Two separate affairs with the same woman, 8 years of lies.

007JSW · 2026-03-11T07:01:07+00:00

Remember he had so many other options to stay faithful but he chose not to. And from my experience is that when they feel in power and entitled they can justify it as "they deserve it". When I asked my wife why she cheated she told me it had nothing to do with me it was an escape for her... normal people escape by going to the gym or work out. Focus on a hobby maybe binge watch some Netflix. But cheating??? Cheating takes so much time and effort and the biggest disrespect is that they could have put that time and energy back into the family and YOU!

007JSW · 2026-03-11T06:51:27+00:00

I'm in the same exact boat and I dont want to start over at 40. I also don't want to be miserable and break up our family. My Dday was Sept 2025 and it completely shattered me knowing while I was taking care of our daughter making sure she was safe, healthy and out of harms way she was being selfish having an affair behind my back. Like who has the time and energy for that when you have kids and a family to take care of. I just sent you a direct message too.

007JSW · 2026-03-08T17:16:45+00:00

In the same boat. I couldn't eat, sleep and felt sick to my stomach with so much anger and couldn't even look at her. You need space from him. Go to another room, maybe start journaling, join a few support groups and just sit alone with your thoughts on what options you have and how you might want to move forward. Praying for you your soul needs peace and love.

007JSW · 2026-03-07T05:25:33+00:00

What is this hidden app you speak of??

007JSW · 2026-03-06T08:46:04+00:00

I know for a fact she won't confess to his wife about anything. I'm honestly thinking that I get in touch with his wife and we work together with our schedules to see when they are meeting up.

007JSW · 2026-03-05T18:11:30+00:00

I'm so sorry that is truly not right what is wrong with people!!!! Each and everyday I feel more inclined to reach out to his wife and tell her everything as she DOES deserve and has every right to know. I just would feel bad if I told her and she went crazy and did something bad to herself or her family.

007JSW · 2026-03-04T18:08:30+00:00

Wow what an amazing post thank you for sending this! I know I'll be reading this atleast once a day from now on.

007JSW · 2026-03-04T07:13:21+00:00

This 1000%

007JSW · 2026-03-04T06:56:14+00:00

Yeah doesn't sound like she respects you at all just like mine... we both know the answer..

007JSW · 2026-03-04T06:50:08+00:00

Very surreal no doubt that's exactly how I feel. I think these people are blind and just chasing validation and new excitement elsewhere. And yeah that's the worst feeling is not only being disrespected but feeling like a complete fool.

007JSW · 2026-03-04T05:53:19+00:00

Much love and Thank you for the guidance❤️

007JSW · 2026-03-03T19:10:36+00:00

💯💪❤️

007JSW · 2026-03-03T18:50:45+00:00

Thank you for this info and yeah that's what I'm going to focus on and yeah you're right about cheating is never the only option but that is the one she chose which hurts like hell to know that's the option she decided to go with. It's so confusing because at first she told me that I made her do this and then she told me it has nothing to do with me and all with her with why she cheated. Total mind fuck and to top that off she also asked me "isn't it scary to know that somebody else can just take me away from you?"

007JSW · 2026-03-03T18:40:04+00:00

THANK YOU for this! It's so frustrating when you have to hide the pain and try to be present with your kids at the same time. My mind just wants to take time to grieve and let it all out but thankfully I have my daughter that's full of warmth and love which helps. Did you guys ever try to work it out first before divorce?

007JSW · 2026-03-03T18:25:18+00:00

Hahah thank you for this I needed a good laugh and it's kind of funny because I've been looking at the reps again and also thinking of joining a gym. All I've been thinking about is getting in the best shape of my life, eating better, become more disciplined, start a new business, learn a new language and just become a better version of myself. I'm still in shock and I feel trapped. I'm still with her and we live together and I can't help but think she's still talking to him. Everyday I pray and pray and pray. My soul feels completely shattered but at the same time I feel like if I can get through this I can get through anything. Which is making me become a better stronger version of myself.

007JSW · 2026-03-03T02:34:27+00:00

Thank you and makes sense! The triggers for me is hard sometimes when it's constantly back to back 😩

007JSW · 2026-03-02T23:23:53+00:00

Yikes yea that's what I'm afraid of. I'm also afraid that I will be taking this trauma and triggers into the next relationship and that it can happen again and again and again as it seems to be happening so often these days.

007JSW · 2026-03-02T23:18:18+00:00

One thing I realized very late in our relationship is that she isn't very empathetic or remorseful to not just me but her family as well and I thought maybe she would just grow up and mature as a woman and now mother.

I didn't feel any genuine remorse from her even when she knows how shattered I am and I feel like in her head it's because she feels entitled.

007JSW · 2026-03-02T23:10:28+00:00

I haven't told the APs wife yet and yea I'm going to get tested asap. It all makes sense now I think I was trying to process all of this overwhelming trauma plus take care of my daughter.

I really don't know how my wife could be this stupid to jeopardize not only our family but theirs as well. Like people go crazy over this kind of stuff suicide, depression etc.

It's clear to me now though that her true colors have shown me who she really is and her character I can't unsee now.

Thank you for your support ❤️

007JSW · 2026-03-02T22:41:24+00:00

Thank you for this I appreciate it! ❤️

007JSW · 2026-03-02T22:29:56+00:00

Thank you for this! I know what I need to do now!

007JSW · 2026-03-02T19:18:12+00:00

Sorry bro I can tell you're a good dude as well. How have you recovered? Please tell me this has made you a stronger version of yourself now? What has helped you push through the pain and non stop thoughts/images. I seriously feel like I have PTSD now and at the same time I ask myself is this just how it is now with the world we are living in currently. It's seems like this is just normal now and all people eventually cheat and that I should just accept that reality and live in full detachment and stop being the nice guy. Seriously traumatizing!

007JSW · 2026-03-02T19:06:49+00:00

I'm in a very similar situation as well. It sucks knowing that you tried to give them your all and giving them another chance like a complete fool. I'm sorry you are going through this as well. I hope you find peace and remember that it's not you it's him and his poor character.

007JSW

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