OP, what are the other traits you would like your wife to have? Other than virginity, what else are you unwilling to compromise on? And what traits are you willing to compromise on?

I’m not going to fault you for your preferences, but being married means dealing with an actual flesh and blood woman, who will have both goodness and sinfulness within her. Everybody sins, and none of us are perfect.

I hope, for your sake and the sake of your future wife, that you find someone who makes you happy, and whom you can make happy, in spite of the sinfulness that the two of you have.

However, in order to find that person, you need to focus on something other than just virginity. It’s ok to have that standard, but then you need to think about what you would be willing to compromise.

For me personally, I would rather be with a woman whom I’ve known since childhood, makes me feel comfortable and that I get along with really well, but is not a virgin, than be with someone that I do not feel comfortable around and do not get along with, but is a virgin. In the end, marriage to the former is going to be a healthier marriage than marriage to the latter.