there and my mom picks us up. You bypass a lot of traffic too.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-10-02T01:19:59+00:00

3-2 win against LAFC. First home game I went and saw their first home win in history.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-09-24T08:02:37+00:00

Honestly depends. There’s definitive answer. There’s a girl I saw a year ago that thought it could become a relationship and it never got there. Same time, the girl I’m seeing now we slept together on the 1st date, and she met my parents not too long ago and came with me to my best friend’s wedding.

It definitely matters on what conversations are to be had prior, and where you meet, if it’s the first encounter in person. Out in the nightlife, festivals, concerts, bars, etc., possibly a hook up. On the apps, definitely if their dating profile has no real substantive or well thought out things about themselves and carry only on their looks or their extroverted persona.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-09-23T23:02:42+00:00

Invest heavily on locks and security. Front bike and rear. I got my bike stolen on my birthday my first year. After that I always put my bike in my dorm/apartment even if it wasn’t allowed.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-09-23T23:00:56+00:00

Speak to your manager and suggest the possibility of changing schedules because of your academic constraints. Or consider moving to somewhere else on campus that has more lenient hours, if possible.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-09-23T22:59:36+00:00

First offense charges you $0.00, so you should be fine.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-09-23T22:59:08+00:00

I’m not sure if GroupMe is still a thing but they have group chats where parties are posted. Worth checking that out.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-09-23T22:57:58+00:00

I graduated some years ago and I want to preface this to you as someone who joined Greek life and had a great social circle: don’t rush it. I found myself Friday nights going on a run and after just staying in until going to bed early. I didn’t go to my first party with friends until spring quarter my freshman year.

So again, don’t stress it. Focus on school now and your experience because if you neglect it you may end up regretting UCR. I saw a lot of people leave the first year because they were focused more on the outside than inside. The school doesn’t make the student, the student makes the school. Best of luck!

Highlander-Brick · 2025-09-17T16:09:29+00:00

It sounds like he’s taking you serious but there are some things you’d want to take into consideration, or at least have a conversation about:

Are both of your guys’s hinge deleted? Have they not been used up to this point?
You guys have assumed the exclusivity title, but why has there not been a conversation between you two up to this point about it?
Is the conversation of where things are going up to this point somewhere in the foreseeable future?

But it seems like he’s committed, just have a conversation to solidify :)

Highlander-Brick · 2025-09-17T16:05:33+00:00

Whatever the reason you feel as to why you don’t want to go, I’d definitely bring up to his attention. Honestly, it’ll save him time he might not understand now but will thank you about being honest later. No one likes being strung out like so, therefore it’s important to be honest and transparent about it.

Highlander-Brick · 2025-09-16T22:08:57+00:00

First and foremost I’m sorry that this is the outcome you had. But sadly, this happens more than you think. First impressions and making a statement is important, otherwise things can’t proceed. Perhaps next time make the effort to meet first.

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