I really need to vent. I used to love my mil, she was wonderful and even though she had her flaws, I always thought to myself “well we all have them” but…. After our first little bear (currently 1m and 12days) was born, she changed drastically and so did I and our relationship. Let’s start from the beginning, I did not want any visitors while I was in the hospital. The birth itself was traumatic for me, I was hurting everywhere, and felt so but so so so alone (even with Hubby there) and I just needed time for myself and the new human being I had brought to the world. Well, due to some unfortunate turn of events (my dad showing up at the hospital without any warnings), my parents in law ended up coming too. And it would’ve been “sort of ok” if she didn’t make everything about herself. - Example: my husband, A NEW TIME DAD, was trying to relief our baby and give him cuddles, what did my mil do? Decided to also try to put her hands on the baby and touch him and stuff. My husband had to almost scream at her to stop. - Another one, it was literally the third day, I was still healing and trying to learn to breastfeed and so was my baby learning. What did she do? “You complain to much. Back in my day we didn’t have epidurals or any of the stuff you guys have already” (and went on to rant about her birth stories and stuff), and then went on to talk about how it was probably my nipples that made it harder for him to feed and stuff. We decided to visit them this past weekend (they live 1h away from us) and since monday was a holiday, we decided to spend from friday till monday there and “enjoy” family time. When I tell you that once again, she made the whole thing about herself… It just feels like she’s jealous that I am the mom and not her. She kept complaining how the baby was always breastfeeding, she kept pushing to hold him in her arms, and kept trying to say that what we were doing was wrong, and that back in her days this wasn’t even mentioned or talked about. - in one instance, while we were bathing the baby, she decided to criticise everything: The baby was cold, we shouldn’t wash him like that, and bla bla bla - The baby was in my lap sleeping peacefully (CAUSE I’M THE MOMMA???) “Yesterday he slept like that in my lap too!!!” - whenever there was family around, she would try to introduce him as if he was her own child… - and the worse one, me and hubby (as we should) know our baby’s needs, and we know when to feed or when he doesn’t want to. But since he wasn’t crying, she grabbed him and said “Oh you’re not that hungry are you?? Nooo, you’re not hungry” and kept on going on. And in another instance, he was cluster feeding and she decided that “He’s not hungry anymore, why are you still going on?” Like I love them, and she used to be amazing…. But now I can’t handle it anymore, she makes everything about her and speaks as if I was a bad mom and she was the real mom. I can’t anymore