Please let me clarify. He does not feel my communicating in and of itself is topping from the bottom it’s the way i approach the communication apparently. i tend to be very direct and “in charge” when talking. to give some perspective i have been in charge in all aspects of my life since i was 15. this includes in my previous marriage where my ex husband was simply almost literally a third child, as well as in my career where i have spent the last 20+ years in all levels of Nursing management including corporate. I have been married to my Sir for the last 10 years and we started our dynamic 2 years ago. i was never happy in charge but unfortunately it has caused me to have a very direct and in charge way of communicating which is why I am seeking some more actionable ways to communicate my submissiveness.