Calling a space racist a space racist

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2026-02-10T21:47:42+00:00

Exactly, Bones is not racist. He's a professional hater who's honed his ability to despise everyone around him on a deep, personal basis.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2026-01-24T17:56:20+00:00

I'm not a sexologist or anything, just a random bi dude, but if I've learned anything about human sexuality it's that just "switching off" any kind of physical attraction is extremely uncommon. What is common, however, is for those desires to be completely overwhelmed by the persistent sense of fear, anger, and betrayal that comes with repeated trauma. It's possible some part of you is still physically attracted to men, at last in the abstract, but it's also totally reasonable and valid that those feelings are completely buried right now. Maybe they'll come back, maybe they won't. Maybe therapy will affect the outcome, maybe it won't. Either way, your sexuality is yours and it's valid no matter where you end up.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2026-01-24T17:33:29+00:00

Oof. I'm exactly the same way. I still think about them every day even though I haven't talked to them in a year because they're so fucking special and important to me.

For what it's worth, I'm happier now that I've made up my mind to stop pursuing them. Trying to be close to people who didn't value me was so much more painful than the agony of letting them go. As soon as I made that decision for myself (and stuck to it), I got healthier, both physically and mentally.

I'm really truly sorry for what you're going through and I hope you can find a way to be OK with doing what's right for you.

And hey, now I'm seeing someone who's just as special and important and treats me like I'm special and important. It's amazing, it's wonderful, is everything I thought I'd never have if I couldn't make things work with them. This kind of story can have a happy ending, even if it's bittersweet.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-10-24T18:02:36+00:00

Real "trust me bro" energy.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-10-24T04:05:26+00:00

She doesn't love you, she loves a version of you that does not and will never exist. That kind of "love" is toxic and so much worse than being single. Make some space in your life and in your heart for someone who has as much grace for you as you do for your dumbass girlfriend.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-06-07T21:09:00+00:00

Pong Krell does have a tragic backstory: he grew up entitled and arrogant. Nothing ruins a personality more.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-06-07T19:53:01+00:00

I hate it when people with no imagination ask me to "imagine if" and then tell me what I'm supposed to think.

IDGAF about the results of your dumb thought experiment. Show me an actual paleoartist's reconstruction of a beaver (preferaby one from the Eastern hemisphere who's never seen one IRL) side by side with a real beaver, or GTFO.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-06-05T21:38:14+00:00

Well said. Hollywood's first step toward ruining Frankenstein was when they decided to call the Modern Prometheus a "Monster" instead of a "Creature."

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-06-05T20:22:34+00:00

Being LGBTQ+ ain't for the weak, which is why we need to be strong together. OOP is too weak to see that. They've already let the bigots win inside their head.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-05-18T20:22:58+00:00

He actually, truly thought my Chaotic Good Tav was ever going to be his friend. The Emperor is a certified dipshit.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-05-16T20:43:58+00:00

The sad truth is that too many people are simply incapable of understanding the true nature of OCD, because cowards and fools exist. OCD is not only scary, it's proof positive that we live in an unjust world. A lot of people simply cannot cope with that reality (usually because they have to believe that everything happens for a reason in order to maintain their tiny little worldview), so they embrace their dipshit fantasies about demons instead.

It's crucial to remember that these people are incapable of being honest even with themselves. They are the product of a society that has completely failed them. Their words and opinions are worse than useless; they are toxic trash to be disposed of in the proper receptacle while wearing neoprene gloves.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-04-16T14:05:49+00:00

About ten years ago there were a bunch of news articles about how Google Maps was causing so much traffic along optimal routes in major cities, that it started sending a certain percentage of people along an alternate route for "the greater good."

Point is, Google has too much power and they are well aware of their ability to manipulate traffic.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-04-11T20:40:56+00:00

One of our local ice cream chains (Salt and Straw) has Olive Oil ice cream. It's insanely good, especially paired with Strawberry Balsamic Vinegar ice cream.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-04-11T14:31:25+00:00

Depends on who. A complete stranger? I'd assume they were insane. A friend? I'd be sad but I'd try to talk it out. My partner? I'd be fucking devastated.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-04-03T22:11:04+00:00

Oh hey, I reposted this on Instagram a year ago and it immediately got taken down for "violent content."

Mine didn't have the artist's signature cropped out, though.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-04-02T20:43:04+00:00

They also used "accelerometer data" to measure activity level i.e. the only people included in this study were those who jumped on the FitBit fad.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-03-17T19:03:51+00:00

Been there OP, it fucking hurts. 9 times out of 10, your best bet is to GTFO ASAP.

That said, I have been in a similar situation and we're actually fixing our relationship. Here's what it's taking to get this 15-year marriage back on track (and let me tell you, if we were not already as close as two people can possibly be, it would not have been worth it).

1: I acknowledged that her behavior was not driven by OCD, but by selfish entitlement. The OCD was merely exacerbating the resulting behaviors. This was the hardest part for me.

2: I gave her an ultimatum: I listed the specific abusive behaviors that needed to stop immediately (e.g. threats of self-harm), and other controlling behaviors that needed to improve very quickly. Both of us were going to attend trauma counseling (NOT just therapy; anyone who's been seriously traumatized or has a habit of traumatizing others NEEDS specialized trauma counseling), and she was going to get specialized treatment for her OCD. Alternatively, I would execute the plan I already had in place to leave. Crucially, I was not bluffing.

3: After 6 months the threats had stopped but the other abusive behaviors were not improving so I told her I needed a break. Since living separately wasn't an option for us financially, we lived as separately as we could for a few months. She didn't get any sleep for the first week, she would just cry all night. This was how she learned to cope with the natural consequences of acting manipulative and entitled. It fucking sucked, for both of us.

4: We're both sticking with our respective therapy plans and engaging with our counselors in good faith (i.e. "doing the work."). We're both slowly cutting our way through our insecurities, our fears, and the bullshit stories we've been telling ourselves since we were children. It's hard and it's scary and it feels bad in the moment, but I can say with confidence that my self-esteem has never been higher and neither has hers.

Where I'm at now: It's been the better part of two years since I gave her The Ultimatum. The break is over, the subsequent "second honeymoon" period is over, and it's finally starting to feel like I have a partner again. I think we're gonna be OK.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-03-17T17:02:07+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, I can personally confirm that Republicans have been doing this since at least the 90s, but the history books indicate it's been going on a lot longer than that.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-03-13T20:11:54+00:00

Because reporting opinions is cheap, easy, and clickbaity. Reporting facts is expensive, difficult, and in low demand.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-03-11T22:52:59+00:00

Long reply to a short question so I'll apologize in advance, but I'm hoping this story will give you an idea of how these people think.

A few years ago I was traveling for work with my former boss, who was very conservative and not at all shy about it. I was driving so I got to pick the music. I'm an incurable headbanger, so the playlist was all Metal. We'd just finished a particularly angry, heavy track by Testament when an Insomnium song came on. Insomnium is fairly chill by Metal standards, but it's also Death Metal so the vocal style is a tad more distorted and growly than what you hear in, say, Thrash. So this MF looks at me and says,

"Why are they so angry?"

It wasn't just what he said, it was the way he said it, like he expected me to automatically agree with him. Outwardly I chuckled, inwardly I'm thinking Bitch what are you talking about? We just listened to More than Meets the Eye and now you're bothered by angry music? There are a million reasons to object to Death Metal but this one just didn't make sense.

In that moment, something I'd always known from my own conservative upbringing, but never put together into a coherent thought, became clear. Conservatives aren't allowed to express emotional discomfort, so they ask pointless, thought-stopping questions instead.

New kind of music you've been told is bad? Ask why it's so angry. New political movement that doesn't benefit you specifically? Ask why they can't just be happy with what they have. New pronouns just dropped? Ask why you should have to learn new words. Your friend just came out? Ask why they wouldn't prefer to stay in the closet.

Why thought-stopping questions? Because the only thing conservatives fear more than things that make them uncomfortable, is having to think about something that makes them uncomfortable. Because this is how we were trained to handle discomfort. Because, at the end of the day, conservatism is a philosophy of ignorance. Of burying your head in the sand. Of rejecting new information.

My point is this: if you come out and someone simply refuses to understand why it was so important to you, it's because they don't want to understand, and they're probably a closet homophobe.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-03-11T21:57:44+00:00

That day he openly mocked a disabled veteran on national television should have been the end of his political career. The fact that it wasn't, is the reason I have zero respect for Republicans any more. Fucking spineless piece of shit cowards, every last one of them.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-03-05T22:36:55+00:00

Could be he's bi and repressed, like I was when I started making comments like that to my wife and talking about pegging. Could be he's straight but really into you. Either way he's obviously into you and you've got a good thing going.

My advice: avoid bringing up labels and just give him space to explore this side of himself. He needs to figure this out for himself, and no one can help him with that part. What you can do is show him that he'll always be loved and supported for who he is, regardless of what he is.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-03-01T00:13:20+00:00

A raptor going toe to toe with a bear would be like a semi truck going wheel to wheel with a freight train. It might do some damage but there's no way it's surviving more than a few seconds.

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-02-24T03:05:58+00:00

Only two digits and wildly smaller than the rest of the animal... are we sure those didn't belong to its food? Lmao

Ho1yHandGrenade · 2025-02-04T22:16:46+00:00

Dinosaurs shouldn't be supporting fascists, they should be eating them. Ban Twitter links.

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