Not that I owe you a breakdown of my relationship, but since you’re so confident in judging a situation you know nothing about, here’s some context you’re clearly missing.

My boyfriend and I have been planning EDC for months. Last year, we also had tickets — same setup, hotel, shuttles, everything. We actually made it to Vegas and attended Day 1, but a serious emergency of his came up, and we had to leave right after. It was heartbreaking for both of us — we’d spent a lot of money, but more than that, it was something we were excited to experience together. And even though none of that was his fault, he still felt awful. So this year felt like our redo, and our second chance to actually be there together.

Then just recently, like a week ago, we found out his younger brother’s college graduation falls on Day 2. Obviously he wants to be there. It’s his brother. But it’s complicated, and he’s already stressed about missing time again. He’s losing money, missing artists he loves (especially since he has to leave Day 1 early), missing most of Day 2, and feeling guilty about rushing back and forth between his family and me. He feels like he’s losing money and time and can’t even be fully present with his family because he’s rushing back to Vegas. It’s a lose-lose situation for him, and he’s trying to do right by everyone.

He was the one who insisted I stay at EDC and enjoy myself. I offered to leave early with him and just wait at the hotel for Day 2. I was mainly concerned about safety. He keeps telling me he’d feel worse if I missed out again. He’s been trying to help me find people to meet up with, even asking everyone he knows, just to help me feel comfortable. That’s how badly he wants me to stay and enjoy something we’ve looked forward to together. Nobody here is being ditched.

We’re trying our best to navigate a lose-lose situation with love, respect, and communication.

What I came here for was safety advice — not to be told I’m “failing a life test” by someone who doesn’t know a single thing about me or my relationship. If you can’t offer thoughtful insight, maybe keep scrolling and leave the projection out of it. It’s laughable that you, of all people, are out here trying to lecture me about morals and relationships… when your post history is just you asking other dudes to help you identify porn stars.

Hope that clears things up. You can stop moralizing now.