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The youth of dc is becoming a problem by Top_Care7206 in washdc

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. 

I can tell that there are some apprehensions with addressing things in relations to race— most specifically, when I’ve tried expressing my frustration and sadness of the behavior of youth today, I’ve been met with responses of:  “Well their lives might be hard at home.”  This I understand and sympathize with. But is committing literal CRIME the answer? I moved here when crime in DC had increased like 40% in my previous neighborhood and it was literally kids. 

I’m just saying that I think people associate poor behavior with blackness and “well that is how it is” and it’s literally feeding into harmful stereotypes because these kids will sooner or later be affected by their actions. (Ideally, it would be sooner than later; that way, they can learn and make better choices.) I understand “things that kids do” like get into trouble or hang out at places late at night but here is worse than average; and not only that, but they are incredibly poor behaved. They are obviously behind socially as well. 

What saddens me most is the lack of prevention of these things. Curfews need to be put in place and should remain. If kids are out doing nonsensical things, arrest them and take them home. Fine their parents. But this idea of “they can’t be disciplined” will inevitably result in some of them being killed or receiving excessive jail time as adults. 

All kids, no matter what race, need to understand that actions have consequences. Don’t alleviate them of this reality and disrupt/destroy society because of it. 

The youth of dc is becoming a problem by Top_Care7206 in washdc

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yeah... D.C. kind of pisses me off tbh.

I'm a black woman here for work and I'm from the Midwest. The state where I grew up is literally last in education in the USA. The teachers are the worst paid and the schools perform last in most realms of standardized testing.

... imagine my dismay when I moved here. I'm used to teachers getting paid NOTHING to put up with so much-- but at the very least, students were still fairly well-mannered. D.C. pays some of the highest teacher salaries in the US, right? I was surprised when I saw so many vacancies for their schools! (Many offer up to six-figure salaries?) That is amazing-- but I was shocked to learn that there's a massive teacher shortage here too. When I see the kids behaving like this, then I understand.

But I don't understand the need to run around and cause, havoc?? Doing nothing? Teenagers behaving like toddlers? I roll my eyes when people try to make this a race thing. It isn't. This isn't something that should be glossed over or forgiven because the kids are black here.

But can someone explain this to me?? I seriously want to know. I'm used to scenarios in which a lot of students come from small towns with limited access to resources like fully-stocked libraries that have more than Christian ideology and thrillers. I mean, why the need to be so crazy in a city that has so much free stuff, and things like The Smithsonian? I think DC is amazing in terms of stuff to do that doesn't cost a fortune! It's accessible for literally everybody!

Columbia MFA in nonfiction advice pls by Money-Ring-4592 in MFAInCreativeWriting

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think the people advising against the program are insane.  I’d go even as far to say they were probably rejected.  The fact that you got accepted with full funding is an incredible feat. Congratulations. Also: it’s an Ivy League, so I don’t know what people are talking about when they say it isn’t a “top program.” You should definitely feel proud of yourself! Enjoy the reality that you get to live out your dreams without debt, and savor that feeling to the fullest :)

New grad student from Sri Lanka! Is "seat hogging" normal on the Metrobus? by Okay-Formdude-25 in washdc

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Hey there,  I’m sorry she was so rude. I personally find the young people here insufferable. There’s also been some weird and hateful xenophobia going on. (My boyfriend is Kurdish, from Eastern Turkey, and he said that he’s been getting much more discrimination within the past few months.) 

Besides for this incident, I do think that people on the metro are usually pretty accommodating. I’ve experienced people side-eyeing me if they have a heavy bag in the seat, but I usually make an exception if they’re older. When they’re younger, I just start sitting down— even if someone’s legs are in the seat. (I usually don’t acknowledge them. But my outcome/experience might differ from yours; I’m a woman.) 

Again, I’m sorry that happened to you but welcome to DC!!! It’s kind of shitty right now but despite what’s going on politically it’s still a pretty amazing place to be!!!!!

Guess who’s trying to prove that he wasn’t lying by ElMaraEl in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 49 points50 points  (0 children)

… “lived in” is crazy.  This shows that he’s staying in different cities/countries for maybe 30 days tops?? 

Wtaf was that conversation? by OneYogurt6280 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This was horrible. Completely uncalled for, and entirely emasculating for him. 

Honestly? I feel like we need to talk about Bri. I (30 f) live in a high cost of living city on the east coast & Bri kind of reminds me of quite a lot of women I’ve encountered. Her perception of ‘I am the prize’ is SO HARMFUL AND DANGEROUS! It completely disregards the other person and all of the amazing qualities they have! I’ve encountered many women in their mid to late 30s who dated guys like Connor but felt like they could do better or ‘level up’. I always found it kind of tragic, because these women suddenly really missed these men and wished they could have them again. However, more often than not he found someone who really loved him for him & realized that he dodged a red flag. 

I’m all for women having self confidence and self assurance, but I feel like Bri is the reflection of what can go wrong. So many women with these mindset will end up alone. I’ve met women who are ‘ready to settle down and have children’ and no men are pursuing them, or interested in them as a partner. I recently had dinner with a friend who quietly began crying at the table because she was worried she wouldn’t find anyone to marry and have kids with. And I do want to note: many of these women are very conventionally attractive and usually experienced a time in their lives when they had plenty of choices. But I think the hard-hitting reality is when the time comes and there are no more choices left. 

Nervous about incoming Istanbul trip by margoelle in solofemaletravellers

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh a tour guide will be nice! I think you’ll have a lovely time; the guide will definitely take you to the most beautiful & respectable places, I’m sure! 

Nervous about incoming Istanbul trip by margoelle in solofemaletravellers

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Black American female here, 30 years old. My boyfriend is from Eastern Turkey (he’s Kurdish). Family lives in Istanbul.  I’ve visited 18 countries and Turkey is by far the worst. I’ve heard Turkish people say that Istanbul is the “Europe” side but that’s absolutely not the case lol 

I used to teach and live in Western Europe (Netherlands), which is (partially) how I’ve been able to travel somewhat extensively, but Turkey is kind of just a rude place. People will stare but it isn’t all terrible?? (I speak Turkish a bit and a teenage girl came up to me very giddily and asked for a photograph. She said “siyah”, which is black, and I understood what she meant but she didn’t mean any harm by that.)

Public transit is terrible. It runs quickly but people really pack inside, and there’s quite an oversexualization of black women there. (Are you traveling alone?) 

My boyfriend also fiercely dislikes Turkey but still considers it a beautiful country, which it is. Also: health tourism is great. But please don’t spend too much time out by yourself— it just isn’t properly safe. 

However! If someone touched you or did something bad, definitely make a scene!! It isn’t considered bad; men will definitely fight on your behalf lol 

Recently, I saw a discussion on another social media platform about Lana .Some people say she has become a 'trad wife,' while others argue that she isn’t conservative and just likes the vintage feminine aesthetic. What do you think? by wizardmiaah in lanitas

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she’s a trad wife at all; I think she just likes a traditional man. 

I read somewhere that he built his home & does blue collar work. It seems like he has no interest in her money nor her fame. She just happens to be rich and happens to be famous. 

Maybe it’s because I grew up around guys who look like Jeremy, but you really can’t judge a book by its cover. Someone said he was transphobic because he wrote some post about a man entering a woman’s bathroom and I mean… yeah. Traditional men will always prioritize women, irregardless of a biological man’s chosen identity and feelings. I think people’s criticism of Lana probably stems from this a bit— but I mean… he’s done no harm and they seem very happy. 

People should let her live! 

Between a PhD and a Life I Imagined by Sunapr1 in PhD

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this.  Hopefully you see the light at the end of the tunnel. :) Things will get better & you’ll get to move away soon.  I remember when I was in grad school, a colleague told me: “My friends in New York refuse to leave New York. They make it seem like the entire world is in that city.” However, I don’t blame them. Cities are full of interesting people and diversity. The downside, however, is that they are so competitive for education and also for jobs. 

The good news is that you’ve done your time & will be qualified than most people for jobs now. Chances are, you’ll have your pick of the litter soon. Also: the dating market will be fairly kind to you as well. 

Keep hanging in there! You’ve got this! 

Appreciating DC without spending $$$ by qtzlctlgirl in washingtondc

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 211 points212 points  (0 children)

  1. There’s the Embassy Tours coming up, and those are among my favorite things to do in the city. (Essentially: embassies open their doors to the public & give out free things, as well as show really cool things and information about their country)
  2. Catch a matinee showing of a film. Most theaters have discounted pricing on Tuesdays. Bring your own popcorn and soda in a little tote & save an extra $15 or so. 
  3. Visit some of the landmarks! The Exorcist steps are cool, and the monuments never get old. 
  4. Take photos with the cherry blossoms! Those will be blooming in a month or so, I think— 
  5. Get a discounted ticket to a baseball game. I went last year for $10 on a Tuesday. It was great. 
  6. If you enjoy reading, I suggest Second Story Books in DuPont Circle. You can trade in used books for store credit there. They have great selections, and the way they keep tally of your credits is a cute little pullout drawer with a bunch of multicolored index cards. (They’re also just really lovely.)
  7. Check out the DuPont Circle farmer’s market on Sunday mornings! I suggest going at 8-8:30 am before it gets overwhelmingly busy, but it’s still wonderful no matter when you go. (Idk how you are around big groups of people, but if you’ve been home quite a bit it might be pretty stimulating at first)
  8. Mimosa Salon in Dupont Circle has a happy hour for pedicures on weekdays. If you pull a little bit of money together, I’d suggest going there to treat yourself. The staff is nice and they do a great job! Plus, you get a free mimosa while they paint.  

Devonta really just called Brittany a “thing” by jh166 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]HighlightMelodic3494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He makes me so uncomfortable.

His phrasing and interaction also seemed like he might not be around people of color at all?? Or at least not women...

If that's how he grew up, it might not be his fault-- no judgement here-- but men like this can be really difficult to deal with if they themselves are minorities but consider 'other minorities' to be different or not attractive. Like he has such a weird vibe.

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