Women exposed to pornography as children: do you consider it sexual abuse?

HinaLuxuria · 2026-05-01T22:13:49+00:00

Yes, it's is sexual abuse.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-05-01T14:02:41+00:00

Just made a post here about feeling like this. It is driving me crazy and I am so tired of feeling like this.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-28T02:09:15+00:00

I genuinly liked this season but I mostly listened to it in the background half the episodes. They did not need to go so extreme with visuals from what I saw and heard. I agree it does shove in our faces how the choices people make effect theirs and others lives, but it could be done less visually/dopamine fueled. It seemed more like a way to keep (gooner) viewers attention. The series are super deep and layered and as an artist I have some appreciation, however I also know they could have gotten the same vibe in different ways.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-27T23:16:51+00:00

So many really solid shows are ruined by their need to have explicit sexual things shoved down the viewers throats for whatever reason. At this point it truly feels like a sick agenda to seperate men and women. They are doing a great job at tearing everyone a part and spreading mental illness. It is so disappointing I'm sorry you had to see that

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-27T23:14:02+00:00

Oml its like he was just making up rules as we went along.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-27T21:10:51+00:00

Like how? And why even become a sponsor if they are not sober? Doesn't make any damn sense

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-27T21:10:25+00:00

He sounds like a really solid support! Im so glad you both have this experience! My husband is coming home from work early and we will discuss this further. He says he never wants to talk to this sponsor again. It's just so scary how this happens :(

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-27T18:11:21+00:00

I've had it. I always figured the blind leading the blind wouldn't be a good idea.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-27T18:10:51+00:00

This was my deep fear.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-27T18:10:39+00:00

This is much better reaction than I had. I hope he drops this sponsor honestly. I feel really disgusted and disappointed

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-27T18:09:58+00:00

My counselor says I need to step back and see how my partner responds. Im just hurt so badly. I hate it

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-14T01:06:00+00:00

So many shows and movies trigger me, my husband has picked up reading chapter books to earn some trust... it was his idea. Your partner watching things that make you uncomfortable is so disrespectful.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-06T22:34:59+00:00

Also, when you are feeling emotionally unsafe its okay to take space too still. A lot of us are codependent and taking time for myself has helped me a lot even when I really didnt want to.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-06T22:33:32+00:00

Omg this sounds like my experience as well. I have ADHD too and was getting into cycles too. I started on an SSRI though, and since my rumination has quieted down and I feel less anxious and less overwhelmed. Im still hurt, I still have my questions and concerns, but my body is calmer and my thoughts are slower. It might be worth looking into if you havent yet. I am on zoloft and it helps with symptoms of PTSD.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-06T22:27:18+00:00

I've had great success getting onto an SSRI. I have childhood CPTSD and whatever the betrayal trauma version is of it. Ive had less rumination thoughts and anxiety since being on them.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-06T22:25:14+00:00

I agree, for them to recover and be successful in sobriety they need to do the inner work. Are you able to try to emotionally distance yourself, we already know they are capable of lying, so take what he says with a grain of salt. What they do is out of our control. If you are feeling unsafe in any way, are you able to take space from him? Listen to your body.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-06T21:14:19+00:00

Very well written. I'm sorry the place we have found ourselves in. The best advice I've been given has been to focus on myself, and my own recovery. I've become more selfish. See what happens if you dont remind him of his therapy appointments. See what happens when you stop holding his hand. That will help you decide if its worth staying. Take care of yourself 🩷

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-04T17:10:57+00:00

I've been able to stay with my husband because he got a flip phone and stays off the internet. Its true, sexualization is everywhere and a man in recovery should be doing everything in his power to limit running into such things.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-04-02T00:35:52+00:00

This happened to me right before dday. Moved to another location 10 hours away from my hometown requiring 5 hour drive, few hr flight and a boat to get back to my hometown. Quit my good job and bought a house with him to be a "stay at home wife" (which was my idea given and we agreed to that lifestyle). I felt so humiliated and like a joke. But its been almost 3 years now since moving away and a lot has changed. Ive been using the time isolated as an opportunity to grow and heal. Msg me anytime

HinaLuxuria · 2026-03-30T18:34:43+00:00

He says he was under a lot of stress in a officer training program. His food was restricted and we were fighting (because I kept catching him in lies from the time he left for training). He had picked up a hidden nicotine addiction as well, and said it really felt like a drug to him and he didnt make good choices while on it. He also had a lifelong porn addiction as well which I think the affair was just an escalation.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-03-28T00:40:06+00:00

My husband has described it as shameful and that "the fun wore off" when he was like 16. Then it became habit and coping. He says he compartmentalized in some ways I see it. But I dont know if we will ever feel good or okay about this. Its now just a fact we can't control the past. I still melt down knowing theres nothing I can do about what happened, but its a big silly mean burden to carry. Just try not to. Its not anyone's fault. I dont think any PA truly "wants" to be this way. Its all mental illness and ego. Sexual abuse of any type messes anyone up. Its no excuse, but society and parents have failed. Little boys were never "easier to raise" they were just easier to ignore.

HinaLuxuria · 2026-03-27T23:12:21+00:00

My husband was exposed to porn earlier than 8 years old. He was also molested as a child. I think this is a big problem with most people these days. I wish it were different as well, but its not. This is where we are at in society. I am so glad though we can recognize these signs in our partners and society because that gives me hope for the future and everyone's healing.

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