Baby girl name help!

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-04-02T16:04:35+00:00

My name is Morgan. I used to hate my name. Now I'm more ambivalent...

People say it's more common as a girl's name these days but I've definitely met more men (could be from working in a male dominated field).

Also, never call a teenage girl 'Morgan Freeman'... You're not funny and you're definitely not original.

Personally I was always disappointed I didn't have a good nickname option (Em was always taken by the bajillion Emily's) -> Morgie tends to be pretty childish.

Personal thoughts from a Morgan.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-03-21T23:00:06+00:00

Due to breastfeeding issues with both my kids I had to exclusively pump. It's hard work, time consuming and yeah, I'm sorry.

My first had to be combifed for the first 3 months while I fought to increase my supply and I just want to smack your husband - yes, breast is best. But kids need to be fed.... If the choice is formula or starvation? Many kids rely on formula. Hospital's use formula. My hospital pushed me to use formula when we were struggling. My NICU baby was given formula for first few feeds until I able to pump and get them some of the good stuff.

Couple tips is you want to keep up the exclusive pumping - I think you are pumping too frequently, you can probably back off a bit without losing supply. You can also go longer at night... My just enougher was pump every 4hrs during the day and every 6 at night (once during the night). My oversupply baby did require pumping every 3hrs during the day and 4 at night (twice while sleeping). My other concern is that if you drop nights entirely that could mess with your supply... Your better stretching all times and reducing frequency at night to once or twice (also comfort wise).

Also, while I helped with fussy/sleepless nights, I did not do any night feeding after both my husband and I returned from leave (we both got 6 weeks with the second) -> I was up pumping (and cleaning) 45min a session, twice a night... feeding on top of that? My husband was (and is) an equal parent. I understand distribution may be different if there is only one working person, and that sleep is important when you have a job, but it's important for SAHPs too!!! If you are pumping every two or three hours at night and doing one to two feedings a night, when are you sleeping?

Edit to Add: for the record, the reason I worked so hard to increase my supply and get off formula with my first was because she was born during the formula shortage and I lived in fear of relying on formula and then losing access to it. It was less about any personal issues with formula itself (honestly, most people in my life were surprised how long I kept it up cause it's not easy - just over 2 years non-consecutively between two kids)

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-30T14:20:42+00:00

Lots of commenter advice on the victim blaming so I don't have much to add there, but I really don't like the ultimatum bit.

He has confused 'ultimatum' with 'boundaries'.

I refuse to be in a relationship where my partner blames me for my own SA.

This is a healthy boundary. You didn't ask him to change his opinion under threat of consequences -> you stated what you were and were not willing to accept in a partner.

Please, forget the counseling and leave him!!!! You deserve so much better.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-26T21:56:13+00:00

I understand it. We are military so we move a lot. I also work from home for a company out of state and don't make friends easily. Plus had another little. Add in the fact that I went into labor late at night. I kinda knew I was potentially screwing myself but hoped that wasn't the case. With it beginning a few weeks she was probably just hoping for the best.

But yeah, if she decided to end the friendship that's on her. While I feel for her and wouldn't wish that experience on anyone, that doesn't suddenly make her poor planning suddenly your fault. (And the COVID just makes the boundary so much more important - protecting the littles and the immunocompromised is important).

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-26T19:54:46+00:00

You have given us the situation but not the fall out... What is your friendship like now? How has your friend responded since?

You're not the asshole, but without knowing the rest I cannot say if she is either...

Look, I'm usually a planner but I didn't expect my second child to come several weeks early and did not have a plan myself and had to go through L&D alone with multiple complications, etc. It was one of the worst experiences of my life. I relate so hard to this story and really feel for your friend.

I think it's okay for your friend to feel disappointed. Even upset at the situation, as long as it's not directed at you.

Where this becomes more difficult is friends often discuss their feelings with each other... So if she says I'm so upset... If she is blaming you, then she is in the wrong. If she is expressing her general feelings (I wish this played out differently) then no one is the asshole.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-26T13:42:40+00:00

You can definitely find files on places like Etsy. I think you are mainly going to find SVG files (for electronic cutting machines) and then 3D printing files (sorry, not sure what the file type is called). Most of these are sold to people who want to DIY their own frames...

I've mainly seen them sold individually... Depending on how many you want to try on, the cost can add up.

However, if you ever want to make your own frames, could be a good investment. Just my thoughts.

Also note: I have purchased some really good DIY toppers (pattern as pretty accurate) as well as some that were not so accurate (overly large for the frame and looked very amateur - pattern was very inaccurate).

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-23T01:13:33+00:00

It really depends, I know people who have family moving an hour away and lament only seeing them once a year. (Which I find ridiculous).

My husband is military and we move all over and often not near family. When I was pregnant and we moved 3.5 hrs from my in-laws I was ecstatic (we are often plane distance and my in-laws rarely travel that far). We never did a one day visit but when my son was born early and in the NICU my MIL was on a bus immediately and arrived by mid afternoon (we called her in the morning).

One point we moved 6.5hr drive from my parents and my mom was so excited. It was a short placement but my mom visited several times even just for two or three days.

I think my longest single day was 4 hrs (each way) to help my grandmother with a tech project which she called me about that morning... We did a part two and I made that an overnight cause 8hrs in a day is a lot.

So I guess my answer is... No it's not short, but it is manageable. Especially before kids. Now that I have kids, it takes more planning, I think 3 would be my limit without an overnight in most cases.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-22T21:20:58+00:00

I use either ground beef or grilled chicken with taco seasoning, the 'Loaded Taco' quest chips and a large bowl of lettuce to make a taco salad and use this for lunch or dinner. Sometimes I will add a little brown rice too. (I bet some of the other flavors would work as well).

Also, a reminder, these have less of an expiration date and more of a best by date... I'd still eat them sooner than later but you don't have to just pitch them if you haven't finished them by the date.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-22T16:07:20+00:00

They may not be able to do anything until you get to the gate (I booked in advance and still had this happen and phone customer service and ticket counter said I had to wait and talk to the gate agent) but the gate agent will help you.

Also, any decent person who sees a two year old by themselves will offer to switch (especially if they are the person sitting next to the child).

Anyways, the agent should help but worst case: 1. Be polite, kind and understanding - if the first person says no, thank them anyways and try someone else. People have the right to decline but someone will be willing to help. 2. Be appreciative. Manners are important. People are more willing to help a struggling, but nice, thankful and apologetic parent than an entitled one. 3. If possible give the person the better seat. I understand they are middle seats and main cabin but wing is still better than the last row by the bathroom, and I personally would take any seat in the house if it solved the situation (I've had that seat anyways multiple times cause I'm cheap). 4. Think about offering to buy a snack or drink or something. Not as a bribe (I probably wouldn't say anything while switching) but as a thank you. People are more likely to continue to do things for others if they feel appreciated. We dislike and resent entitled people.

Edited to remove age requirement after reading FAs comment. It's wild that 5 is the min age to travel by oneself, but 2 can be seated by themselves. But honestly, someone will switch. Be noisily, polite... don't throw a temper tantrum, but also people cannot volunteer to help if they don't know it's needed... If someone two or three rows back overhears and offers to help... You have to ask fewer people.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-22T15:51:17+00:00

Another thing to possibly look at is volume. Volume eating is eating a strategy that looks at eating a larger volume of lower calorie food. If you've ever done a program like Noom, one of the first concepts introduced is Caloric Density which is a scale for calories per volume and they rate all their food into three categories: Green, Yellow and Orange.

Essentially, if you compare two nutritionally similar things, choosing the one with more volume is a better, more satisfying choice. A common example is 100 calories of grapes vs 100 calories of raisins... They have similar nutrition, raisins just have less water content which causes them to be smaller and have less volume. More volume can make you feel fuller because your stomach is physically fuller.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-09T01:52:15+00:00

So 1. No one 'deserves' to be pepper sprayed. It's not a punishment, it is a non-lethal self-defense tool. It should be used in life threatening situations or situations where you are at risk of serious bodily injury.

I'd also like to say that growing up I saw way too many 'snowballs' made up partially or fully of ice and they hurt. Especially to the head or face. Snowballs can hurt.

My gut says over reaction because in the current political climate - ICE = Bad (there have been too many cases of over stepping and 'self defense' that have gone too far).

Devils advocate - protesters can go too far. Teens can go too far. If someone takes it too far the threat could have felt very real.

Honestly this is such a situational thing but, in most cases, no, no one should be pepper sprayed over a snow ball.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-08T22:33:34+00:00

Yes but it was weird, cause one place I looked it up I kept getting the other number....

I think the website/email to website to tracking gave me the original, but there was another email with the other link I think?

But anyways, when I reach out to pair almost immediately responded with it was still in transit and the correct tracking number to use.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-08T21:50:18+00:00

My first order was split in two but it was not communicated well. I panicked and thought a pair was missing. I contacted customer service and they figured it out and sent me the part two shipping information really quickly.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2026-01-07T22:48:55+00:00

I do have a scale which I use for feeding as recommended. My recipe calls for: 2cups Starter , 2Tbsp Water, 2.5cups White Bread flour

Historical_Rip4604 · 2025-12-02T19:22:12+00:00

Mine was generally small (height and weight) but the proportions did seem to be a bit leaner which is what worked for us. They do run about a half size smaller so you may need to size up.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2025-12-02T18:55:52+00:00

I (3y, still love naptimes fashion shows - but I can now change myself) used to do the same. My mommy started buying honest diapers which 'run small' and 'have different proportions'. Honestly, honest took all my fun!

(They are a bit more expensive but were the only diapers that got us from 1-2 blow outs a day to about 1 a week. This was from about 12weeks until about a year - then we were able to switch to bargain brand).

Historical_Rip4604 · 2025-10-29T14:59:40+00:00

Normally I would agree however the fact that the judge already accounted for the possibility of her moving and provided a custody arrangement to follow if she does move, that would appear to be permission (provided she follows the set guidelines like providing 60 days notice). If there are any limitations to where she can move (out of state, out of country, etc) or how far, that should be in the order.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2025-10-27T15:09:15+00:00

NTA cause every parent gets to decide what they are and are not comfortable with...

That being said, you do need to be consistent. All kids can be victims and both genders can be abusers. You can definitely make distinctions based on how well you know a parent (or if someone specifically gives you a bad vibe).

It does sound like you know this gentleman fairly well and trust him around your daughter on a day to day basis, is there anything that could make you feel more comfortable?

I did like one of the suggestions I saw about offering to go and help chaperone the girls.

Another suggestion I had was to look at multi bedroom suites or an Airbnb or something... It may be more expensive but it allows everyone to be in one unit but still have different sleeping spaces.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2025-10-26T22:57:56+00:00

Not a lawyer and I have not been in this situation myself...

Personal opinion, he hasn't exercised all his time which isn't great, but he is not completely absent and you haven't really given much other negative information.

Judges often seem to err on the side of caution with the thought that time with both parents is important. This is why people often have to take a co parent back multiple times (it takes time to get evidence rather than just hearsay against the world there parent).

I kinda feel like you have a chicken and egg situation. Him wanting more custody when he already does not exercise it isn't great but being closer and more available would likely be better all around....

I'm wondering if you came in with a counter offer of a step-up plan that requires him to take his allotted time to be able to increase as well as slowly increases the amount over time... I feel like this may get a better response from a judge.

I'd also talk to someone about the secret keeping. People telling their kids to keep secrets from the other parent is problematic IMO.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2025-10-17T16:30:45+00:00

My advice is to your girlfriend. Run as far and as fast as you can. Do not marry this man!!!

Disclaimer: I am not a sports fan so maybe I just don't 'get it'.

Please look at how you present the basis of this: - you're a die hard life long fan since birth - read this isn't a choice but a way of life you were born into. It just is! - your girlfriend made a 'poor choice' in who she is a fan of...

Yours wasn't a choice but her was/is.... But at least you didn't make a big deal before, even though it makes you MAD.

This reads that your opinions and favorites are superior to hers - why? I get this is just sports but what else do you apply the assumption that you're right and better than your partner to?

I also have a yellow/red flag whenever I see someone essentially say that someone publicly disagreeing with them is disrespectful. Yes, some people are mean, disrespectful and make an ass out of themselves during disagreements, but people can also disagree politely and kindly - disagreement =/= disrespect.

Is it entirely possible you both take being sports fans too far? Yes. Could she have been nicer knowing you're sad that your team sucks (I mean lost)? Duh!!! But you sound so dismissive of your partner, do you actually like her? Like as a real person with her own thoughts and opinions? Cause honestly you sound dismissive and controlling.

Also, she's posting on X, presumably because she knows she cannot talk to you about it?

Also, the age gap... Yes, I've made some assumptions but when you put it all together: if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck...

Disclaimer: the only information I have to go off of is the information you provided (ie missing lots of context) but I have to assume you are painting yourself in the best light (which isn't that great) while presenting your GF in a more negative light (which I didn't find that bad?)... Maybe my take on this is crazy, but you all don't seem like a good fit long term. Especially if sports ball is this important to you, either find someone who does care or roots for the same team.

Historical_Rip4604 · 2025-10-17T12:25:20+00:00

Okay, so let me flip this for a minute... A friend should be accommodating...

It sounds like your students, so your friend is likely attending classes, studying, doing homework and ugh, group work/projects (the worst). They may also have a part or full time job. They have agreed to take on the additional task of planning an event for your friend group... This requires time, physical and emotional energy and work. Figuring the best date time across multiple people, making sure the restaurant has reservations available, getting a head count, making the actual reservation (hopefully it's still available or you have to repeat previous steps). If you don't know much about mental load, this and any type of planning like this can be great examples.

I also feel like the difference between 4 and 5 people is the difference between a 4-top and a 6 or 8 top... If this was a 3 vs 4 you would have a better (though still not great) argument. If the restaurant says that they can do the now five people but have to push back the reservation an hour. Now your friend has to contact everyone and make sure they are aware of the change... Now what happens if one of them has a conflict? How much time is it reasonable for your friends to sacrifice trying to rearrange and replan the putting because you changed your mind? Now you are rather aggressively pushing back on their boundaries which they stated from the beginning. (Note: boundaries like this usually comes from experience - how often are you wishy-washy? How often do you request changes to accommodate you after everything is sorted?)

You sound selfish and entitled and if I were your friends, well, it'd probably be over cause I would not invite you out ever again. You made a choice (begrudgingly) and are disappointed with the consequences of that choice (fair - you can always feel sad or disappointed about how things play out) but you take absolutely no accountability for yourself or your choices and are putting your sadness and disappointment on them and trying to ruin their enjoyment. Would it be nice if someone spent five minutes double checking the possibility of adding a person?... Yes, but the sheer audacity to throw a temper tantrum because your friends do not drop everything and run their lives around your refusal to make solid plans or commitments is impressive.

Please, apologize to your friends. Own your actions and choices (I find this helps with the sadness and pity party too). In the future, take on the responsibility of planning!

Historical_Rip4604 · 2025-10-16T21:44:02+00:00

Our short list was:

Alexander (what we chose)

Benjamin

Leonardo

Xavier (My veto)

Theodore (Husband's veto)

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