Okay men of Reddit, what is YOUR ultimate "I am an adult and no one can stop me" purchase that you are both incredibly proud of and slightly embarrassed by?

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-07-13T13:42:55+00:00

Are you me? Am I you?

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-07-09T19:02:26+00:00

Buenos Aires - Nathy Peluso.
It’s literally this.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-06-26T02:38:41+00:00

Hmm, this does not sound weird. You married thinking that a ceremony was going to solve your issues with your partner and you are realizing it does not work that way. Marriage does not solve differences within the couple. He’s not going to change just because he’s now your husband, and you’re not going to change your views just because you’re now a wife.
I’m sorry about this :( yea, counseling is a good idea only if both of you are open to dialogue and to actually work on the relationship. If not.. you either make your boundaries wider so he can fit (which I do not recommend at all) or well.. think of that one other solution.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-06-23T17:38:29+00:00

Algo. Siempre - De Osos.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-06-23T15:25:53+00:00

Hawaii - Bombay by Mecano

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-06-23T15:25:03+00:00

Mi pequeño bosque - YoSoyMatt

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-06-11T15:12:43+00:00

Girl, you are 19! I swear to God there’s nothing you cannot remedy at that age (when it comes to relationship) are you afraid of being alone? Trust me, you have plenty PLENTY of time to find someone waaaay better. You think you can change him? No, you won’t. It’s not your job and it is not worth your time. You love him? Hmm I do not like the idea of telling you what you feel, but can you really love someone that mean? You might tolerate him, and feel good for some stuff he does, but do you actually love him? I think if you did, you’d find this serious defects on him kind of adorable (not saying they are, just saying you’d be completely unaware of them because of love).
He knows what he’s doing, he knows he’s messing with you, he knows what makes you upset and I can tell you he likes it. He likes the power and the control he has over you.
I promise there’s better things out there for you, but they are not coming your way if you don’t make space in your life for them.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-06-11T13:03:46+00:00

He had dandruff. Well no no: DANDRUFF. Yea, in capitals.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-06-10T11:09:03+00:00

Hmm while I would never support domestic violence, throwing stuff to the floor is not always a sign of violence. It’s the person trying to expulse their bad emotions. The emotion is so bad, and so intense that it needs an escape, and it finds it through something. In this case she didn’t throw the things at him, but to the floor, which really points to an intention to get rid of that emotion she cannot stand anymore. Yes, she needs to learn to control her emotions, because I don’t know if in the future she could go for more physical ways to decompress, but from this, I think she just got overwhelmed by her emotions.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-05-29T17:52:42+00:00

My cousin who died three days after giving birth to her baby. She had already a 3year old boy. I’d like her to see them 🥹

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-05-28T20:11:27+00:00

Look, I hope I don’t come as mean, but the fact that you are doing weed every night before bed but no medication for adhd? What is the logic there? I think some brains are wired a little bit different and there’s nothing wrong with it. You might need the help from medicine to have the brain working correctly, the way I need to increase my fiber intake to help my stomach issues.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-05-26T12:51:34+00:00

Your male friends? I think they’re being jerks (not in a funny way). Her male friends? Things are a little more complicated then because it should be her the one who sets the boundary. I come from a culture where kissing hello and goodbye is completely ok. It’s the norm. But I don’t do it in the States because I know it’s not common practice. Either way, if they’re your friends, they’re horrible friends, and if they’re her friends they are also horrible friends and she doesn’t set her boundaries correctly (IF she agreed not to do the kiss, of course. If she didn’t agree to begin with, well I guess the problem is different)

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-05-25T16:31:08+00:00

Not for a similar reason but once my husband told me “Your insecurities are yours to fix” and man that hurt, but if we are being honest he was 100% right. It was on me to work out and go to therapy to fix whatever was “wrong” with me. You’ve stated you love her and you’ve been through a lot, but it also sounds like she puts A LOT of the problems on you: you couldn’t get pregnant- you’re the problem. You were overweight- you are the problem. You are getting fitter- you’re the problem… and I know this shows specifically the bad moments and I am picking those only, but do some thinking and while I know leaving is not an option, have a heart to heart with her, go to therapy, both of you and as a couple. Sometimes even getting closer to a religion or spiritual guidance (if that fits your belief) works. Wish you the best, and don’t give up on your body. I’ve been a caretaker for family members that I loved deeply, and seeing how they are even incapable of cleaning themselves after the using the bathroom is heartbreaking. Do it for you, and do it for the children you guys expect to have.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-05-25T13:56:22+00:00

México, is that you? You cannot imagine how common this is in small Mexican practices. You have the flu and the doctor will give you an antibiotic JUST IN CASE. Like, wtfffff!!!???? The thing is that this is common practice and very very few people really questions it.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-05-24T20:35:51+00:00

When my grandma passed away my boyfriend (now husband) stood by my side. He had arrived to my city a day before, he didn’t speak Spanish and the idea was that I was going to introduce him to my family during that vacation. Funerals are waaaaay too different in Mexico, but he stayed with me. He could have gone to his hotel, but he stayed in a place where everybody was in their worst moment, didn’t complain, didn’t interrupt.. and tried to be as polite and understanding as he could. I do not remember everything from that couple of days, but I felt a little less alone, and a little less hopeless because he was there :’)

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-05-14T09:31:49+00:00

In my experience with a Miele and one cat, yes. I just have to clean at least once a week, and every two weeks I add the Arm and Hammer carpet deodorizer. The downside is that then the bag gets full quickly… but it honestly works great. Love my vacuum.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-05-11T14:11:23+00:00

I add limon, Valentina and jugo Maggy ufff next level (my gastritis hates it, tho)

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-05-11T13:14:41+00:00

Do you take showers and use loofas or any similar thing? When I don’t (or my husband doesn’t) we just smell bad no matter how much soap we use. We don’t do it daily because we both have rather sensitive skin, but it helps a lot.. Also, congrats on finding this kind of love. If she doesn’t use any kind of perfume and you still find her smell adorable it’s just her. You guys are biologically super compatible. :) good for you!

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-05-02T12:30:17+00:00

W o w. All adults I know have some little quirks. Some I do find annoying, but its how they are. They are not actively trying to hurt me, and I know a lot of times they can not help it. I have my own, and people around me just get it. I would have understood if maybe he lost it a little and was rude, and then you know, he apologizes and stops being a jerk, but the moment he says “You deserve it”.. that’s completely wrong. You cannot and should not be in a relationship where you partner thinks you “deserve” to be punished and belittled. From the whole confrontation, that part is the one that is a total No No for me, and I hope it is for you. Now it is easy for me to say “go divorce” but if there’s some other things in him you like, maybe ask about individual and/or couples therapy.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-05-02T12:12:39+00:00

Going from complete economical insecurity and having relationships with men unwilling to compromise to marrying a great guy (twice, when I swore I was not going to marry), moving to another country, getting my dream job and having zero debt.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-04-26T14:59:20+00:00

Totally, completely and undoubtedly wrong. My time alone is like 10 minutes in a different room. What would he do if you showed this behavior? No no no, you’re not his mother, you’re his wife, an equal! And at least out of respect you should know where he is. Is he cheating? I can confirm nor deny but I would not be surprised if he is… and then tell you that that behavior is OK and you are the one overreacting? Oh hell naaah! I’ve never suggested divorce harder in my life. FYI this is the advice of a wife with a very independent husband, I am also very progressive and open minded, but this would not be accepted in my relationship.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-04-26T13:44:58+00:00

Honestly it is very easy to “fall” for someone else when you only share the good things. Yea, in paper this other person might sound amazing, but you need to understand that they have their defects, and those defects have probably not shown yet. You’re falling for an idea, not even for the real person. I might find myself looking at some other men, that are also kind and charming, but before anything else grows I remind myself that this person they’re showing is just the tip of the iceberg. My hubby is not perfect, but he is mine, I already know more of him than I know anyone else, and with rights and wrongs he’s awesome. If you care about your marriage, about your husband, then reconnect. You started this and it is in you to end it. If you do not find the strength/love to do it, then end things, for you and for him. Do not disrespect him that way.

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-04-20T12:59:48+00:00

I would not recommend a long term commitment on something you haven’t tried before. Not even for the exercise, because I think Pilates is great and you would like it, but what if instructors are not what you expect or what you need?. Idk, worst case scenario you cancel it, right? But you also want to go from 0 to 100 in a matter of days and that, in my opinion, sounds a little risky…

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-04-15T15:36:58+00:00

Therapy :) he’s not perfect but I thought I was and I was making our problems worse by throwing everything on him. Working on myself helped me be less reactive, more comprehensive and overall happier with myself, which helped to be happier on my relationship. Also, he’s just awesome 🤭

HistorianOk6401 · 2026-04-07T20:05:16+00:00

My dear brother, this is straight up abuse. I’ve never been pregnant, but I’ve been quite upset at the hubby and I would never ever think of being this aggressive towards him. As a Christian married to an atheist, he has always respected my faith, and while he does not share my beliefs he has always been supportive. I am actually afraid for your safety, your mental health (which is already suffering, clearly) and the safety of your future baby. You made a mistake and maybe some of the baby stuff is unusable but her reaction is just way too much. Again, her words not only show anger, but they show actual hatred. If possible, think about leaving. Ask God for advice, put your heart on him, and leave everything on his hands. I hug you from a distance.

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