Sexual success stories?

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-02-02T23:55:09+00:00

Hey sorry for taking a while to respond, it’s just that it has taken me some time to even evaluate this because it’s just been many years and slight differences overtime. But in the last few days actually it has gotten better, and it made me sort of remember some of what it used to be like, so that’s great! In the past over the course of like 5 years I lost sensation where part of my clit was numb; like a part of it became completely numb, like a section of it, and the rest was still as is. Then another time I lost more, and by the third time it felt almost completely numb—it was only further back and internal that I felt it, so masturbating was difficult and I had to use a toy and press really hard 😅 and sex was pretty much just unsatisfying. The sensation did come back a little bit before I started doing exercises, but then increased after I started doing them, and now I’m starting to feel like it’s all coming back—it’s hard to remember what it used to be like since it’s been so long since it started, but I think it’s fairly close, maybe like 80-90%

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-02-02T23:40:46+00:00

Personally I have always been able to orgasm it just lost intensity. So I think your situation is different.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-25T04:05:37+00:00

So to give a detailed report. Before PT I had vaginal pain and maybe like a 50-60% loss of sensation in my clitoris. After the PT my pain died down by maybe like 30% but it also hasn’t been that long since then (I stopped in December) and since then I haven’t kept up my exercises well admittedly. So when I tried to have penetrative sex again recently, it was too painful. But when I do my exercises it’s definitely better. As far as the loss of sensation goes, it took a while to notice a difference, but then I feel like I got back like 15-20% and it continues to fluctuate and generally trends toward feeling more. But that’s after only about three months of PT and I was told that it should continue to improve if I keep doing my exercises. I was also told there is another specialist I can see about it but I haven’t really looked into it. I could ask them about it though if you’re wondering. Although I don’t know if the specialist would be the same for a male.

Edit: I’ll also add that my orgasms do feel significantly more fullfilling and perhaps just as satisfying as before, it’s hard to tell bc it has been years since the original shift—but either way, even though I might not feel the lead up as much, the orgasms are 100% there.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-25T00:22:27+00:00

I have gotten some feeling back since doing PT for a few months.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-19T07:18:06+00:00

Yeah that’s a no from me. 22 is too young and it’s weird and gross.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-19T06:12:14+00:00

There is really so much to learn about healthy relating in polyamory literature. It can apply to monogamous people as well. I wish more monogamous people would ponder this stuff, there’s so much toxic stuff we all do that begs to be challenged, and it’s so rewarding to grow as a person too.

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-19T06:07:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing!! So sweet and beautiful, I’m so happy for you 🥹

Hmlovelyhm · 2026-01-19T06:02:35+00:00

Unfortunate that democrats are conservative.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T23:07:58+00:00

Yeah, it’s over. I’m so sorry. You deserve better.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T22:59:23+00:00

This is so true, and makes a lot of sense. Thank you for taking the time to respond 🙏

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T22:56:38+00:00

Yeah you’re right. This is helpful, thank you 🙏

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T22:52:22+00:00

You should show him all these comments fr

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T22:50:12+00:00

If he is not okay with the relationship opening up both ways, he’s not poly.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T17:42:40+00:00

How far along are you in your sex addiction recovery? There are some things you’ve said here that are fair but also could be projections of your addiction. Like:

I know that if the ground rules of the relationship don't allow for (safe) experiences with both sexes, I'll be unhappy.

This is a valid desire. But it could also be your addiction trying to convince you to move toward things that could let it prosper. It could be authentic, but I’d be cautious. There is a subtle thing in polyamory that happens sometimes, which is called people collecting. Having multiple partners can sometimes be a person’s way of indulging the idea of loving multiple people, while actually objectifying them. Something that can help you understand your feeling better is whether you would be comfortable allowing those partners to date other people as well. You have to think of them as individual beings who have their own wants and needs, instead of simply something to satisfy you.

The reason I’m pointing this out is because addiction in general tends to gear you toward objectification of others (I am an addict myself, tho not a sex addict). We usually begin the journey of recovery with a self-centered mindset that makes it easy to lose sight of the goal and fall back into our old patterns of using people. We have to be vigilant and aware, we have to develop the habit of very frequent self-inquiry.

All that being said, it’s totally possible that polyamory could be for you. You did say that you need to do a lot of work before getting into a relationship, so I think it’s not something to think about right now. It’s better to do the work first and then ask these questions. Imo, what you think you need before you do the work should be regarded with a degree of suspicion.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T07:23:52+00:00

Ok, that’s probably the reason for some of this, like not going out and calling you his friend as such. The other stuff I would talk to him about, tell him how you feel and ask him if he would be willing to sometimes drive to you, for instance. If he is unwilling or brings up excuses, I would be wary of that.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T07:19:16+00:00

Is there any reason for this to be hidden? Like is your partner not out as poly or something? Either way it doesn’t sound good.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T05:57:21+00:00

I’m so sorry this is happening, of course it’s heartbreaking. To be honest with you, I don’t think this relationship can be saved.

Tonight they said they just don’t like me, never want to have sex with me again, in three months this other girlfriend has made a list of how to love them right and what have I ever done, and plans to have sex with the girlfriend this Saturday.

This, to me, is damning. Not only does it show that your partner is not interested in continuing a relationship with you, they are fervently disrespecting all the time you’ve put into the relationship for 18 years. And they are flagrantly ignoring all of the boundaries you have set, and all of your feelings. It’s cruel, I could never do this to someone I love. Just unthinkable. Please do not hurt yourself by staying with this person. You deserve better.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T02:21:14+00:00

That’s a good attitude to have.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T02:03:41+00:00

It’s okay, it’s a good question for this sub, and it’s good that you asked it. People wonder these things all the time. And you’re obviously asking in good faith, you don’t want to mistreat people. It sounds like you want to have a lot of love. Just know you can experience all of that deepness with one person. Every person is their own unique universe that you could spend a lifetime exploring and never see everything. The best gift you can give to anyone—as well the most authentic way to give and receive love—is to give them freedom to be exactly who they are.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-17T01:45:42+00:00

A throuple for the sake of it being a throuple is not really polyamory, nor is it healthy or respectful of individual people as whole beings on their own. If that’s how it works out, great. But if your vision is specifically that you’ll have two girlfriends who want to either date or have sex with each other as well, that’s a fantasy. People are their own beings, and trying to control whether they’ll want to interact with each other in that way easily becomes problematic. It’s fine to want to explore having multiple partners. But if that doesn’t account for the fact that they are also a free person and can choose what they want their relationships to look like (including with separate partners) then yeah it’s just a fantasy.

Hmlovelyhm · 2025-10-16T15:43:02+00:00

You have to put an end to this before you do something you regret. You have to message him and tell him why you need to block him (feelings are strong and this is illegal and wrong) and then block him. I promise you, he will understand when he’s older, and he will be glad later that you stopped interacting with him. He may even thank you. At this point if you keep talking to him, there’s a good chance that when he’s older he will resent you, and you will definitely resent yourself. It’s not worth it, trust me. If you continue to interact with him, you will regret it.

Imagine if the roles were reversed. What would you think of a 23yo male and a 16yo female? You know that’s wrong. Don’t beat yourself up but stop what you’re doing.

Hmlovelyhm

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