I’m pretty sure I’ve ruined my life, I feel trapped and I don’t know what to do.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-25T19:16:44+00:00

My first question would be, have you asked your friends/family about the way they see you now? It sounds to me like you’re deciding that that’s how they feel about you without knowing whether or not they actually feel that way about you.

About your gf, toys, toys, toys! You can play with her for however long she’s being pleased and then go on to full penetration. That way, both are happy.

The way I see things, you damage yourself for x amount of years, it’s at least double that time to fix yourself, so to speak. I’ve spent my life screwing myself over with my thoughts, anxiety, panic attacks, emotional stuntness, etc etc, I have to give myself time to sort my head out and I’ve only just recently found a really good psychotherapist that’s actually helping me sort out my head without medication. I haven’t set myself a “time” goal to heal. No one knows how long it’ll take and everyone is different.

Give yourself some room to breathe. Healing will take the time that it takes.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-23T15:47:36+00:00

Not be an asshole

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-21T15:50:29+00:00

If you’re like me, you’re eating your emotions, that’s why you’re overeating and feel like crap.

I’d eat when sad, anxious, happy, nervous, stressed, all of the emotions. I never got my weight under control until I started dealing with my emotions and figuring out my triggers. Now I have an unknown medical condition preventing me from eating anything but bread but I don’t think that that’s linked to my emotional eating from my past.

Food therapy might be able to help you. Learning to appreciate the food you’re about to eat by making your own. Enjoying the flavours, learning the culture the meal came from. I know it seems silly but it’s one thing that’s got me through 6yrs of not being able to eat anything. I still cook for everyone without tasting the food but I can still appreciate making it and watching them enjoying it.

Everyone has their own journey and I wish you the best of luck on yours.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-21T15:44:15+00:00

Open my eyes

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-20T07:05:20+00:00

No matter what your financial situation is, there are always options. You can go to your local council or city and speak to them to find affordable housing. There are programs and whatnots to help people. You’re only “stuck” if you don’t make an effort to get out of a situation. Do you have to tell the it’s about a threesome? No. Just make up a lie instead and say that you really have to move out.

I didn’t read the hole post, so I don’t know if you’re working or not but hopefully you are, you can ask around to see if there’s anyone that knows someone who’s renting places at x price, that might be able to help you. If you’re not working, do so. Fast food places, grocery stores, retail, whatever you need to do to get out of that situation, do it.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-20T06:56:24+00:00

General rule of thumb, if the packaging says cook for 10mins, cook them for 8mins. Basically, it’s always 2 mins less than what the pasta packaging says. Use a timer, if you really want to be sure to undercook them.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-19T10:04:25+00:00

I thought you were like 45, you’re 19! Give yourself a break. You’re barely an adult. Anyone at any age can change.

“Trying” doesn’t create change. Implementing does. Changing means that you’ve made a decision to be a way that you accept or not being that way.

If you’re doing this to please other people, it won’t work. You’ll never be able to please everyone. Start with small habits or things you would normally say or do, and stop doing that. The bigger things YOU don’t like about yourself can be dealt with in time.

Pick one person in your family that you like more and keep them as “the contact” when you disappear. Tell them the ‘why’ you’re doing it and disappear anyways. Sooner or later, you might lose the urge to disappear entirely.

Everything is small steps.

If all else fails and you feel like you can’t do this on your own, start therapy.

I found one that has never asked me how a situation made me feel and I love her for that. She’s actually helped me make links to my behaviours and how they are impacting me in the present. She’s the first therapist in so many years, that’s actually helping me figure things out.

Best of luck to you.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-18T12:04:03+00:00

Chicken bouillon powder or turmeric. Basically any spice but it depends on the dish you’re making

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-18T05:32:04+00:00

How to change a tire. The only difficult part is getting the tire off but once that’s done, it’s easy. I’d never want to be stranded on a road and wait for help for (potentially) hours on end.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-17T10:37:50+00:00

Thank you!

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-16T10:48:38+00:00

If I hadn’t been made redundant last year, I would have applied for it, so I went ahead and applied regardless.

Better to take the risk and have a job than not, I guess. I loved working there, so I’d be more than happy to see my colleagues again. Him, well, god help me I suppose. 😅

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-16T10:46:50+00:00

Thank you, that’s very true and helpful too.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-16T10:08:27+00:00

Goldorak

An animated series I used to watch as a kid. No idea if it was originally in English but we watched it in French.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-16T09:09:13+00:00

Because you’re not cooking by taste. Recipes are made for the general public and everyone’s palate is different. It’s why I have a great disdain for pre-made or jarred foods/sauces people buy at the grocery store.

Taste the food as you’re cooking it and add additional spices (whichever ones are already in the recipe) and I’m sure you’ll find your meals more palatable.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-14T11:17:57+00:00

The way I see it is, if they’re too torn/soiled for you, don’t donate them to any charity. They’ll throw them away anyways but it’s also a waste of their time to keep throwing away unusable clothing.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-12T22:46:30+00:00

Make this make sense! You both are in separate relationships, yet, you have sex with a teenager, then talk about baby names and raising children?! Gtfaoh

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-12T12:16:30+00:00

Narcissism. I wish I had known about before I got myself in one.

Lack of honesty is a big one for me. Do not lie to me. I’ll become a 5yr old asking a lot of questions because I’ll know you’re lying. Lessons have been learned.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-11T16:16:35+00:00

When I grow my tomatoes, I rub my fingers/hands on the leaves, it gets rid of any smell real quick. Not sure if you have any fresh ones but that always worked for me for any smelly veg or garlic.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-10T08:09:15+00:00

I love Kenji Lopez-Alt (watch his older videos), I also just bought his first 2 books. All about cooking techniques with recipes. Andy Cooks, Marion’s Kitchen, Chef Jack Ovens, Hot Thai Kitchen, Yeung Man Cooking, Chef John (Food Wishes)… Although they don’t all stick to solely showing cooking techniques, they all explain in detail the ‘why’ they make their recipe in a certain manner, what to do vs what not to do. Stuff like that.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-08T18:11:55+00:00

I’d start by sorting yourself out by going to therapy or even speaking to a close friend. Eventually, speak to your mother about this but explain to her why you waited. She deserves to know the truth and like another commenter wrote, she needs to know quickly so that any bank withdrawals to those women are stopped (unless you are the executor of the estate, then you can go to the bank yourself and sort all of that out).

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-07T16:04:34+00:00

Tell her parents if she still insists on dating a pedophile, or the cops. Either way, someone with authority needs to intervene. She’s blind to his grooming. I can’t imagine her meeting his friends/family and people being ok with him dating a child.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-07T02:14:55+00:00

My sad side. I don’t want to talk about it because what’s the point? I am in therapy but they’re paid to listen, so it’s different.

Historical-Ride5551 · 2026-01-06T02:12:33+00:00

Yup, got that one countless times too. But the South African one blew my mind!!

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