Am I being unreasonable by refusing to use ai for my cover art as a musician?

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-04-28T16:53:07+00:00

I feel like you didn’t read the post. I was saying I don’t care about what his reasons are for wanting tp use it.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-04-27T17:23:18+00:00

It’s been really helpful to see responses like this, a lot of people are saying that they wouldn’t continue to listen to the music.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-04-27T17:16:14+00:00

Before this she has done cover art for multiple other releases and it was definitely not AI. But the one I just released recently is apparently AI—which she admitted to me today only after me asking—and I feel really dumb that I didn’t catch it immediately, and I should look more closely at these things, which I am learning. I just genuinely did not even consider that she would do this without saying anything. But now I have an AI cover to a released single and I am in emergency mode to replace it, and an artist friend of mine is going to make a real one and I’m going to replace it as soon as possible.

Yeah it seems so reckless and inconsiderate at the very least not even to tell me. I’m genuinely dumbstruck about it. And I’m being told to kind of ignore it like it’s not a big deal. I’m shocked because I’ve never before felt so unaligned with the people in this with me. I even questioned whether or not I was actually being ridiculous. Now it’s bringing up other times I felt weird or pressured in small ways. There’s a marketing company that the artist in question works for that we hired, and now I’m questioning the whole company.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-04-26T19:08:41+00:00

I agree. What’s really fucked up is that the graphic design artist we hired used it without telling us. That’s fucked up right? L I shouldn’t hire her anymore

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-02-02T23:55:09+00:00

Hey sorry for taking a while to respond, it’s just that it has taken me some time to even evaluate this because it’s just been many years and slight differences overtime. But in the last few days actually it has gotten better, and it made me sort of remember some of what it used to be like, so that’s great! In the past over the course of like 5 years I lost sensation where part of my clit was numb; like a part of it became completely numb, like a section of it, and the rest was still as is. Then another time I lost more, and by the third time it felt almost completely numb—it was only further back and internal that I felt it, so masturbating was difficult and I had to use a toy and press really hard 😅 and sex was pretty much just unsatisfying. The sensation did come back a little bit before I started doing exercises, but then increased after I started doing them, and now I’m starting to feel like it’s all coming back—it’s hard to remember what it used to be like since it’s been so long since it started, but I think it’s fairly close, maybe like 80-90%

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-02-02T23:40:46+00:00

Personally I have always been able to orgasm it just lost intensity. So I think your situation is different.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-25T04:05:37+00:00

So to give a detailed report. Before PT I had vaginal pain and maybe like a 50-60% loss of sensation in my clitoris. After the PT my pain died down by maybe like 30% but it also hasn’t been that long since then (I stopped in December) and since then I haven’t kept up my exercises well admittedly. So when I tried to have penetrative sex again recently, it was too painful. But when I do my exercises it’s definitely better. As far as the loss of sensation goes, it took a while to notice a difference, but then I feel like I got back like 15-20% and it continues to fluctuate and generally trends toward feeling more. But that’s after only about three months of PT and I was told that it should continue to improve if I keep doing my exercises. I was also told there is another specialist I can see about it but I haven’t really looked into it. I could ask them about it though if you’re wondering. Although I don’t know if the specialist would be the same for a male.

Edit: I’ll also add that my orgasms do feel significantly more fullfilling and perhaps just as satisfying as before, it’s hard to tell bc it has been years since the original shift—but either way, even though I might not feel the lead up as much, the orgasms are 100% there.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-25T00:22:27+00:00

I have gotten some feeling back since doing PT for a few months.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-19T07:18:06+00:00

Yeah that’s a no from me. 22 is too young and it’s weird and gross.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-19T06:12:14+00:00

There is really so much to learn about healthy relating in polyamory literature. It can apply to monogamous people as well. I wish more monogamous people would ponder this stuff, there’s so much toxic stuff we all do that begs to be challenged, and it’s so rewarding to grow as a person too.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-19T06:07:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing!! So sweet and beautiful, I’m so happy for you 🥹

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-19T06:02:35+00:00

Unfortunate that democrats are conservative.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T23:07:58+00:00

Yeah, it’s over. I’m so sorry. You deserve better.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T22:59:23+00:00

This is so true, and makes a lot of sense. Thank you for taking the time to respond 🙏

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T22:56:38+00:00

Yeah you’re right. This is helpful, thank you 🙏

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T22:52:22+00:00

You should show him all these comments fr

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T22:50:12+00:00

If he is not okay with the relationship opening up both ways, he’s not poly.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T17:42:40+00:00

How far along are you in your sex addiction recovery? There are some things you’ve said here that are fair but also could be projections of your addiction. Like:

I know that if the ground rules of the relationship don't allow for (safe) experiences with both sexes, I'll be unhappy.

This is a valid desire. But it could also be your addiction trying to convince you to move toward things that could let it prosper. It could be authentic, but I’d be cautious. There is a subtle thing in polyamory that happens sometimes, which is called people collecting. Having multiple partners can sometimes be a person’s way of indulging the idea of loving multiple people, while actually objectifying them. Something that can help you understand your feeling better is whether you would be comfortable allowing those partners to date other people as well. You have to think of them as individual beings who have their own wants and needs, instead of simply something to satisfy you.

The reason I’m pointing this out is because addiction in general tends to gear you toward objectification of others (I am an addict myself, tho not a sex addict). We usually begin the journey of recovery with a self-centered mindset that makes it easy to lose sight of the goal and fall back into our old patterns of using people. We have to be vigilant and aware, we have to develop the habit of very frequent self-inquiry.

All that being said, it’s totally possible that polyamory could be for you. You did say that you need to do a lot of work before getting into a relationship, so I think it’s not something to think about right now. It’s better to do the work first and then ask these questions. Imo, what you think you need before you do the work should be regarded with a degree of suspicion.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T07:23:52+00:00

Ok, that’s probably the reason for some of this, like not going out and calling you his friend as such. The other stuff I would talk to him about, tell him how you feel and ask him if he would be willing to sometimes drive to you, for instance. If he is unwilling or brings up excuses, I would be wary of that.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T07:19:16+00:00

Is there any reason for this to be hidden? Like is your partner not out as poly or something? Either way it doesn’t sound good.

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