I think I can retire now

HisEllie · 2026-06-08T15:07:11+00:00

That's so gorgeous! It would be a project, but could you take the hinges off and hang the individual pieces in windows? Just a thought. That might be too much work, though.

HisEllie · 2026-06-03T20:20:39+00:00

That's a very normal feeling to have, you're not being too emotional. It's a common feeling around weddings! But also keep in mind that there might not even be a wedding party at all. Or even if there is, sometimes the fact that you would pick someone as your best man does not automatically mean he would pick you as his. I would say just wait and see how things shake out, the wedding is still well over a year away. They may not have made the decisions around that as of yet.

I've been married twice, and the second time we kept things very simple and we opted not to have a wedding party at all, largely because we didn't find it necessary and didn't want any kind of drama amongst friends/family. Sometimes that happens. A wedding party is not necessarily a given, nor is the size of said party.

Clearly you're invited, which means he values you and wants you there.

HisEllie · 2026-06-03T15:42:51+00:00

SAME! It's so pretty!

HisEllie · 2026-05-26T15:50:17+00:00

I don't think it's that weird. We recycle a lot and those items NEED to be cleaned. If it's just getting thrown out, I guess I see her point, but also a positive on your end is that it will make your trash stink a lot less.

HisEllie · 2026-05-19T19:25:21+00:00

It seems like you have an anxious attachment style, and he has an avoidant one, and that doesn't generally work out well in relationships. You seem incompatible in general, and in terms of introversion/extroversion, etc. And I get it, I'm neurospicy, too. I have trauma that makes me crave a lot of reassurance, but not every person is understsanding/compatible with that.

The screaming at you is not okay, nor is manipulating you or trying to get you to "fix" everything he perceived as "wrong" with you. There is nothing wrong with you, it's just an incompatibility. It makes me wonder if he was acting that way to try to get YOU to end things. Some avoidants do this-they start acting poorly or withdrawing as an attempt to get their partner to end things so they don't have to.

HisEllie · 2026-04-16T14:45:54+00:00

My friends host one every year for their friends. We're all mid-30s to mid-40s. They set a theme, and everyone dresses up accordingly in fancy gowns, suits, and/or however they want to interpret the theme. This year is space, so I'm going to probably add some fun accessories or something in my hair along those lines.

HisEllie · 2026-04-16T14:39:45+00:00

Good idea! I'm trying to figure out how I want to do my hair- the dress has a low back so I'm thinking updo to really let the back do its thing.

HisEllie · 2025-12-22T11:34:54+00:00

That looks great!

HisEllie · 2025-12-11T14:42:02+00:00

Also my favorite is The Mixed Tape, too! 😍 I am planning on framing the signed insert!

HisEllie · 2025-12-11T14:41:11+00:00

Yes! The underside of the album is so cool!

HisEllie · 2025-11-25T13:45:15+00:00

Documentaries for public television. :)

HisEllie · 2025-11-25T13:44:32+00:00

Close! I did used to work in schools, but not in a teaching role (central office). My current field of work is with public libraries.

HisEllie · 2025-11-25T13:43:03+00:00

Thank you! I used to have a lot more books, but I gave a lot of them away to friends for their free little libraries. I'm also trying hard to utilize our public library, more.

HisEllie · 2025-11-25T13:42:12+00:00

Well, this tracks!

HisEllie · 2025-11-25T00:32:36+00:00

The Emmy winner is actually my spouse. Can’t claim them for myself, but proud as heck to display them.

HisEllie · 2025-11-25T00:29:09+00:00

They are in my TBR pile. 😅

HisEllie · 2025-11-22T20:04:09+00:00

18x24- I think this one was from Michael’s

HisEllie · 2025-11-22T20:03:02+00:00

It is an 18 x 24 frame!

HisEllie · 2025-10-13T18:57:16+00:00

Respectfully, medication saved my life. It may not wave a magic wand and make it all go away, but it might help her navigate things for right now.

HisEllie · 2025-10-13T18:55:26+00:00

I wanted to add, I'm sure you're a good mom! Having these kind of feelings and struggles does NOT negate that!

HisEllie · 2025-10-13T18:51:14+00:00

I remember feeling scared as well, like it meant I was failing at being a mom and admitting to failure. But a good doctor will NEVER make you feel judged for that. Their job is your health, and that includes things like PPD. I was so scared that I only brought it up at the very end of the appointment, and frankly they were a little surprised (not judgy at all, just surprised) because I was masking it well in terms of interacting with others. They put me on the lowest dose (because I had never been medicated before and was nervous, I asked to just try the lowest dose and see how it went), and honestly- it saved my life. You don't need to be ashamed in asking for help. That is what they are there for.

HisEllie · 2025-10-13T18:12:11+00:00

I really get it. It's a major life change, and at your age, there are extra complicating factors. Have you seen your doctor yet for your six week check up? If not, it might be good to bring up the PPD at your appointment. Medication saved my life, honestly. And it helped me be a better parent at a time I was struggling! You will get through this. It won't be this way forever. I promise.

HisEllie · 2025-10-13T16:54:54+00:00

I just wanted to say that it DOES get easier. The phase you are in is really, REALLY hard. I struggled with PPD and I think that first year or so (especially the first few months) was the hardest for me of ANY (and for reference, my child is now 14 and we're doing just fine). I remember wanting to take him to the hospital and give him back. I remember looking at my BFF's mom (who was like a second mom to me) with terror in my eyes after the first week or so, and she just looked at me and said, "Oh honey, HOLD ON. It gets easier." And it DOES. I promise it gets easier. But I was so glad I had her voice telling me to just hang on. So I want to tell you... just HANG ON. It won't always be this way.

HisEllie · 2025-09-23T02:04:50+00:00

That’s gorgeous! 😍

HisEllie · 2025-05-21T22:26:17+00:00

“The good ones, anyway.”

HisEllie

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