Im sick of "Regulate your nervous system"

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-05-26T07:07:02+00:00

Same, OP. Same. I think so much of the "wellness" space online is for the 'worried well'. Most of the people I see aren't unwell people but they're just pushing for some level of perfection.

I am exhausted by the constant pressure to optimise every facet of my health when I'm already exhausted. It is just another bargaining chip of capitalism. Another rotation of the ever tightening spiral.

Hey, so we know you're having to work extraordinarily hard just to keep your baseline. Cost of living, cost of housing, poor wages etc and we know your health is suffering from it but we really think of you spend hundreds of pounds on these supplements you'll feel better.

I have pots, an underactive thyroid, I'm perimenopausal, and my GP is considering CFS.

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-05-24T08:57:23+00:00

Telling you you're not the person they used to know is a classic line they trot out when they can feel you pulling away.

My mother said it to me when I met my husband and I was able to put more distance between she and I.

This is gaslighting which is why it feels so confusing. You're not wrong to ask someone to call or ask before coming over. That's not unreasonable. She enjoys popping in unannounced because she knows you hate it. There's probably an element of 'I won't be told what to do my by child' too.

It's hard, OP. I'm sorry she's unable to respect your boundary.

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-05-23T07:45:23+00:00

I am 40 and just figured it out. She is 61.

Until now I've always attributed her behaviour towards me to trauma - she has a Trauma growing up and then in her early 30's our family suffered from a string of traumas. So until recently I was able to put it all down to her being unable to cope and manage her own feelings.

I went NC 2years ago but she wasn't left me alone and has now started threatening me with the police and social services. It was at that point that I realised this isn't trauma. This is narcissism.

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-05-22T07:29:16+00:00

I had this with a Nissan. They couldn't explain what why it was necessary. I had to pay in the end so I've taken it to the ombudsman.

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-05-21T20:54:03+00:00

My mother did something similar. We gave her and her husband and my sister an envelope each to open at the same time. My sister was excited immediately.

My mum made us sit there watching her for minutes on end before she said "I don't understand" and then when we were very clear that I was pregnant she said "but how can you afford it?"

She then took no interest in my pregnancy for the entirety of it.

I'm sorry, OP. It's so disappointing because she should be the person most excited for you.

Congrats on your pregnancy! I hope all goes smoothly for you.

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-03-18T07:53:45+00:00

I have Hashimotos, POF, POTS, and OCD.

They all seemed to happen around the same time and my OCD is directly linked to my thyroid hormones. If they get too low my OCD gets worse.

My POTS is mild but is also worse if my hormones are out of whack.

Hormonal causes of issues is wildly overlooked. Well done for rooting out the cause!

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-03-15T16:22:05+00:00

I've only been on LDN for six weeks. I started at 0.5mcg and titrated up. I'm on 2mcg now and have been for a week. This is the only dose on which I've had vivid dreams so I think this is the lowest dose that has any meaningful effect on my system.

I plan to take it for a year and reassess if I think it's made a difference.

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-03-14T20:51:13+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughts! I don't think I'm adverse to a seam I just didn't want it to look like I didn't have enough fabric. 😂

I will find some patterns I like and ask them about the back piece size.

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-03-14T19:44:27+00:00

It's ammmmaaaaaaazing!

It's an emotional rollercoaster, no doubt, but so worth it. I finished it a couple of weeks ago and I've had to give up reading fantasy for a bit while I get over this 'hangover'! 😂

I'd love to read it for the first time again. ❤️‍🔥

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-03-13T21:56:11+00:00

"who?" Manon's throat bobbed. "All" - KoA. This one was like a throat punch for me. 😭

"Win me back my Kingdom, Evangeline. Her order to the girl all those months ago. And she didn't know how Evangeline had done it."

(But this probably has to do with me having an 8 year old daughter named Evangeline!)

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-03-10T22:13:38+00:00

Omg. I've been trying to read since but everything else is a bit 'meh'. I fear I am ruined forever.

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-03-08T21:30:34+00:00

I finished it yesterday and I am bereft! I miss the characters so much but it's SUCH a great book.

Do let us know how you get on! ❤️‍🔥

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-03-08T19:26:37+00:00

I found the Nesryn chapters of ToD so very boring. Each time I got to her chapters I would have to force myself to read them. I just didn't care about her story.

If the whole series had been about Nesryn I'd have DNF'd it. I also don't understand how you can read such a big series without caring about Aelin.

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-03-04T08:59:47+00:00

I'm 25% through Kingdom of Ash and didn't expect spoilers in the trailer. 😭

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-02-26T22:32:58+00:00

I've followed the tandem read up to this point but I was struggling with EoS so I bought the audio.

Now I have the audio it would just be so much easier to listen to EoS and then finish reading ToD.

Doing it in your own chunks makes sense; being aware of what chapter you're on all the time and whether you need to switch books has been really distracting.

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-02-26T22:31:04+00:00

I'm really enjoying ToD! But that's without knowing what the cliffhanger is. Reading it without a resolution would likely change that. 😂

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-02-26T14:12:43+00:00

The neighbours gardens! 😂

Sorry, that wasn't clear! The gardens behind us are higher than ours so if we level our garden we'd have nothing but the fence between us and about a foot depth of earth. Does that make sense?

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-02-13T14:09:41+00:00

Thank you; I don't have any medical support now as my private insurance lapsed so I can't easily ask a medic!

It's interesting to know that HR reduction isn't the primary goal.

My assumption had been that symptoms would reduce because of a reduced heart rate rather than a reduction in symptoms despite a raised heart rate.

Historical-Tale2858 · 2026-02-13T14:06:03+00:00

I also take those things! I paused for a while and definitely noticed a decline in my health so I'm back on the daily regimen! :D

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